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Making Friends with Failure

Many of us may have grown up with the idea that making mistakes is a bad thing. When we received a bad grade or things didn’t go as expected, we may have felt distressed as we told our parents about it. We worried about their negative reaction. The urge to avoid errors goes back to an earlier time when our ancestors could not afford to make a mistake when they hunted for food or came across danger. Miscalculations cost people their lives in the olden days. Their minds were adept at helping ...
Tags: Psychology, Failure, Success, Self-help, Perfectionism, Achievement, Success & Achievement, Thomas Edison, Coping Skills, Blakely, Sara Blakely, Sara Blakely Spanx

The Law of Polarity Might Change Your Life

As a change facilitator and therapist, I recognize there really isn’t a one-size fits all approach to being healthy and happy. Which is why books by gurus, and therapies sometimes work and sometimes don’t? The truth is just because something worked well for one person, that doesn’t mean it will work the same for you. And sometimes finding the right information which suits you can be a challenge. So, what happens if you’ve tried multiple approaches to change something in your life and you sti...
Tags: Psychology, Happiness, Self-help, Optimism, Negativity, Positive Psychology, Motivation And Inspiration

8 Ways to Hear Your Own Voice

For the last 12 years, I have kept a binder full of advice from friends and mental health professionals. After every doctor’s visit or coffee date, I would scribble down notes of what they said so that I could access their words when I needed them. Similarly, I kept a self-esteem file, full of positive comments from readers and loving notes from friends to pump me up when I needed reassurance and validation that I was a decent person who ought to stick around. We all need to rely on doctors, ps...
Tags: Psychology, Mindfulness, Self-help, Personal Growth, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, Rumi, Eckhart Tolle, Present Moment, Mindfuless-Based Stress Reduction, Ways to Hear Your Own Voice

Got a Minute? Then You Have Time to Create!

One of the biggest reasons many of us don’t create, and in particular write, is because we don’t have time. We’re working and parenting and cooking and dish-washing. We’re commuting, and dropping off and picking up. And we think we need to carve out at least 20 minutes to sit down and reconnect to our imagination. And somehow those 20 minutes get eaten up by other activities before we even realize it. However, all you really need to access your creativity is a minute. Yes, just 1 minute. Which m...
Tags: Psychology, Books, General, Writing, Habits, Happiness, Self-help, Creativity, Journaling, Writer's Block, Mental Health And Wellness, Don, Medeiros, Journal Prompts, Leigh Medeiros

9 Ways to Free Yourself from Ruminations

Of all my symptoms of depression, stuck thoughts are by far the most painful and debilitating for me. The harder I try to move the needle from the broken record in my brain, the louder the song becomes. Ruminations are like a gaggle of politicians campaigning in your head. Try as you might to detach from their agenda, their slogans are forefront in your mind, ready to thrust you down the rabbit hole of depression. Logic tells you they are full of bull, but that doesn’t keep you from believing wh...
Tags: Psychology, Elsa, Disney, Stress, Personal, Mindfulness, Self-help, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Mental Health And Wellness, Self-worth, Ruminating, Kristin Neff, Group Beyond Blue on Facebook, Abraham Low

Psychology Around the Net: January 19, 2019

Within this week’s Psychology Around the Net, you’re going to meet a psychiatrist who uses social media for good, get a plethora of self-care tips (many of which I guarantee you haven’t thought of), find out just exactly how many happy facial expressions we have, and more. Enjoy! You Have 17 Different Facial Expressions to Show Happiness (and That’s Reason to Smile): After a recent study involving more than seven million online images and 30 countries, Aleix Martinez, a cognitive scientist an...
Tags: Psychology, Technology, Instagram, Incarceration, College, Study, Happiness, Alabama, Social Media, Research, Self-help, Jail, Inmates, College Students, Stigma, Psychology Around The Net

Bright But Different: How to Best Help Your Child with Learning Differences to Succeed

