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May He Put You Together

I had a shirt made that says, “The Meds Are Working.” It makes me laugh, and it’s true. When the package came with the shirt, I ripped it open and put the tee on. It fit perfectly. I went upstairs, and as I was walking into our dining room my thirteen-year-old said, “The meds are working?” Oh yeah, I didn’t tell my children I took anti-anxiety medication. So I told my daughter, “I take medication for anxiety, and it’s been working. And I made this shirt so that others wouldn’t feel shame if they...
Tags: Inspiration, Mental Health, Depression, Anxiety, Mental Illness, Medication, Redemption, Encouragement

Anxiety About Therapy

About 5 years ago, I started seeing a therapist weekly to do CBT for my lifelong anxiety. However, my anxiety quickly latched onto the therapy itself. I found myself worrying constantly about what the therapist thought of me and whether I was doing therapy wrong. Going to sessions became a major anxiety-inducing experience, and everything the therapist said felt like criticism. I eventually worked up the courage to talk to the therapist about the issue. She said she understood. We discussed it s...
Tags: Psychology, General, Anxiety, Therapy, Medication related questions, Personality, Phobia, CBT

9 Ways to Free Yourself from Ruminations

Of all my symptoms of depression, stuck thoughts are by far the most painful and debilitating for me. The harder I try to move the needle from the broken record in my brain, the louder the song becomes. Ruminations are like a gaggle of politicians campaigning in your head. Try as you might to detach from their agenda, their slogans are forefront in your mind, ready to thrust you down the rabbit hole of depression. Logic tells you they are full of bull, but that doesn’t keep you from believing wh...
Tags: Psychology, Elsa, Disney, Stress, Personal, Mindfulness, Self-help, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Mental Health And Wellness, Self-worth, Ruminating, Kristin Neff, Group Beyond Blue on Facebook, Abraham Low

What Is He Afraid Of?

The man I’ve been on and off with for almost 6 years has finally admitted to me that “everything is there” in me, but he cannot see a future. He is an honest, good man who has deep fears and avoids intimacy. He doesn’t know what to do when I cry and never talks about his feelings. Our “relationship” has been quite unusual. We never interacted with friends and family, never dated. We were basically friends with benefits who also shared deep and casual discussions with daily interaction. I’ll admi...
Tags: Psychology, General, Marriage, Relationships, Anxiety, Personality, Intimacy, Dating, Fear Of Commitment

How to Combat Gym Anxiety

I used to hate the gym—not because of actual exercise per se, but purely because I was so self-conscious. I was obsessed with the idea that I’d be criticized for my shoddy squat form or brief five minutes on the treadmill—and then exiled from my gym forever, cast off onto the island of exercise pariahs. I hated it…Read more...
Tags: Fitness, Mental Health, Anxiety, Weightlifting, Lifehacks, Gym

Follow Up: My Boyfriend Has A Baby From A Past Girlfriend

On 2009-09-07 someone asked a question with the title “My Boyfriend Has A Baby From A Past Girlfriend” It was answered by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP. I’m in the same predicament (if not worse) and can relate to how she felt. It’s been 9 years since that was posted, and was wondering if there was someway to follow up. How did her life turn out? I keep on wondering how my life will end up if I were to stay in my current relationship. Would I ruin my life? The post you referred to is l...
Tags: Psychology, General, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Parenting & Children, Daniel J Tomasulo

Sexual Abuse?

I have a question for you. I come from a very dysfunctional family. There is a history of alcoholism and sexual deviancy and abuse throughout both sides of my parents’ lineage. My question is this: Do you consider what happened to me to be sexual abuse? My father would sleep with me in bed with him for years. He would put his hands down my pants and hold my bare bottom and put his hands between my thighs (as if to warm them). This is how we would “snuggle up and prepare to go to sleep” every nig...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Childhood Trauma, Alcoholism, Vietnam, Sexual Trauma

I Have the Desire for Something Horrible to Happen to Me

At 14 my life is easy but sometimes I have fantasies of either getting into an accident (or just getting injured to the point of being hospitalized ) or losing everything I have, including the people I love. I have no suicidal thoughts nor have I ever self-harmed, I’m not very confident in myself but I don’t hate myself . The problem is I imagine these scenarios so often and in so much detail that I bring myself tears. I’m worried that these thoughts could become something destructive. Thank you...
Tags: Psychology, England, General, Fantasy, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Suicidal Thoughts, Personality, Violence, Phobia, Suicidal Ideation

