Bloglikes - Wedding https://www.bloglikes.com/c/Wedding en-US Mon, 19 Apr 2021 06:13:25 +0000 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 00:00:00 +0000 FeedWriter Advice on How to Get Single Women to Like You http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/dondiebel/~3/8blADTi4fKc/advice-on-how-to-get-single-women-to.html Advice on How to Get Single Women to Like You

This week I want to focus on the secrets to getting single women to like you.

When you first meet a woman you tend to focus on getting her interested in you and to like you. And a lot of guys make the mistake of trying too hard to impress women. Let me explain...

They spend most of their conversation focusing on their interests, material possessions, who they know, accomplishments, wealth, professional status, etc. This is the wrong approach, guys. The best way to impress single women is to be impressed by them and not spend all your time trying to impress them. Focus on how impressed you are with their:

  • Interests
  • The way they look and dress
  • Knowledge and intelligence
  • Sense of humor
  • Cute smile
  • Luscious and kissable lips
  • Career
  • Communication skills
  • Goals and aspirations
  • Love nature
  • Nice apartment or house
  • Cooking skills
  • Nice furnishings and decor
  • Etc.
I'm sure you get the picture now. Just direct all of your conversation away from yourself and focus on her and how impressed you are with her. This will really make a good impression on her and get her to like you.

The philosophy in this article works wonders when you want a woman to become interested in you. To get her interested in you, you must first become interested in her. Try this philosophy and you will be amazed at how much more successful you will be with women.



I also want to make some comments on the importance of establishing friendships with the women you date. Friendship and romance go very well together. There's nothing like having a mate who is both your best friend and a lover. So, I highly recommend that you focus all your energies on becoming a close friend to a woman you are starting to date. Building a close and strong friendship will go a long way in creating a happy relationship with a very strong emotional bond between you.

And, remember that to be a friend, you must first be a friend. You must reach out and initiate a friendship.

In closing, I recommend that you adopt my strategy that has helped me seduce more women than I could handle: Become friends first, lover second. Get into her mind first before you get into her pants.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

[Author: noreply@blogger.com (Singles Expert)]

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Sun, 18 Apr 2021 19:16:00 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs
Smaller Scale Weddings Don’t Mean Smaller Details and This Parisian Inspired Editorial Will Give You All Of the Proof! http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/typepad/style_me_pretty/~3/oaHQmqH6EeI/ Fairmont Sonoma Mission Inn & Spa, planned and designed by K. Saw Weddings is about to give you ALL of the proof. Inspired by chic, Parisian styles, they delivered a small yet mighty wedding display featuring jaw-dropping florals by Le Bloomerie from the ceremony arch to the tablescape and not one but FOUR different gowns...even mixing in some colored dresses to the different setups! Check it out below to see all of Stella Yang Photography's stunning images!
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Sun, 18 Apr 2021 08:00:33 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Romantic The Blog
Looking For A Gift For Your Bride Tribe? You’re Going To Want to Check Out ALEX AND ANI’s New Bridal Collection! http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/typepad/style_me_pretty/~3/tBM4B_Gwuyc/ ALEX AND ANI, the eco-friendly jewelry brand has something for everyone (even the bride) with their redesigned Bridal Collection. Launched on April 8th, the collection includes bangles with charms that read 'I Pick You' and 'Happily Ever After' and even 'Bride' so you can gift yourself too! Now...gather your list of girls and pick out a bangle to add to their charmed arm!
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Sat, 17 Apr 2021 14:00:55 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Sponsored Posts The Blog
The Flamingo Nursery that’s Breaking Hearts Left and Right…It’s that Cute http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/typepad/style_me_pretty/~3/prMn0YjfhTI/ Flamingos are having their moment in the spotlight and so to is wallpaper. Now mash each of those pretty details together and this Cole & Sons papered nursery is the result. Blending vintage finds and family heirlooms with modern accessories and whimsical pink flamingos, it's a dream space perfect for little Poppy James. Tour every cute nook and cranny captured by Shanni Weilert in the vault.
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A Floral Adorned Oak Tree Was the Main Event at This Sunstone Winery Summer Wedding http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/typepad/style_me_pretty/~3/MWVR73FigCs/ dreamy?! Today's gorgeous couple did just that at Sunstone Winery in front of 40 of their nearest and dearest. Forage Florals took inspiration from the natural landscape to beautify the wedding design with her gorgeous arrangements, while Santa Barbara Elopement had the day going off without a hitch. Lucky for us, Sposto Photography was there to capture every last detail so we can swoon over this full gallery for days to come.
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Sat, 17 Apr 2021 08:00:07 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Real Weddings Romantic The Blog California Venues
Blind date: ‘How did the call end? I needed to feed the cats’ https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/apr/17/blind-date-claire-chris Claire, 33, global regulatory affairs, meets Chris, 33, senior statistician

What were you hoping for?
Belly laughs, mutual interests and chemistry (albeit virtually).

