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Got a Minute? Then You Have Time to Create!

One of the biggest reasons many of us don’t create, and in particular write, is because we don’t have time. We’re working and parenting and cooking and dish-washing. We’re commuting, and dropping off and picking up. And we think we need to carve out at least 20 minutes to sit down and reconnect to our imagination. And somehow those 20 minutes get eaten up by other activities before we even realize it. However, all you really need to access your creativity is a minute. Yes, just 1 minute. Which m...
Tags: Psychology, Books, General, Writing, Habits, Happiness, Self-help, Creativity, Journaling, Writer's Block, Mental Health And Wellness, Don, Medeiros, Journal Prompts, Leigh Medeiros

7 Winter Depression Busters

We’ve entered the “dark ages” as the midshipmen at the Naval Academy say — the weeks between Christmas break and Spring break when everyone turns a pasty white and the sidewalks are full of ugly slush. The lack of sunlight and the shorter days don’t help the pursuit of sanity. However, if you approach this time of year with a dose of creativity and enthusiasm, you need not fall down the rabbit hole of depression. Here are some ideas to keep your mood sunny when the weather is anything but. 1....
Tags: Psychology, General, Noah, Depression, Creativity, Epa, University of Pennsylvania, Ucla, Omega, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Martin Seligman, Harvard Medical School, Fernandez, Naval Academy, Maddock

My Boyfriend’s Friend Disrespected Me

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years and have been living together for a little over 3 years. About a year ago his friend stayed over at our house while we were out on vacation, I’ve never met his friend before and only said yes because he said his friend was trustworthy. His friend ended up bringing over a female coworker and not letting us know but I found an eyeliner so I was upset and asked my boyfriend to talk to him since he didn’t want me to talk to his friend myself. ...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Anger Management, Self-esteem, Personality, Dating, Disrespect, Grudge, Misunderstanding, Disagreement

Bright But Different: How to Best Help Your Child with Learning Differences to Succeed

All children are smart in their own way. Some children, however, have individual learning styles that don’t allow them to succeed with traditional learning methods. These children are not disabled. They’re quite capable of learning everything their peers learn. They just learn in a different way. But children with learning differences are often robbed of their confidence and joy. It can be tremendously difficult for parents to accept that their child may have a learning challenge that int...
Tags: Psychology, General, Learning, Students, Parenting, College, Failure, Self-help, Learning disability, Jason, Children And Teens, Success & Achievement, Carly, School Issues, Learning Differences, Learning Style

Podcast: How to Let Go of Past Hurts

 It’s inevitable that we will suffer emotional pain as we go through life. Whether it’s from a death of a loved one, the ending of a relationship, or any number of other issues, sometimes the pain we experience becomes embedded to such a degree that we can’t seem to recover from it. We might dwell on past hurts to the point that it negatively affects our emotional health, preventing us from moving on and growing as we should. In this episode, we examine this kind of emotional baggage a...
Tags: Psychology, General, Wales, John, Grief And Loss, Vincent, Emotional Pain, Gabe Howard, Don, Vince, Gabe, Oxford University Press, John Grohol, Grohol, Cyberpsychology Behavior and Social Networking, John M Grohol Psy

What Is He Afraid Of?

The man I’ve been on and off with for almost 6 years has finally admitted to me that “everything is there” in me, but he cannot see a future. He is an honest, good man who has deep fears and avoids intimacy. He doesn’t know what to do when I cry and never talks about his feelings. Our “relationship” has been quite unusual. We never interacted with friends and family, never dated. We were basically friends with benefits who also shared deep and casual discussions with daily interaction. I’ll admi...
Tags: Psychology, General, Marriage, Relationships, Anxiety, Personality, Intimacy, Dating, Fear Of Commitment

My Local Town Facebook Groups are a Hot Mess

Back in the 1990s when I first got my start publishing mental health resources, it was my firm belief that the internet was a wonder that could help anyone who had access to it. I was a true believer, and it was my job to help convert not only my profession, but everyone I met. In the 2000s, when social networking sites began to take hold, I again held out hope and expressed optimism. “Such services allow us to better keep in touch with our loved ones.” Over the past few years, however, my optim...
Tags: Psychology, Facebook, Technology, General, Social Media, Groups, Facebook Groups, Group, New England, Merrimack River, Local Town Facebook Groups, Intent of Facebook Groups Facebook Groups

Follow Up: My Boyfriend Has A Baby From A Past Girlfriend

On 2009-09-07 someone asked a question with the title “My Boyfriend Has A Baby From A Past Girlfriend” It was answered by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP. I’m in the same predicament (if not worse) and can relate to how she felt. It’s been 9 years since that was posted, and was wondering if there was someway to follow up. How did her life turn out? I keep on wondering how my life will end up if I were to stay in my current relationship. Would I ruin my life? The post you referred to is l...
Tags: Psychology, General, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Parenting & Children, Daniel J Tomasulo

Sexual Abuse?