Psychology Around the Net: January 12, 2019

Are you ready to learn about simple, no frills self-care tips we can all follow? Why incompetent people have more confidence than you’d think they should? How men and women experience chronic pain differently? Well, good news! This week’s Psychology Around the Net has all that and more. The Free Self-Care You Should Be Doing Right Now: Setting realistic exercise schedules. Tackling one cleaning or organizing project at a time. Getting enough sleep. Extremely basic but extremely helpful self-c...
Tags: Psychology, Books, Women, Memory, Values, Research, Disorders, Stress, Self-help, Confidence, Anxiety, Yoga, Men, Women's Issues, Chronic Pain, Men's Issues

Conflicts in Dating a Single Dad

I am in a situation where I have been the patient understanding partner but am at a point where I am considering leaving the relationship because of the kid. I think first is the issue of discipline. My partner, to me, is very inconsistent in his discipline being simultaneously too harsh and lenient (ex. “I’m going to get my belt if you don’t listen and I am not giving you anything to eat, now come here and give me a hug. Want to watch TV?”). I do not directly address this in disagreement but he...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Personality, Parenting & Children, Dating, Single Parent, Insensitivity, Single Father

I Feel Like I Want Everybody around Me to Feel Bad

I feel like I want everybody around me to feel bad and suffer and I want myself to suffer just because I feel bad about. It happens when I get upset about something, (or I choose to be upset about it). and what really happens is that inside me I get this deep urge to do things that either hurt me or hurt others around me, it’s like I feel spite towards others and towards myself. I don’t know if it is a call for attention or just an ego act, but I feel it a lot lately and at some point, it is bot...
Tags: Psychology, General, Displacement, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Violence, Resentment, Anger, Lebanon, Self Esteem, Projection, Spitefulness

Best Friend Suddenly Hates Me

My best friend and I are extremely close. I have OCD, an eating disorder, depression and anxiety. She has depression and anxiety. About two weeks ago she suddenly stopped talking to me. I apologized profusely for whatever I had done. She then said I hadn’t done anything wrong but that she didn’t like my personality and that I made her uncomfortable. This obviously hurt me and I asked what she was talking about. She proceeded to insult me and has not talked to me since. Every time I try to talk t...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Teenagers, Mental Health, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Friendships, OCD, Adolescence

Why Do I Lack Empathy/Compassion?

I notice that I have a real issue genuinely feeling for others. A coworker tells me she has to go somewhere for her cancer and I fake compassion, but I don’t think I actually care. Another coworker has someone dying in the hospital, all day she complains about being tired, and all I wanna do is tell her that nobody cares about her problems and to shut up. I feel in the workplace that you shouldn’t discuss personal issues and complain so much about them because you’re there for work. When i see a...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Compassion, Empathy, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Personality, Loving Kindness

Feelings Dependent on Responses to Messages

I’ve been having problems lately controlling my patience and emotions over whether or not someone replies to my text messages/emails. All started a few months ago I was catching up with a friend over text. As she had recent success with relationships, while I have been struggling with interpersonal relationships in recent times, I reached out to ask her opinion over what positive qualities she saw in me, as I’ve done with my close friends and family to combat my self-esteem problems, because she...
Tags: Psychology, General, Communication, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Resilience, Social Anxiety, Impatience, Text Messaging, Unstable Relationships, CBT

My Mom and I Constantly Fight

My mom and I are always fighting. She is constantly telling me how to live my life and that any choices I make are wrong. She always constantly puts down my husband and says the nastiest, most vile things about him and I. I try to talk to her about it but it always ends with her and I yelling at each other and her telling me that I am being disrespectful to her. She has told me multiple times that she wishes she had a different daughter when all I ever try to do is compromise with her and try to...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Usa, General, Fighting, Relationships, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Personality, Parenting & Children, Family Therapy, Adolescence, Conflict Resolution, Family Arguments