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Sophia & Malcolm’s Gorgeous & Bright Love Session http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/polkadotbride/~3/01pb5hyBZRY/ Give us colour, give us laughter, give us dogs any day of the week. Luckily for us, Sophia and Malcolm’s […]

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Sat, 17 Apr 2021 00:00:00 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Engagements Featured
Here’s Exactly What You Need To Include On Your Rsvp Response Cards http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/typepad/style_me_pretty/~3/HbUY10R5xC0/ For all the tips, tricks and advice from the pros, check out our Ultimate Stationery Guide!
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Fri, 16 Apr 2021 17:00:08 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Planning & Advice Stationery The Blog Weddings 101
How to Overcome Your Fear of Rejection When Trying to Meet Single Women http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/dondiebel/~3/vfkN--T7Ulo/how-to-overcome-your-fear-of-rejection.html Advice for Overcoming Rejection from Single Women

Are you limiting your chances for finding love and romance because of your fear of rejection when trying to meet single women or approaching them? This is a common fear and a big obstacle in taking action to meet those women you desire.

The problem is that you build up so much anxiety that it creates fear. The actual rejection is actually not that big of a deal. It's the self-induced fear and anxiety created by your own mind is the problem. Sometimes our mind is our worst enemy.

Put things in perspective. So what, if you're rejected by someone that you hardly know. Chances are you'll never see her again anyway. Just put the rejection behind you and not take it seriously and don't dwell on it...get over it! If you're going to play the dating game, getting rejected is just part of the game whether you like it or not.

Not every woman you meet or approach is going to be receptive to your advances. The main thing, is to keep on trying and never give up! Sooner than you think you'll meet a woman who likes you and will be receptive to your advances.

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There's another disadvantage of being afraid that women will reject you. And that is giving women power over you. They have the upper hand over you and ruling your emotions. You must not let this happen! You are the captain of your own ship. You are in charge of everything that happens to you. You have the power to react or choose not to react when you get rejected. You're much better off not reacting at all.

You must keep another fact in mind when you get rejected. She has every right to say no to you. And you have the right to say no to others. It's your choice. We all have the freedom to accept or reject anyone.

In closing, accept rejection as the price you have to pay until you meet someone who likes you and is attracted to you. Rejection is just a risk that you have to take if you want to succeed with women.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

[Author: noreply@blogger.com (Singles Expert)]

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Fri, 16 Apr 2021 15:31:00 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs
A Colorful California Winery Wedding Full Of European Inspired Touches http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/typepad/style_me_pretty/~3/FjO7dc0DklA/ Sisti & Co. to create a meaningful day that felt fresh and fun. Carmen Santorelli Photography was there to capture the love of the day and all the dreamy little details. Check out the full gallery for all the inspiration.
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Fri, 16 Apr 2021 14:00:41 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Fall Real Weddings Romantic Seasonal Wedding Trend The Blog Traditional Elegance
Choosing Your Wedding Date In 5 Easy Steps https://ruffledblog.com/choosing-your-wedding-date-5-steps/ Choosing your wedding date can feel like a daunting task, I know. But once you understand the key parameters to stick within, assessing all the possibilities seems much more manageable (and hey, exciting too!). Every couple’s planning timeline will vary, but on average, most will have a 12-18 month engagement, providing ample time to choose…