I have a question for you. I come from a very dysfunctional family. There is a history of alcoholism and sexual deviancy and abuse throughout both sides of my parents’ lineage. My question is this: Do you consider what happened to me to be sexual abuse? My father would sleep with me in bed with him for years. He would put his hands down my pants and hold my bare bottom and put his hands between my thighs (as if to warm them). This is how we would “snuggle up and prepare to go to sleep” every nig...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Childhood Trauma, Alcoholism, Vietnam, Sexual Trauma

I Have the Desire for Something Horrible to Happen to Me

At 14 my life is easy but sometimes I have fantasies of either getting into an accident (or just getting injured to the point of being hospitalized ) or losing everything I have, including the people I love. I have no suicidal thoughts nor have I ever self-harmed, I’m not very confident in myself but I don’t hate myself . The problem is I imagine these scenarios so often and in so much detail that I bring myself tears. I’m worried that these thoughts could become something destructive. Thank you...
Tags: Psychology, England, General, Fantasy, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Suicidal Thoughts, Personality, Violence, Phobia, Suicidal Ideation

9 Productivity Hacks for Working from Home

Working from home can be incredibly convenient. You get to skip the long commute and rush-hour traffic. Your schedule is flexible, and can bend and bow to fit whatever you need to do (like picking up your kids from school and actually getting to the bank before it closes). But working from home isn’t without its challenges. For instance, distractions are aplenty: dishes in the sink, piles of laundry, and interruptions from everyone from your kids to UPS to your next-door neighbor. It’s also hard...
Tags: Psychology, Productivity, Facebook, General, UPS, Self-help, Creativity, Working From Home, Price, Mental Health And Wellness, Industrial And Workplace, Success & Achievement, Emily Price, Focusmate, Kate Rope, Focus Keeper

5 Ways to Let Go of a Friendship

When a marriage dissolves, there is legal process that involves steps of grieving the end of the relationship. Signing papers, although painful, acknowledges the end of years together and also signifies freedom to move on to a new life. Broken friendships, however, have no process in place. Oftentimes the ending is muddled, with confusion over what went wrong and whether or not there is any chance of reconciliation. The broken bond can be just as traumatic as a divorce, especially if you have ye...
Tags: Psychology, Grief, General, Relationships, Friends, Friendship, Vulnerability, Self-help, Betrayal, Loss, Rejection, Abandonment, Journal, Grief And Loss, Coping Skills, Henri Nouwen

Podcast: How to Make the Transition to Adulthood Easier

 The transition from youth to adult is a difficult one for most people, filled with unexpected events and changes that we are ill-prepared for. Many find themselves seriously lacking not only the life skills needed, but also the psychological and emotional tools that would make this huge change easier. Our guest this week explains how we can use mindfulness to develop these tools and make adulting much less intimidating. Subscribe to Our Show! And Reme...
Tags: Psychology, General, Students, Wales, Los Angeles, Transition, Mindfulness, Ucla, Eta, Vincent, Gabe Howard, Don, Vince, Johnny, Gabe, Vin

Conflicts in Dating a Single Dad

I am in a situation where I have been the patient understanding partner but am at a point where I am considering leaving the relationship because of the kid. I think first is the issue of discipline. My partner, to me, is very inconsistent in his discipline being simultaneously too harsh and lenient (ex. “I’m going to get my belt if you don’t listen and I am not giving you anything to eat, now come here and give me a hug. Want to watch TV?”). I do not directly address this in disagreement but he...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Personality, Parenting & Children, Dating, Single Parent, Insensitivity, Single Father

Free Webinar: Identifying Past Trauma Responsible for Current Distress

(Please note: This free live webinar will be recorded and a copy made available to all who registered.) Many adult survivors of childhood trauma go through life struggling with both the immediate as well as latent consequences of having been abused, mentally, physically, or sexually. The chaos and unpredictability characteristic of abuse occurring in childhood, especially by someone the adult survivor trusts can leave survivors deficient in their sense of trust, which is a critical component of ...
Tags: Psychology, General, Self-help, Trauma, Domestic Violence, Child Abuse, Webinar, Mental Health And Wellness, Coping, Gabe Howard, Traumatic Experience, Bates Duford, Tarra Bates Duford, Family Matters Counseling Group PLLC