I Think I Am Pushing My Fiancee Away

I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years and we are engaged. We just moved into a house together a year ago and are planning for a family. Unfortunately, following a few stressful life events, I have lost interest in my partner almost wholly. I want to make one thing clear – I still love him and would do anything to make this work, but have this terrible fear it’s irreversible. When he comes on to me I am repulsed. I feel like I’m frozen, as if my body is unable to make any type of physical conne...
Tags: Psychology, General, Marriage, Sex, Relationships, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Personality, Intimacy, Engagement, Commitment

Immensely Disturbed by Violence in Media

Recently, a friend went on about how much she enjoyed horror films. I’ve always hated them, but found myself unusually disturbed by her enthusiastic interest. It wasn’t that I was scared or found such movies gross, I simply cannot cope with the fact she could gleefully watch people die in horrific ways. This spread beyond the horror genre, to the point I completely stopped watching movies or shows and playing games, or really indulging in anything, that featured violence or death in any way. I u...
Tags: Psychology, Media, Anxiety, Trauma, Violence, Horror Movies

Am I a Narcissist?

I had looked over the characteristics of one on a website before I had even thought about myself potentially being a narcissist because I was and still am very interested in psychology. And as I was reading, I was relating to the symptoms. I am extremely scared of getting criticism, I even tend to avoid social situations to avoid potential rejection of people (some people would even describe me as sensitive), I always think I’m right and people are just not seeing how I am right, I love how I lo...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Anxiety, Teen Issues, Personality, Narcissism, Narcissist

Psychology Around the Net: December 22, 2018

Happy Holidays, sweet readers! Regardless of which holiday you celebrate — or even if you celebrate one at all — you’ve no doubt felt a mix of pleasant and not-so-pleasant emotions this month (why does this read like a horoscope?) — especially if you celebrate Christmas as you now only have a few days to go! Take a look at this week’s Psychology Around the Net to learn more about how to handle the holidays when they aren’t the most wonderful time of the year for you, ways to navigate the season...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Kids, Smoking, Holidays, Children, Obesity, Relationships, Study, Happiness, Christmas, Research, Intelligence, Stress, Depression, Heart Disease

How to Manage Stress and Anxiety Over Holiday Break with the Kids

It’s that time of year again. Your child is anxiously awaiting the arrival of the holiday break. They can’t wait to be home from school, have freedom in their schedule, and are super excited about the upcoming holidays. However, while they are so excited about it, it might be causing you a lot of stress and anxiety. And, their excitement can quickly disappear as they deal with this right alongside of you. Remember that this can be a stressful time for children as well. It’s easy to think th...
Tags: Psychology, Parenting, Children, Stress, Mindfulness, Anxiety, Holiday Stress, Worry, Anxiety And Panic, Children And Teens, Holiday Coping, Don, Christmas break, School holiday

Can the holidays give you a heart attack?

Are some days more prone to adverse events than others? Turns out, holiday heart attacks aren't a myth, shows a new study, and cold weather doesn't explain the spike in disease. Here's what you can do to keep healthy. [Author: Dr. Ayala]
Tags: Health, Wellness, Food, Christmas, Holiday, Stress, Heart Disease, Anxiety, Food And Drink, Party, Calories, Heart Attacks, New Years, Healthy Lifestyle, Ayala, Weight-loss

A guide to making better decisions

Willingness to roll with the punches is an essential component of good mental health. An inability to foresee a range of consequences adversely affects emotional responses. A good contingency plan makes all the differences, argues neuroscience professor Kelly Lambert. None When planning for the future, what degree of certainty do you have in the plans you've mentally constructed? If these plans do not manifest as envisioned, what is your strategy for dealing with an unforeseen reality? Do you re...
Tags: Psychology, Health, Neuroscience, Mindfulness, Depression, Anxiety, Innovation, Derek, Lambert, University of Richmond, Kelly Lambert

Autistic people listen to their hearts to test anti-anxiety therapy

Trial seeks further proof that tuning into our internal organs’ activity can reduce anxiety A pioneering therapy aimed at lowering anxiety by tuning into your own heartbeat is being put to the test in the first clinical trial of its kind.The treatment, known as interoception-directed therapy, is being tested on 120 autistic people, for whom anxiety is a common problem. Continue reading...
Tags: Health, Science, Society, Mental Health, Anxiety, Autism