All children are smart in their own way. Some children, however, have individual learning styles that don’t allow them to succeed with traditional learning methods. These children are not disabled. They’re quite capable of learning everything their peers learn. They just learn in a different way. But children with learning differences are often robbed of their confidence and joy. It can be tremendously difficult for parents to accept that their child may have a learning challenge that int...
Tags: Psychology, General, Learning, Students, Parenting, College, Failure, Self-help, Learning disability, Jason, Children And Teens, Success & Achievement, Carly, School Issues, Learning Differences, Learning Style

5 Healthy Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

Put the pieces back together again. Trying to figure out how to move on after a breakup is rough. Having a broken heart is no cup of tea — and learning how to get over a breakup, especially a painful one with someone you love, is a lesson no one wants to learn. So what do you do next after letting go of love? Have you worked hard to get out of a relationship that wasn’t serving you? Are you feeling overwhelmed by emotion and the empty space that is the result letting go of your love? You are ...
Tags: Psychology, Relationships, Friends, Love, Self-help, Self-esteem, Netflix, Friendships, Mars, Breakup, Publishers, Self Care, Yourtango, Broken Heart, Healthy Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

The Case for Downtime

I’m scared of downtime. That’s right, relaxation is downright uncomfortable for me. Part of me craves it like every other human being. Yet as soon as it is here, I twitch. I pace the house. I don’t know what to do with my hands and my legs — even more importantly, my brain. Sometimes the quiet space is too intolerable so I fill it with mindless activities like scouring Facebook or checking how many Twitter followers I have. My busyness is, at times, a defense mechanism whereby I can prove that I...
Tags: Psychology, Facebook, Work Life Balance, Research, Stress, Personal, Self-help, New York Times, Relaxation, Chris, Industrial And Workplace, Memory And Perception, Megan, Kreider, Annapolis Maryland, Sara Robinson

Struggling with Your Self-Esteem? Here’s What to Do

Divorce really has a way of wrecking our lives. Not only are we learning to be single again, we are also forced to adapt to new realities of a change in lifestyle, schedules, and retirement plans.  As if these challenges are not overwhelming enough, there’s another struggle we must endure after divorce: learning how to rebuild our self-esteem. It’s easy to understand why this is such an issue. When your relationship ends, you may feel rejected. You may feel unworthy. You may think that nob...
Tags: Psychology, Divorce, Self-help, Self-esteem, Optimism, Rejection, Grief And Loss, Marriage And Divorce, Self-worth, Affirmations

5 Good Reasons to Drop Out of College

It’s January. If you are in college, January is a month where you can take a breather. First semester is over. So are the holidays. Now there is time to think. Have you been having doubts? Do you want to return for second semester? It is a choice, you know. There are many good reasons both for personal growth and for long term financial health to stay in school. But college isn’t for everyone. It may not be for you or for you at this time. It’s not only okay but important for the return to se...
Tags: Psychology, Grief, Family, Students, College, Work Life Balance, Self-help, Social Life, Time Management, Grieving, Grief And Loss, Children And Teens, Student Therapist, School Preparation, Drop Out of College

Lessons from a Couples Therapist: Marriage Is Destroyed by Emotional Distance, Not Conflict

We all search for love, support, and care in our relationships. Whether you want to enrich a healthy relationship, refresh the one that started feeling like a roommate marriage, or to rescue a dying one, there is one thing to keep in mind: it is emotional distance — not a conflict — that destroys a marriage. If you want to create a stronger, more secure relationship, you need to be attuned and responsive to each other and to reestablish the emotional connection, according to Dr. Sue Johnson,...
Tags: Psychology, Marriage, Relationships, Communication, Self-help, Couples Counseling, Intimacy, Conflict Resolution, Marriage And Divorce, John Gottman, Eft, Gottman, Sue Johnson, Conflict Avoidance, Emotional Distance