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Fri, 16 Apr 2021 09:00:00 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Wedding Planning Engaged Engagement Wedding Date Wedding Ideas Wedding tips
A 400-Person Spring Wedding Turned Intimate Fall Affair At Camp Lucy http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/typepad/style_me_pretty/~3/uMxtlFmVah4/ Highland Avenue Events and Bows And Arrows produced an event with textured warmth, through peachy candles, soft-hued bouquets, and a romantic arch to frame the chapel at Camp Lucy . With health and safety as their top priority, the pair celebrated their love with their closest friends and family. If you’re searching for the perfect spring color palette, you need to view the full gallery of images, curated lovingly by Kayla Barker — and be ready to give your Pinterest board a major refresh!
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Fri, 16 Apr 2021 08:00:43 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Real Weddings Romantic The Blog
Podcast Ep 221: Sometimes we’ve got to block, delete or unfriend https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/sometimes-weve-got-to-block-delete-or-unfriend/ Thanks to the internet, social media and our mobile devices, there will be occasions where we need to block, delete or unfriend. This is something that most of us don’t envision having to do with someone we once liked, loved or valued, and as a result, we get stuck in trying to avoid it. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why we resist blocking, deleting or unfriending even when not doing so means that we torture ourselves. I share some of the signs that it’s time to block, delete or unfriend, and questions we can ask ourselves to check in with our needs, boundaries and values.

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5 key topics in this episode
  • Not wanting to be someone who has to block, unfriend or delete is a big stumbling block for us. We see these acts as being indictments of our worthiness or how ‘good’ we are at relationships. It’s like If I unfriend or block my ex, they or others will know that our relationship wasn’t that great or that I haven’t handled the breakup well.
  • Keeping people in our contacts or remaining connected to them on social media despite how doing so makes us feel bad and keeps us stuck in harmful cycles of behaviour hogs up valuable bandwidth.
  • Everything that humans do is about trying to meet emotional needs. Our resistance to blocking, unfriending or deleting, and what we’re doing instead, are our attempts to meet other needs. But our feelings are the clue that we are ignoring our very real needs. And if we’re ignoring our needs, we’re ignoring our boundaries.
  • If engaging in a painful dynamic that actually requires a block/unfriend/delete is about trying to right the wrongs of the past, playing Columbo and snooping, self-sabotage or continuing with uncharacteristic and harmful behaviour, we need to stop. Is it worth me interacting with this person to end up feeling, thinking and behaving like this?
  • It’s critical to get honest about our motivations for remaining connected. This doesn’t necessarily mean that we will block, unfriend or delete, but it does mean that we can be more intentional. We can ensure that we’re not playing games and getting involved in other ego-driven behaviour.
Links mentioned

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Fri, 16 Apr 2021 03:00:00 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Blocking And Deleting Facebook and Breakups Playing Games In Relationships Social Media Taking A Break From Your Relationship The No Contact Rule
Sometimes we’ve got to block, delete or unfriend https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/sometimes-weve-got-to-block-delete-or-unfriend/ Thanks to the internet, social media and our mobile devices, there will be occasions where we need to block, delete or unfriend. This is something that most of us don’t envision having to do with someone we once liked, loved or valued, and as a result, we get stuck in trying to avoid it. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about why we resist blocking, deleting or unfriending even when not doing so means that we torture ourselves. I share some of the signs that it’s time to block, delete or unfriend, and questions we can ask ourselves to check in with our needs, boundaries and values.

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Android

5 key topics in this episode
  • Not wanting to be someone who has to block, unfriend or delete is a big stumbling block for us. We see these acts as being indictments of our worthiness or how ‘good’ we are at relationships. It’s like If I unfriend or block my ex, they or others will know that our relationship wasn’t that great or that I haven’t handled the breakup well.
  • Keeping people in our contacts or remaining connected to them on social media despite how doing so makes us feel bad and keeps us stuck in harmful cycles of behaviour hogs up valuable bandwidth.
  • Everything that humans do is about trying to meet emotional needs. Our resistance to blocking, unfriending or deleting, and what we’re doing instead, are our attempts to meet other needs. But our feelings are the clue that we are ignoring our very real needs. And if we’re ignoring our needs, we’re ignoring our boundaries.
  • If engaging in a painful dynamic that actually requires a block/unfriend/delete is about trying to right the wrongs of the past, playing Columbo and snooping, self-sabotage or continuing with uncharacteristic and harmful behaviour, we need to stop. Is it worth me interacting with this person to end up feeling, thinking and behaving like this?
  • It’s critical to get honest about our motivations for remaining connected. This doesn’t necessarily mean that we will block, unfriend or delete, but it does mean that we can be more intentional. We can ensure that we’re not playing games and getting involved in other ego-driven behaviour.
Links mentioned

Reclaim Your Work Boundaries, my new online course, launches in May. Find out more and join the waitlist

Subscribe and/or leave a review on Apple Podcasts (how-to guide here). It really helps in growing the show! If you’re new to podcastsfind out more about what they are and how to subscribe with this handy guide.