Agoraphobia, fear of public places and college. Neglected by own father and abundant feeling of worthlessness. Feels threatened by father sometimes and suicide being the only option available. Fear of future enrages my weaknesses and loss of interest in studies and all my previously admired hobbies. (From India) While there wasn’t an actual question in your email it sounds like there are several issues that are impinging on you as you enter college. I appreciate you reaching out and explaining t...
Tags: Psychology, School, Family, India, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Personality, Social Anxiety, Abandonment, Agoraphobia, Worthlessness, Panic Attacks, Suicidal Ideation

The Personality Trait Linked To The Worst Hangovers

Dubbed "hangxiety", it involves a combination of being hungover and very anxious. → Enjoying these psych studies? Support PsyBlog for just $4 per month (includes ad-free experience and more articles). → Explore PsyBlog's ebooks, all written by Dr Jeremy Dean: NEW: Accept Yourself: How to feel a profound sense of warmth and self-compassion The Anxiety Plan: 42 Strategies For Worry, Phobias, OCD and Panic Spark: 17 Steps That Will Boost Your Motivation For Anything Activate: How To Find Joy Again...
Tags: Psychology, Anxiety, Personality, Jeremy Dean

Keep Your Spiritual Practice Strong During Difficult Times

Your spiritual practice is more essential now than ever before. Recently, someone told me she was so riled up about our current political climate that she can’t meditate. She’d grown increasingly irritated, angry, and despondent, and now, after the unspeakable violence in Pittsburgh, the pipe bombs that mercifully failed to go off, and the daily vitriol of the midterm election campaign, she says she is so agitated that she can’t settle down, and she feels so compelled to hear the latest news tha...
Tags: Psychology, Despair, Meditation, Mindfulness, Anxiety, Spirituality, Himalayas, Prayer, Publishers, Pittsburgh, Spirituality & Health, Gandhi, Bhagavad Gita, Krishna, Arjuna, Mahatma Gandhi

How Your Imagination Can Set You Free From Fear (S)

The power of the imagination to beat fear. → Enjoying these psych studies? Support PsyBlog for just $4 per month (includes ad-free experience and more articles). → Explore PsyBlog's ebooks, all written by Dr Jeremy Dean: NEW: Accept Yourself: How to feel a profound sense of warmth and self-compassion The Anxiety Plan: 42 Strategies For Worry, Phobias, OCD and Panic Spark: 17 Steps That Will Boost Your Motivation For Anything Activate: How To Find Joy Again By Changing What You Do
Tags: Psychology, Anxiety, Jeremy Dean, Subscribers-only

Drowning in Toxic Thoughts: A Practice for Mindfulness

Are you stressed and tormented by your thoughts, again? Even when they are benign, the spinning and sheer pace of them affronts your brain’s processing center. And there is no escape from the onslaught. Most of us have been there. Sometimes it’s not so easy to slow things down or even take a full breath between those racing thoughts.  What can you do to calm down and stop the “runaway train”? Sometimes the only option is to temporarily engage in something that grabs your attention. Netf...
Tags: Psychology, Habits, Mindfulness, Anxiety, Netflix, Cinderella, Self-compassion, Breathing Exercise, Memory And Perception, University Of Wisconsin, Levinson, Stromberg, Joseph Stromberg, Authentic Self, Adaptive Self, Toxic thoughts

Fear and Depression

Hi, Doctor, I think I’m continued dive in the depression. I can’t feel very well. When I trying to get rid of my bad thoughts which is continuously coming to my mind –I can’t. When I trying to concentrate on my work I can’t. Every time I think about ” what happened next or what if I can’t do anything in my life.” I literally struggled to live a normal Happy life. I’m now 24 and nothing I’ve to do with my life. When I get up –think to do take a step for my career or anything, I feel fear–; the fe...
Tags: Psychology, School, India, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Courage

Partner Doesn’t Trust Me and Is Disrespectful

I have just ended a relationship last night with a man for similar reasons. I was friends with M for 8yrs and in a relationship for the past 10months. We met on a job in cape town (where he is from) when I was living there and when I moved back to Scotland we stayed in touch regularly throughout the years. After 7 yrs away from cape town I returned Jan this year. We were reunited and that night we got together. But right away it was difficult, verbally abusive in my eyes and I have allowed terri...
Tags: Psychology, Sex, Scotland, Relationships, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Abuse, Dating, Violence, Attachment, Disrespect, Impulsivity, Boundary Issues

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