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Now That You Know: 10 Tips for Surviving Infidelity

You can get through this. When you first find out about your spouse’s infidelity, the pain of betrayal is unlike anything else you’ve ever experienced. You may not even be sure yet if you’re interested in surviving infidelity; you may only feel the pain of find out that your partner has been cheating on you. And while you’re reeling from the new of the affair, you understandably aren’t even sure if you know how to deal with your husband or wife being a cheater yet. And that’s totally OK. If ...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Kids, Marriage, Children, Cheating, Relationships, Divorce, Affair, Betrayal, Infidelity, Breaking Up, Ross, Publishers, Partner, Marriage And Divorce

7 Ways to Let Go of a Past Love

According to Oscar Wild, “the heart was made to be broken.” Few experiences are as painful as severing the ties with a romantic partner — even if you’re the one who initiated the breakup. Your world may feel groundless, colorless, meaningless. However, a heartbreak can also inspire surprising self-growth and gift you with a sense of independence and vitality that you didn’t know what possible. Often tears fertilize the seeds of self-transformation and nurture a new self that needed to be discov...
Tags: Psychology, Relationships, Divorce, Self-help, Woody Allen, Breakups, Grieving, Grief And Loss, Ralph Nader, Robert Redford, Personal Growth, Mental Health And Wellness, Marriage And Divorce, Coping, Heartache, Buddhist

Young Marriage with Step Children, In-law Issues

I am looking for a great self-help book for young married couples (below 30yr) on self-growth, dealing with step-children and unhealthy in-laws. I would highly recommend the book Happy Together as a starting point. Here is a review with other recommendation you might find helpful. Wishing you patience and peace, Dr. Dan Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Relationships, Divorce, Blended Family, In-laws, Stepparenting, In Law Issues

A Therapist Reveals the Surprising Truth about Older Men Marrying Younger Women

Aspen Colorado is a playground for many billionaires and celebrities. Also, the surrounding towns are full of “young for their age” fit and attractive mountain men. And so, as a therapist in the area, I have counseled a large number of heterosexual couples with a significant age gap between them. There are always exceptions to any rule, but a clear pattern has emerged over my many years in practice that has truly surprised me. I am not proud to say that years ago I had a strong stereotype in...
Tags: Psychology, Marriage, Relationships, Divorce, Dating, Second Marriage, Marriage And Divorce, Men's Issues, Couples Therapy, Aspen Colorado, Older Men And Younger Women, Superman He

Who gets the pet when couples split?

Who gets the pet when couples divorce? Only California, Alaska, and Illinois have any statutes on the books to help judges decide when couples can't with California being the last to pass such a law which took effect on  January 1, 2019.For more click here. [Author: David G. Markham]
Tags: Health, California, Divorce, Illinois, Infertility, David G Markham, California Alaska

Lessons from a Couples Therapist: Conflict Avoidance Can Destroy Your Marriage

Conflict avoidance is one of the biggest topics that keep coming in couples counseling sessions. Holding off conflicts happens when one partner avoids conflicts in order to protect the relationship against another escalation. Sometimes withdrawing or distancing yourself in order to avoid conflicts makes so much sense. However, this pattern erodes the relationship foundation because if you keep withdrawing from communication, your partner does not feel safe anymore. Moreover, if you keep avo...
Tags: Psychology, Marriage, Communication, Divorce, Intimacy, Resentment, Marriage And Divorce, Couples Therapy, John Gottman, Contempt, Gottman, Communication Style, Conflict Avoidance, Stonewalling

Struggling with Your Self-Esteem? Here’s What to Do

Divorce really has a way of wrecking our lives. Not only are we learning to be single again, we are also forced to adapt to new realities of a change in lifestyle, schedules, and retirement plans.  As if these challenges are not overwhelming enough, there’s another struggle we must endure after divorce: learning how to rebuild our self-esteem. It’s easy to understand why this is such an issue. When your relationship ends, you may feel rejected. You may feel unworthy. You may think that nob...
Tags: Psychology, Divorce, Self-help, Self-esteem, Optimism, Rejection, Grief And Loss, Marriage And Divorce, Self-worth, Affirmations

How to Tell a New Partner You’ve Been Divorced

It might be a little risky. When a divorce is done and over with, the next thing a new divorcee typically does is meet and date new people — not necessarily to get into another marriage but to find intimacy, companionship, and friendship. After all, everyone gets beat up in the face of the separation, negotiation, and fight. So knowing how to get a guy to like you, a newly divorced woman, can be challenging. And learning how to tell your new boyfriend about your recent divorce — without scari...
Tags: Psychology, Marriage, Relationships, Friendship, Divorce, Intimacy, Dating, Publishers, Marriage And Divorce, Yourtango, Companionship

"Unlike psychotherapists... underground [LSD] guides have no accredited educational institutions, no licensing and no way to publicly market their services."