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Fri, 16 Apr 2021 03:00:00 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Blocking And Deleting Facebook and Breakups Playing Games In Relationships Social Media Taking A Break From Your Relationship The No Contact Rule
Sally & Nizar’s Intimate Sydney City Wedding http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/polkadotbride/~3/BU1Z50u3U8M/ It may have been the bride’s “excellent grammar” that first hinted there was romance to be had for Nizar. “Sally […]

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Fri, 16 Apr 2021 00:00:00 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Featured Inspired Weddings
Eight Delicious Batch Cocktails To Whip Up For Your At Home Wedding http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/polkadotbride/~3/yiokQdnwrW4/ With our celebration of, well, staying home this April, we wanted to make sure we have plenty of ideas to […]

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Thu, 15 Apr 2021 23:00:00 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Cocktail Friday Made The Home Issue
You Have To See The Flowers At This Florist’s Wedding http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/typepad/style_me_pretty/~3/UH4uHvzAs-8/ Mulberry and Moss lead the design aesthetic for a California wedding filled with charm. The couple turned to their close friends at Weddings by Susan Dunne to create a day that made their wildest dreams come true. Every image by Sposto Photography is more beautiful than the last. Watch the love unfold is the full gallery.
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Thu, 15 Apr 2021 14:00:06 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Fall Real Weddings Romantic Seasonal Wedding Trend The Blog Traditional Elegance Whimsical
Feels is a new dating app with profiles that look more personal http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Techcrunch/~3/hZI82LtyhQo/ Meet Feels, a new French startup that wants to change how dating apps work. According to the company, scrolling through photos and reading descriptions tend to be a boring experience. Feels want to improve profiles so that navigating the app feels more like watching TikTok videos or browsing stories.

“For the past 10 years, there’s been little innovation in the industry,” co-founder and CEO Daniel Cheaib told me. “The reason why many people uninstall dating apps is that it’s boring. Profiles all look the same and we feel like we’re browsing a catalog.”

In that case, Cheaib is thinking about Tinder, but also other dating apps that feel like Tinder but aren’t exactly Tinder, such as Bumble, Happn, etc.

Feels’ founding team has spent two years iterating on the app to find out what works and what doesn’t. Now that retention metrics are where they’re supposed to be, the company is now ready to launch more widely.

A screenshot of the app Feels

Image Credits: Feels

If you want to show interesting content to your users in a dating app, you have to rethink profiles. Arguably, this has been the most difficult part of the development phase. When you install the app, it takes around 15 minutes to create your profile.

At first, only 30% of new users finished the onboarding process. Now, around 75% of new users reach the end of the signup flow.

So what makes a profile on Feels different? In many ways, a profile looks more like a story, or TikTok posts. Users can record videos, add text and stickers, share photos, answer questions and more.

“When you’re done with the onboarding process, you have consistent profiles with people sharing content about them,” Cheaib said.

Like other dating apps, there are many options when it comes to gender identity — you’re not limited to woman or man. You can then say that you want to see all profiles or just some profiles based on various criteria.

After that, you can look at other profiles. Once again, Feels tries to change the basic interaction of dating apps. Most dating apps require you to swipe left or right, or give a thumbs up or a thumbs down. When you think about it, it’s a binary choice that requires a ton of micro decisions.

Sometimes, you don’t have any strong feelings about someone. Or maybe you just want to go to the next profile. And the fact that you have to triage profiles like this leads to a lot negativity, whether it’s conscious or subconscious — you keep rejecting people, after all.

When you’re looking at a profile on Feels, it fills up your entire screen. Videos start playing, you can see what the person likes and who they are in front of a camera. You can react on some content or you can simply move on by swiping up. There’s no heart or like button.

When the startup thought they finally were going somewhere, they raised a $1.3 million funding round (€1.1 million) from a long list of business angels, such as somebody in Atomico’s business angel program, Blaise Matuidi, Eric Besson, René Ricol, Ricardo Pereira , Yohan Benalouane, Nampalys Mendy, Jean Romain Lhomme, Julien Radic and Jean Michel Chami.