9 Productivity Hacks for Working from Home

Working from home can be incredibly convenient. You get to skip the long commute and rush-hour traffic. Your schedule is flexible, and can bend and bow to fit whatever you need to do (like picking up your kids from school and actually getting to the bank before it closes). But working from home isn’t without its challenges. For instance, distractions are aplenty: dishes in the sink, piles of laundry, and interruptions from everyone from your kids to UPS to your next-door neighbor. It’s also hard...
Tags: Psychology, Productivity, Facebook, General, UPS, Self-help, Creativity, Working From Home, Price, Mental Health And Wellness, Industrial And Workplace, Success & Achievement, Emily Price, Focusmate, Kate Rope, Focus Keeper

Psychology Around the Net: January 12, 2019

Are you ready to learn about simple, no frills self-care tips we can all follow? Why incompetent people have more confidence than you’d think they should? How men and women experience chronic pain differently? Well, good news! This week’s Psychology Around the Net has all that and more. The Free Self-Care You Should Be Doing Right Now: Setting realistic exercise schedules. Tackling one cleaning or organizing project at a time. Getting enough sleep. Extremely basic but extremely helpful self-c...
Tags: Psychology, Books, Women, Memory, Values, Research, Disorders, Stress, Self-help, Confidence, Anxiety, Yoga, Men, Women's Issues, Chronic Pain, Men's Issues

When Is It the Better Part of Valor to Keep Your Mouth Shut?

Opinions abound on topics ranging from politics to religion, from relationships to climate change. Conversations no longer just happen around the water cooler at work. With the advent of social media, sharing those beliefs is as easy as tapping fingers on keyboard and pressing “post.” There was a time when the “taboo subjects” of sex, religion, and death were simply not discussed in polite company. These days, the gloves are off and we go at it with gusto, daring to strike back at anyone who...
Tags: Psychology, Technology, Opinion, Relationships, Wikipedia, Disney, Social Media, Self-help, Self-esteem, Resentment, Offense, Internet Trolls

5 Ways to Let Go of a Friendship

When a marriage dissolves, there is legal process that involves steps of grieving the end of the relationship. Signing papers, although painful, acknowledges the end of years together and also signifies freedom to move on to a new life. Broken friendships, however, have no process in place. Oftentimes the ending is muddled, with confusion over what went wrong and whether or not there is any chance of reconciliation. The broken bond can be just as traumatic as a divorce, especially if you have ye...
Tags: Psychology, Grief, General, Relationships, Friends, Friendship, Vulnerability, Self-help, Betrayal, Loss, Rejection, Abandonment, Journal, Grief And Loss, Coping Skills, Henri Nouwen

How Practicing Compassion May Help You Feel Better

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” — Aesop Think about the most disagreeable person you know or ever met. This might even be you on one or more occasions. If you ask people who are a little rough around the edges, those individuals who seem gruff, know-it-all, smug, superior and can’t be bothered, they’d likely say they don’t need anyone else. While compassion is an admirable and fairly basic trait, some of us either lack it (we’re short on empathy) or could use a l...
Tags: Psychology, Happiness, Compassion, Self-help, Self-esteem, Self-compassion, Inspiration & Hope, Association for Psychological Science, York University, University of York, Aesop Think

When You Love an Addict: 6 Things You Should Know

All relationships go through ups and downs. It’s normal. They are made up of two imperfect people trying to make it work together. But when you add addiction into the relationship it takes those “normal” ups and downs and turns them into a wild rollercoaster that leaves you feeling like you are barely hanging on. The good times provide you with just enough hope that you start to believe it really is going to get better. But then a bad time comes and you aren’t sure what to do. If you didn...
Tags: Psychology, Relationships, Communication, Self-help, Dating, Substance Abuse, Addiction, Recovery, Enabling, Boundaries, Don, Tough Love, Fierce Compassion