I Feel Like I Want Everybody around Me to Feel Bad

I feel like I want everybody around me to feel bad and suffer and I want myself to suffer just because I feel bad about. It happens when I get upset about something, (or I choose to be upset about it). and what really happens is that inside me I get this deep urge to do things that either hurt me or hurt others around me, it’s like I feel spite towards others and towards myself. I don’t know if it is a call for attention or just an ego act, but I feel it a lot lately and at some point, it is bot...
Tags: Psychology, General, Displacement, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Violence, Resentment, Anger, Lebanon, Self Esteem, Projection, Spitefulness

Best Friend Suddenly Hates Me

My best friend and I are extremely close. I have OCD, an eating disorder, depression and anxiety. She has depression and anxiety. About two weeks ago she suddenly stopped talking to me. I apologized profusely for whatever I had done. She then said I hadn’t done anything wrong but that she didn’t like my personality and that I made her uncomfortable. This obviously hurt me and I asked what she was talking about. She proceeded to insult me and has not talked to me since. Every time I try to talk t...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Teenagers, Mental Health, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Friendships, OCD, Adolescence

9 Tips for Breaking Out of a Rut

Lately, you’ve felt utterly uninspired. Lately, your days have been bland, dull and boring. It’s as though you’re a robot stuck on the same setting and program. Every. Single. Day. Maybe everything feels like one big slog. And you’re not sure what to do about it. You feel trapped, restless, frustrated, or overwhelmed. In other words, you’re in a rut. Ruts can have a variety of causes. Sometimes, something has simply gotten old. For instance, a once healthy and fulfilling routine, over time, ca...
Tags: Psychology, Motivation, General, Shonda Rhimes, Habits, Happiness, Inspiration, Social Media, Self-help, Rochester, Journaling, Journal, Boundaries, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Success & Achievement

Why Do I Lack Empathy/Compassion?

I notice that I have a real issue genuinely feeling for others. A coworker tells me she has to go somewhere for her cancer and I fake compassion, but I don’t think I actually care. Another coworker has someone dying in the hospital, all day she complains about being tired, and all I wanna do is tell her that nobody cares about her problems and to shut up. I feel in the workplace that you shouldn’t discuss personal issues and complain so much about them because you’re there for work. When i see a...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Compassion, Empathy, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Personality, Loving Kindness

15 Simple Ways to Simplify Your Life

Simplifying one’s life can seem complicated. It can feel overwhelming, especially if you own a lot of stuff and your calendar is crammed with commitments. Where do you start? What the heck do you exactly do? What does simplifying even really look like? At its core, simplifying is making more time for the things that truly matter to us, said Rachel Jonat, who writes about simplicity and minimalism on her website The Minimalist Mom. “That means realigning how you spend your time, money, energy an...
Tags: Psychology, General, Organization, Relationships, Habits, Happiness, Stress, Self-help, New Year's, Mental Health And Wellness, Murphy, Carver, Landis, Astor, Minimalism, Megan Murphy

Podcast: Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work

 Every year, millions of people make New Year’s Resolutions. And one of the most common resolutions is to lose weight and get in shape. It’s also one of the most commonly failed resolutions. In this episode, you’ll meet a man who lost over 130 pounds and went on to become a transformational coach helping others to achieve the same goals. His success was not because of a New Year’s Resolution, and shows just why such January promises don’t work. Subscribe to Our Show! ...
Tags: Psychology, General, Instagram, Wales, America, Weight Loss, Jeremy, Resolutions, New Year's, Vincent, Success & Achievement, Gabe Howard, Vince, Gabe, Vin, John Grohol

Why You Can’t Slow Down

You know exactly what you need to do to slow down. You need to meditate. You need to sit on the couch, and catch a breather. You need to say no to additional assignments and commitments. You need to practice yoga, and take a few days off. But you can’t. In fact, you ramp up your workload instead. You hustle even harder. You pack your schedule even tighter. And, when you stop for a bit, if you actually stop for a bit, you wonder, Why? Why can’t I slow down? Why is resting so hard for me? For s...
Tags: Psychology, General, Habits, Stress, Self-help, Relaxation, Manhattan, Taylor, Mental Health And Wellness, Success & Achievement, Austin Texas, Busyness, Workaholic, Saidipour, Panthea Saidipour LCSW, Katrina Taylor

Feelings Dependent on Responses to Messages

I’ve been having problems lately controlling my patience and emotions over whether or not someone replies to my text messages/emails. All started a few months ago I was catching up with a friend over text. As she had recent success with relationships, while I have been struggling with interpersonal relationships in recent times, I reached out to ask her opinion over what positive qualities she saw in me, as I’ve done with my close friends and family to combat my self-esteem problems, because she...
Tags: Psychology, General, Communication, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Resilience, Social Anxiety, Impatience, Text Messaging, Unstable Relationships, CBT