Now, Feels plans to attract new users with organic TikTok posts, some TV ads and more. The company wants to reach one million users by the end of the year with a big focus on France for now. There are 100,000 users right now.

When it comes to monetization, Feels started offering a premium subscription to unlock more features. The company is still iterating on that part.

Feels is just getting started in a crowded and competitive industry. Unlike other companies, Feels has invested heavily in its own product before working on user acquisition and paid installs. It’s an ambitious strategy but it has a lot of potential as it could lead to a truly different dating app.

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Thu, 15 Apr 2021 10:19:46 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Startups Mobile Apps Europe France Tech Dating France Newsletter Atomico Feels Dating App Daniel Cheaib Cheaib Jean Michel Chami Now Feels
Romantic Summer Lovin’ Yellow & Green Wedding Ideas http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/polkadotbride/~3/TZP17WPl-Mw/ Oh, be still our yellow loving souls, because today’s editorial is filled to the brim with stunning yellow sunshine – […]

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Thu, 15 Apr 2021 01:00:00 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Featured Inspiration Shoot
Planning For The Unexpected When Your Wedding Is At Home http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/polkadotbride/~3/h4rrA8Z43ms/ Weddings held at home are so very sentimental, comfortable and fun, but leave certain things to chance and you may […]

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Wed, 14 Apr 2021 23:00:03 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Venue Wisdom Wisdom The Home Issue
Tips for Single Men Who Are Balding http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/dondiebel/~3/ZT0mEUmI-hk/tips-for-single-men-who-are-balding.html A Single Man's Guide to Balding

This week I want to discuss the sensitive subject of balding. I know a lot of you guys freak out when you start losing your hair. So, what can you do about it? What I recommend is that you bald gracefully. And, you'd be surprised how many single women are turned on by bald men.

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I'm going to give you some tips to make you more attractive to single women if you are balding:

  • If you have just a few strands of hair on top, don't comb them over to the side or forward. This looks silly! Just go ahead and shave your head on top. It will look much, much better.
  • If you are bald on top, don't wear your hair thick on the sides. Just wear your hair real short and trimmed on the sides. It will look much, much better and give you that clean-cut look that single women like.
  • Consider growing a mustache or goatee to draw attention to your face rather than your head where you are bald or balding.
  • You know, a lot of guys are shaving their heads and going completely bald. This style is in and lots of women like it. Shave your head as an experiment and wear it around women and ask them how you look. Some men really look sexy when completely bald.
P.S.  - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at:  www.getgirls.com

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Wed, 14 Apr 2021 12:37:00 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Dating Don Diebel Americas
Texas Hill Country Wedding At The Bride’s Family Home https://ruffledblog.com/texas-hill-country-wedding-stonehouse/ Today’s Texas Hill country wedding is a testament to the power of love. While Katy and Steven originally had their hearts set on Mexico City as their destination for an April wedding, they ultimately opted for a more intimate affair at the bride’s family home due to the global pandemic. With sun-kissed landscapes and a…

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Wed, 14 Apr 2021 09:00:00 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Micro Weddings Al Fresco Reception At Home Wedding Backyard Wedding Covid Wedding Intimate Wedding Jona Christina Ranch Wedding Rustic Chic Small Wedding Sprout Florals Sunset Inspired Texas Hill country Tree Ceremony
It’s a bad deal if you have to compromise yourself https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/its-a-bad-deal-if-you-have-to-compromise-yourself/ Before I was aware of my people-pleasing ways, I would always find a reason to justify compromising myself. It was a “great opportunity” or it seemed “urgent”. Maybe this person could be the “love of my life”. It’s best not to burn bridges, eh? Future Nat will deal with any issues. Maybe they’ve changed? Doesn’t everyone deserve a second (or hundredth) chance? If I don’t do this, I’ll wind up living in a cardboard box by the weekend. It’s not great and I feel icky about it, but it will do for now. Well, it’s better than being alone.

Now, the thing about compromising yourself is that even if you deceive you while doing so, when the doo-doo hits the proverbial fan and things don’t shake out as you hoped, you’re really hard on yourself. You find it hard to forgive you as you deal with the consequences of your decisions, which might simply be your shame and lack of self-trust.