5 Questions for Self-Growth in the New Year

The adrenaline that pushed you through December has worn off and you’re feeling the January blahs. That’s not uncommon. In fact, January 24 is on record as being the most depressing day of the year, due to a combination a factors: Christmas bills, broken resolutions, and dark and dreary weather. However, if you are brave enough to sit with the uncomfortable feelings of this depressing time of year, January can be a period of important personal growth. With a new year, we get a blank page of pap...
Tags: Psychology, Research, Stress, Personal, Self-help, Creativity, Adam Sandler, New Year's, Personal Growth, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, New Year's Resolution, Overwhelm, Carlile, Schwartz

5 Questions for Self-Growth for a New Year

The adrenaline that pushed you through December has worn off and you’re feeling the January blahs. That’s not uncommon. In fact, January 24 is on record as being the most depressing day of the year, due to a combination a factors: Christmas bills, broken resolutions, and dark and dreary weather. However, if you are brave enough to sit with the uncomfortable feelings of this depressing time of year, January can be a period of important personal growth. With a new year, we get a blank page of pap...
Tags: Psychology, Research, Stress, Personal, Self-help, Creativity, Adam Sandler, New Year's, Personal Growth, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, New Year's Resolution, Overwhelm, Carlile, Schwartz

Free Webinar: Identifying Past Trauma Responsible for Current Distress

(Please note: This free live webinar will be recorded and a copy made available to all who registered.) Many adult survivors of childhood trauma go through life struggling with both the immediate as well as latent consequences of having been abused, mentally, physically, or sexually. The chaos and unpredictability characteristic of abuse occurring in childhood, especially by someone the adult survivor trusts can leave survivors deficient in their sense of trust, which is a critical component of ...
Tags: Psychology, General, Self-help, Trauma, Domestic Violence, Child Abuse, Webinar, Mental Health And Wellness, Coping, Gabe Howard, Traumatic Experience, Bates Duford, Tarra Bates Duford, Family Matters Counseling Group PLLC

7 Tips to Stay Focused and Achieve Peace of Mind 

If you’ve been struggling with anxiety, stress, or depression then the phrase “peace of mind” might sound like something from a fairytale. But I can assure you that peace of mind really does exist. And not only that, it’s something that you can accomplish in your own life. Some people mistakenly believe that peace of mind is something that you only experience when things in your life are trouble-free, but that’s not true.  Peace of mind and focus go hand-in-hand. Therefore, when you learn ...
Tags: Psychology, Habits, Happiness, Stress, Meditation, Mindfulness, Self-help, Stress Reduction, Focus, Motivation And Inspiration, Don, Merriam Webster, Peace of Mind

I Learned How to Let Go of Pain — You Can, Too

“Find a place inside where there’s joy, and the joy will burn out the pain.” – Joseph Campbell I am certainly not unique in my experience of pain. Like physical scars — of which I have plenty — pain of any kind tends to hang around doing its dirty work until the one suffering takes appropriate action to help dispel it. Granted, some physical pain can only be ameliorated, not eradicated. That’s good enough in some instances, although not ideal. Having gone through numerous instances where I’ve s...
Tags: Psychology, Personal, Mindfulness, Self-help, Healing, Surgery, National Institutes of Health, Chronic Pain, Health-related, Emotional Pain, Harvard Medical School, Joseph Campbell, Peer Support

9 Tips for Breaking Out of a Rut

Lately, you’ve felt utterly uninspired. Lately, your days have been bland, dull and boring. It’s as though you’re a robot stuck on the same setting and program. Every. Single. Day. Maybe everything feels like one big slog. And you’re not sure what to do about it. You feel trapped, restless, frustrated, or overwhelmed. In other words, you’re in a rut. Ruts can have a variety of causes. Sometimes, something has simply gotten old. For instance, a once healthy and fulfilling routine, over time, ca...
Tags: Psychology, Motivation, General, Shonda Rhimes, Habits, Happiness, Inspiration, Social Media, Self-help, Rochester, Journaling, Journal, Boundaries, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Success & Achievement