25 Powerful Prompts to Help You Pick Your New Year’s Resolution

Often we pick resolutions that we think we should do. We should put ourselves on a diet and start going to the gym. We should do anything we can to lose weight. We should stop eating ______. We should get organized. We should have a capsule wardrobe. We should make more money. We should go for the promotion. We should read a book a week. We should be ________ or ________. And, not surprisingly, we don’t stick to these resolutions. Because who wants to follow some arbitrary goal? Who wants to fo...
Tags: Psychology, General, Writing, Habits, Happiness, Mindfulness, Self-help, Creativity, Creative writing, Journaling, Gillette, New Year's, Personal Growth, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Holiday Coping

How to Confront a Narcissistic Mother That Lives with You

I’m divorced and started dating. My mother is against my relationship and it has become to the point I have to choose. How do I do this? I’m a smart, independent woman that can’t break my dependency with her. I am capable of many things, but I am handicapped with her. She blocks me, makes me feel guilty. I need help to do this but don’t want to crush her. Narcissists don’t crush. They tend to be quite insulated from feeling affected by others. The fact that you think you’ll hurt her if you take ...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Relationships, Depression, Personality, Parenting & Children, Narcissism, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Guilt Trip

My Mom and I Constantly Fight

My mom and I are always fighting. She is constantly telling me how to live my life and that any choices I make are wrong. She always constantly puts down my husband and says the nastiest, most vile things about him and I. I try to talk to her about it but it always ends with her and I yelling at each other and her telling me that I am being disrespectful to her. She has told me multiple times that she wishes she had a different daughter when all I ever try to do is compromise with her and try to...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Usa, General, Fighting, Relationships, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Personality, Parenting & Children, Family Therapy, Adolescence, Conflict Resolution, Family Arguments

How to Deal with Anger When You’re All Too Good at Avoiding It

For many of us avoiding anger feels automatic and natural. Because anger doesn’t feel good. Because we associate anger with cruel words, broken glass and ruined relationships. In other words, as psychotherapist David Teachout, LMHCA, said, we associate anger with destruction, and avoidance is how we attempt to maintain our emotional and mental safety and health. According to Michelle Farris, LMFT, a psychotherapist and anger management specialist, if you grew up in a home where anger turned a...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Stress, Self-help, Anger Management, Anger, Mental Health And Wellness, Emotion Regulation, SAN JOSE Calif, Teachout, Farris, Des Moines WA, Emotional Expression, David Teachout LMHCA, Michelle Farris

New Study Shows Most Americans Are Lonely

If you are feeling lonely, you’re not alone. A recent study involving 340 San Diego County residents of various ages has found that loneliness is shockingly widespread.1 The study suggests that there is a 76% prevalence of moderate to severe loneliness in American society. This is a bombshell statistic. After all, our country has enshrined the pursuit of happiness in its constitution and prides itself on having a high standard of living (twelfth in the world), which apparently doesn’t equate wit...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Friendship, Happiness, Social Media, Personal, Self-help, Depression, Social Life, Spirituality, Un, San Diego County, Loneliness, University Of California San Diego, Mental Health And Wellness

Podcast: What Are Cognitive Distortions?

   At some point or another, virtually everyone has fallen victim to cognitive distortions – lines of thinking that are based on things that are simply not true. This doesn’t mean to the level of conspiracy theories, but even the tiniest things. In this episode, Psych Central founder, Dr. John Grohol, explains many types of these distortions, as well as how to address them in order to improve our lives. Subscribe to Our Show! And Remember to Review Us! ...
Tags: Psychology, General, Wales, John, Vincent, Brain And Behavior, Cognitive Distortion, Memory And Perception, Gabe Howard, Vince, Gabe, Oxford University Press, John Grohol, Cyberpsychology Behavior and Social Networking, John M Grohol Psy, Computers in Human Behavior

I Believe I Have Nuances of BPD

I believe I have nuances of bpd, or emotionally unstable personality disorder having reflected on my life relationships and doing some of the tests. I would like to find out if I can do dialectic therapy by reading books in dialectic therapy. really my question is, to help myself as I am more aware of the way I feel, I can read books or watching videos, or if there is such a thing as distance learning dialectic therapy.or if you think that improvement on these personality disorders can only be a...
Tags: Psychology, UK, General, Bipolar, Therapy, Borderline, Borderline Personality Disorder, Self-esteem, Personality, Bpd, Group Therapy, Bibliotherapy

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