"How, then, does one make a career as a guide? Steve was one of many guides I spoke to who described feeling spiritually 'called' to do this work. Like doctors who provided abortions pre-Roe v Wade, he breaks laws that he believes are unjust; he considers legal violations a risky but necessary part of his quest to alleviate people’s pain. He charges on a sliding scale that ranges from around $15 to $50 an hour. As is the case with most guides, his own psychedelic experiences convinced him the jo...
Tags: Psychology, Law, Divorce, Steve, Lsd, Ann Althouse, Religion Substitutes

Do Couples Grow Apart or “Fall Asleep”?

You’ve probably heard people explain their divorce by saying, “We grew apart.” I wonder about that. I’ll explain with a personal example that on first glance has nothing to do with marriage, but you’ll see … When I got my first car, I was thrilled. It was cute and just right for me. I liked its sturdiness, its comfort and its soothing, taupe color. A match made in heaven! That expression fit because I was single and marriage was in my distant future. Our relationship was good until it b...
Tags: Psychology, Utah, Marriage, California, Relationships, Aging, San Francisco, Communication, Divorce, Personal, Intimacy, Dating, Marriage And Divorce, Jennifer


Hi there Kimchi Mamas!!! How are things going? Things are going alright here in the Choi family. I turned 40 this year and I kind of am really liking the older me. I feel so mature! Can you tell? So mature! Right? =) In all seriousness, I actually do feel like I am just barely starting to get this thing... [Author: Kimchi]
Tags: Health, Death, General, Celebrities, Parenting, Relationships, Religion, Divorce, Birthday, Mental Health, Current Affairs, Inspirational, Adoption, Faith, God, Anger

"Since marriage is a partnership, I’d like to know who I am and what I’m able to offer financially and how stable I am, before I’m committed legally to someone."

"My mom says I’m removing all the romance from the equation, but I know there’s more to marriage than just love. If it’s just love, I’m not sure it would work."Says one millennial — a 24-year-old woman — quoted in "Put a Ring on It? Millennial Couples Are in No Hurry/Young adults not only marry and have children later than previous generations, they take more time to get to know each other before tying the knot" (NYT).If it’s just love, I’m not sure it would work... But if it's also not just lov...
Tags: Psychology, Marriage, Law, Love, Divorce, Millennials, Eleanor, Darrell, Ann Althouse, Eleanor (the commenter, Mr. D, Young Rascals

Follow Your Compass Home

For twelve long and painful months I watched my marriage of 8 years and partnership of 15 years, distort and disfigure into something I no longer recognized. Despite all effort, despite all desire to keep our marriage together, short of any other options, I moved out of our apartment and into a sublet. Six months before, things had completely eroded between my wife and I and instead of vacationing together that year, it was decided it would be best if I went alone. I traveled to my dream de...
Tags: Travel, Psychology, Family, Marriage, Sweden, Identity, Los Angeles, Values, Divorce, Personal, Denmark, Norway, Scandinavia, Copenhagen, Nightmares, Journaling

Life 2.0: Coping with Divorce

If there was one thing in my life I knew for certain, it was that my wife and I were going to be together forever. That was until Christmas Eve 2014 when suddenly my life was turned upside down and the previously inconceivable idea that we wouldn’t be together, became a reality. This solid structure we spent years building together suddenly came crashing down. At the time of events, we’d been married for 8 years and together for a total of 15 years — 40% of my entire life — and it was near im...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Marriage, Relationships, Divorce, Personal, Marriage And Divorce, Inspiration & Hope, Coping, Separation, Los Feliz Blvd, Alimony

Surviving Infidelity Requires the Partner Who Strayed to Feel Genuine Remorse

There are many practical reasons why men and women who have an affair outside of their committed relationships might wish to reverse course, reconcile, and move forward with their legitimate partner. Affairs frequently turn messy and almost always leave emotional destruction in their wake, especially if children are caught in the middle. Children too, have many issues when their family is afflicted with infidelity. On top of the pain the betrayer inflicts, romantic liaisons can give rise ...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Regret, Trust, Communication, Divorce, Self-help, Betrayal, Infidelity, Intimacy, Sue, Emotional Affair, John