6 Life Lessons I Learned Last Year

Danish philosopher and theologian Søren Kierkegaard once wrote, “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” The beginning of a new year is an appropriate time to look back over the lessons learned from the mistakes and experiences of previous months. In 2018, I wrote two letters of resignation, grieved the ending of two significant relationships, and spent several weeks on a hospital waiting list for severe depression and weight loss. I fumbled, got lost, and confront...
Tags: Psychology, Suicide, Work Life Balance, Communication, Stress, Personal, Self-help, Depression, Self-esteem, Psychotherapy, Perfectionism, New Year's, Self-compassion, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Marriage And Divorce

15 Simple Ways to Simplify Your Life

Simplifying one’s life can seem complicated. It can feel overwhelming, especially if you own a lot of stuff and your calendar is crammed with commitments. Where do you start? What the heck do you exactly do? What does simplifying even really look like? At its core, simplifying is making more time for the things that truly matter to us, said Rachel Jonat, who writes about simplicity and minimalism on her website The Minimalist Mom. “That means realigning how you spend your time, money, energy an...
Tags: Psychology, General, Organization, Relationships, Habits, Happiness, Stress, Self-help, New Year's, Mental Health And Wellness, Murphy, Carver, Landis, Astor, Minimalism, Megan Murphy

RAD Tips for a Mindful Year

At the beginning of a new year, many of us start thinking about or have already planned several new year resolutions. These resolutions can be anything from exercising more, eating healthier, working less, more social time, or more time with loved ones. How have these resolutions worked out for you? What resolutions did you make at the beginning of 2018? Were you able to follow through with them? What did you learn about yourself while working toward accomplishing these resolutions? When we...
Tags: Psychology, Habits, Happiness, Mindfulness, Self-help, Self-esteem, New Year's, Personal Growth, Health-related, Success & Achievement, Life Change

Why You Can’t Slow Down

You know exactly what you need to do to slow down. You need to meditate. You need to sit on the couch, and catch a breather. You need to say no to additional assignments and commitments. You need to practice yoga, and take a few days off. But you can’t. In fact, you ramp up your workload instead. You hustle even harder. You pack your schedule even tighter. And, when you stop for a bit, if you actually stop for a bit, you wonder, Why? Why can’t I slow down? Why is resting so hard for me? For s...
Tags: Psychology, General, Habits, Stress, Self-help, Relaxation, Manhattan, Taylor, Mental Health And Wellness, Success & Achievement, Austin Texas, Busyness, Workaholic, Saidipour, Panthea Saidipour LCSW, Katrina Taylor

My Top 10 Tips to Start the New Year Right

“Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering ‘It will be happier’…” – Alfred Lord Tennyson Welcome to 2019. It’s time to start the New Year right. All the procrastination , stuffing yourself, indulging to excess, staying up too late — that’s got to go. Replace those bad habits and pure laziness with healthier behaviors. Trust me. It’s not that difficult. I’ve done each of these tips myself and can attest to their effectiveness. So, if you want to jumpstart a patt...
Tags: Psychology, Habits, Self-help, New Year's, Personal Growth, Motivation And Inspiration, New Year's Resolution, Life Changes, Alfred Lord Tennyson, Habit Change

5 Sure-Fire Ways to Keep New Year’s Resolutions

The new year is here and you know what’s coming. Family members, friends and coworkers will ask, “What are your resolutions this year?” Usually it’s just an idle conversation starter. But sometimes they are seriously interested, which may mean to you that you need to get serious about making one. Or not. The very idea may make you annoyed, anxious or even depressed. Whatever your reaction, the questions do raise awareness of the yearly ritual. Maybe, just maybe, it’s time to do something to ...
Tags: Psychology, Motivation, Habits, Self-help, New Year's, Personal Growth, Motivation And Inspiration, Holiday Coping, Success & Achievement, Life Change, Rumination, New Year's Resolution, Janus, Roman god Janus, Overthinking

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