Surviving Infidelity: Why It’s Necessary to Prove That the Affair Has Ended

Recovering from the painful damage caused by infidelity is never easy. In the aftermath of infidelity, marriages and committed relationships that have been built and nurtured over years, even decades, can quickly crumble, leaving one or both partners devastated. But there is hope and a way forward for those couples who are willing to make the commitment and do the hard work. The trauma of infidelity needn’t last a lifetime. In counseling couples over many years in the wake of infidelity, ...
Tags: Psychology, General, Marriage, Cheating, Relationships, Friends, Divorce, Self-help, Betrayal, Infidelity, Trust Issues, Emotional Affair, John, Women's Issues, Extramarital Affair, Grief And Loss

Psychology Around the Net: December 17, 2016

Happy Saturday, sweet readers! This week’s edition of Psychology Around the Net is extremely interesting, if I do say so myself. Keep reading for the latest on how pets can help people with severe mental illnesses, the new(ish) trend that’s ruining relationships (ever heard of “phubbing?” me either), how spirituality care can benefit medicine, and more. Pets Can Be Life-Changing For People Living With Severe Mental Illness: According to new research, people living with mental illness — espec...
Tags: Psychology, Energy, Work, Family, Technology, Money, College, Relationships, Pets, Women, Research, Disorders, Divorce, Depression, Bipolar, Anxiety

Steps to Successful Co-Parenting

Being a parent is a huge responsibility and often times one that is shared with a co-parent. A co-parent is the person (or people) who helps to raise your child in one way or another. This could be your spouse, an ex, your ex’s spouse, or even a friend or family member.   In my experience as a clinician for children and adolescents, having adults that are able to co-parent in a respectful, collaborative, and accepting way is one of the most important factors in my clients’ ability to access h...
Tags: Psychology, Childhood, Family, General, Parenting, Sharing, Divorce, Self-help, Arguments, Women's Issues, Motivation And Inspiration, Children And Teens, Marriage And Divorce, Men's Issues, Co-parenting

Khloé Kardashian Will Be (Officially) Single Next Week — Here Are The Final Terms Of Her Divorce From Lamar Odom!

Looks like Khloé Kardashian will be single for the holidays! Well, she'll be officially single, that is -- she's been split from Lamar Odom for a long time, but as we've been reporting over the last few months, things have been moving VERY slowly on the legal side of things! Related: Khloé Kardashian Tells A Troll To... Lick Her Balls?!?! But now, that's all about to change, at least according to TMZ! That's because a week from tomorrow -- on December 17 -- Khloé and Lamar's split will be legal,...
Tags: Health, Reality TV, Celebs, Drugs, Divorce, Basketball, Nba, TV News, Khloe Kardashian, Breakups, Love Line, Thompson, Lamar Odom, Kuwtk, Legal Matters, Lamar

Marriage Mentors Are Everywhere

When it comes to marriage, I cannot overstate the value of mentoring. If you were blessed to have grown up with happily married parents who communicated well, you probably learned, as though by osmosis, how to become happily hitched. Your live-in mentors paved the way. But what if you grew up with parents who stayed together unhappily or divorced? Or if you were raised by a single parent? Typically, couples who see me for therapy grew up without viewing a healthy marriage. For them and for other...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Marriage, Relationships, Communication, Divorce, Personal, Self-help, Intimacy, Family Therapy, David, Husband, Wife, Expectations, Perfectionism, Mentorship

Difficult Relationship with Parents and Sibling

Over the past 30 years, my parents (and particularly my mother) have never been satisfied with the level of effort I expend toward family relationships. As a child I was accused of ignoring and not liking my sister, and forced to seek her out to apologize for hurting her feelings. My sister, by the way, used to pin me to the ground and pull hair out of my head and painfully tickle and pinch me when I was young. Now she is divorced. She has always been a kind yet very negative, sarcastic person w...
Tags: Psychology, Europe, Family, General, Parents, Divorce, Personality, Parenting & Children, Abuse, Sibling, Expectations, Manipulative Behavior

How Singles Can Move to Happily Ever After

If you’re single and have been wanting to get married for a long time but it’s not happening, you just might be getting in your own way. To find out whether you have a self-defeating pattern or simply that circumstances have been holding you back, here are a few ideas: Ask a close friend or two who may have noticed how you function in social and dating situations if she or he sees a pattern. Also, answer these questions on your own: Have you ended relationships when you sensed the man wanted ...
Tags: Psychology, Marriage, Relationships, Love, Divorce, Self-help, Nancy, Courtship, Alice, Marriage And Divorce, Matchmaking, Stephanie, Patti, Miriam

Understanding the Different Types of Infidelity

The expectation of exclusivity and monogamy are commonly assumed although not always adhered to in a marriage or long term relationship. When this expectation isn’t met, emotional damage can occur, including feelings of severe anger or rage. Others experience a sense of betrayal and loss of trust in their partner while some lose a sense of personal confidence and self-esteem. Many have struggled to differentiate between platonic friendships and infidelity. While a friendship with the opposite se...
Tags: Psychology, General, Marriage, Cheating, Relationships, Divorce, Self-help, Infidelity, Emotional Affair, Marriage And Divorce, Sexual Affair, Marriage Therapy

How to Let Go of Anger After Divorce

You know that feeling — the one where your heartbeat quickens and your head starts to pound. Your throat starts to close and it takes all the strength you have to keep from screaming at something that your ex said or did. Anger. Being ticked off. Feeling rage. While anger is a natural emotion, learning how to manage it as you navigate divorce is crucial to moving on and taking your life back. Although it takes time, the following advice will get you started on the road to recovery. Anger is a ...
Tags: Psychology, Stress, Divorce, Self-help, Relaxation, Anger, Frustration, Conflict Resolution, Marriage And Divorce, Breathing Exercise

7 Questions and Answers that Reveal the Truth about Your Marriage

Do you know your marriage as well as you think? I’m a relationship coach and normally when people learn what I do, it sparks many conversations and even more questions. A lot of the time I sense they want to know what category their own marriage falls into. They want reassurance that all is well on the home front or that what is going on for them currently is a normal part of married life. 7 Deadly Mistakes Newlyweds Make Those who are very satisfied in their relationship tend to ask the mos...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Marriage, Relationships, Divorce, Honeymoon, Publishers, Partner, Marriage And Divorce, Yourtango, Newlyweds

Are You Turning Towards Your Partner?

Well known couples therapists and founders of the Gottman Method for couples therapy, John and Julie Gottman have a wealth of knowledge when it comes to what keeps couples together in a healthy relationship and what can break a relationship apart. In what they coined The Sound Relationship House, the foundation and inside of a healthy relationship rest on things like trust and commitment, fondness and admiration, turning towards and a positive perspective of your partner, as well as a healthy co...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Marriage, Relationships, Research, Divorce, Empathy, Self-help, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, John, Conflict Resolution, Gratitude, Marriage And Divorce, Couples Therapy

5 More Tips for Navigating a Contentious Divorce

Contentious divorces can do a number on your health and well-being. You might find that you’re struggling with symptoms of anxiety and depression or a worsening of these symptoms (if you had anxiety or depression before). You might find that you have very little energy and you’re constantly on edge. Maybe you can’t concentrate either. Maybe everything feels more challenging. Grueling. It’s hard to breathe when you feel like you’re suffocating. But even during such a chaotic time as a contentiou...
Tags: Psychology, Facebook, Grief, Family, Marriage, Sleep, Relationships, Friends, Disorders, Stress, Divorce, Depression, Anxiety, Psychotherapy, Grief And Loss, Self-compassion

5 Suggestions for Navigating a Contentious Divorce

Any divorce is difficult, even when the split is amicable. After all, divorce is a major transition, and change is tough. When your divorce is contentious, not surprisingly, things are harder. A lot harder. “People are often caught off guard by the enormity of the divorce experience,” said Krysta Dancy, MA, MFT, a therapist who specializes in working with couples and families in Roseville, Calif. If your marriage was contentious, you probably see your divorce as a relief, so you might feel blind...
Tags: Psychology, Wellness, Family, General, Marriage, Relationships, Friends, Stress, Divorce, Mental Health, Self-help, Anxiety, Psychotherapy, Healthy Boundaries, Well-being, Grief And Loss

Developing a Friendship with Ex, Grown Daughters Will Not Speak to Me

Recently I have been developing a friendship with my ex husband. It was a rocky marriage. Divorced 15 years ago. He has received counseling for being a peeping tom 17 years ago. Yes he peeped at my daughters. In case you need to know, he never touched them, he watched from afar. They are now in their 30’s. They hate him. He has mellowed and is regretful. He has said he is sorry to them twice and would get on his knees if he thought it would help. Two months ago we started ‘hanging out’, going pl...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Sexual Assault, Relationships, Divorce, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Personality, Betrayal, Abuse, Family Therapy, Voyeurism, Sexual Abuse, Child Molestation

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