Mistaking ‘compromise’ for accepting less than who you really are and want to be is a trap. If the other person’s advancing their self-interest at your expense while calling it ‘mutual’, or they’re quite simply in exactly the situation they want, it’s not a compromise! They haven’t had to compromise jack! It’s only you that’s compromised yourself.

Unless you’re in literal dire straits, so, I don’t know, you need a kidney or it’s ‘this’ or homelessness or being in danger, don’t compromise yourself.

To be clear, I’m not saying don’t compromise, which is finding a solution you can both live with if possible. Do that where appropriate. I’m saying don’t compromise your values, who you are, what matters to you, your needs and boundaries. The short-term benefit of having the company/attention of someone who’s emotionally unavailable or certainly not available for the type of relationship you need or want does not outweigh the medium to long-term consequences. This is especially when you know that you need and want more than what you’re settling for.

You might think, Well, if I do the equivalent of accepting the lower-paid job now, it will pay off with a promotion. I have a foot in with the company. That can sometimes work well in business, but it.does.not.work in your interpersonal relationships. Start as you mean to go on instead of having to convince and convert someone into the basics.

There’s rarely a genuinely good justification for accepting the bad deal of compromising yourself. It has to be a short-term bad deal that doesn’t give you a medium to long-term hangover. We can all get away with compromising ourselves occasionally (and learning from it), but we can’t do it as a lifestyle.

Remember, with a short-term mindset, you will keep saying yes to instant gratification and what doesn’t actually work for you. You’ll repeatedly take the bad deal because you’re afraid there isn’t any deal beyond the moment. It’s the ‘some crumbs are better than no crumbs’ mentality. But you can’t make great deals with people and situations that compromise you, or where you’re willing to do that to you.

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Wed, 14 Apr 2021 05:54:48 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Dating Nat Happiness & Self-Esteem Compromise In Relationships Self-critical Emotional Needs Self-forgiveness Unmet Needs Selling Yourself Short In Relationships Being Hard On Yourself
Facebook tests video speed dating events with ‘Sparked’ http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Techcrunch/~3/-u8gtH2zbRQ/ Facebook confirmed it’s testing a video speed-dating app called Sparked, after the app’s website was spotted by The Verge. Unlike dating app giants such as Tinder, Sparked users don’t swipe on people they like or direct message others. Instead, they cycle through a series of short video dates during an event to make connections with others. The product itself is being developed by Facebook’s internal R&D group, the NPE Team, but had not been officially announced.

“Sparked is an early experiment by New Product Experimentation,” a spokesperson for Facebook’s NPE Team confirmed to TechCrunch. “We’re exploring how video-first speed dating can help people find love online.”

They also characterized the app as undergoing a “small, external beta test” designed to generate insights about how video dating could work, in order to improve people’s experiences with Facebook products. The app is not currently live on app stores, only the web.

Sparked is, however, preparing to test the experience at a Chicago Date Night event on Wednesday, The Verge’s report noted.

Image Credits: Facebook

 

During the sign-up process, Sparked tells users to “be kind,” “keep this a safe space,” and “show up.” A walkthrough of how the app also works explains that participants will meet face to face during a series of 4-minute video dates, which they can then follow up with a 10-minute date if all goes well. They can additionally choose to exchange contact info, like phone numbers, emails, or Instagram handles.

Facebook, of course, already offers a dating app product, Facebook Dating.

That experience, which takes place inside Facebook itself, first launched in 2018 outside the U.S., and then arrived in the U.S. the following year. In the early days of the pandemic, Facebook announced it would roll out a sort of virtual dating experience that leveraged Messenger for video chats — a move came at a time when many other dating apps in the market also turned to video to serve users under lockdowns. These video experiences could potentially compete with Sparked, unless the new product’s goal is to become another option inside Facebook Dating itself.

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Despite the potential reach, Facebook’s success in the dating market is not guaranteed, some analysts have warned. People don’t think of Facebook as a place to go meet partners, and the dating product today is still separated from the main Facebook app for privacy purposes. That means it can’t fully leverage Facebook’s network effects to gain traction, as users in this case may not want their friends and family to know about their dating plans.

Facebook’s competition in dating is fierce, too. Even the pandemic didn’t slow down the dating app giants, like Match Group or newly IPO’d Bumble. Tinder’s direct revenues increased 18% year-over-year to $1.4 billion in 2020, Match Group reported, for instance. Direct revenues from the company’s non-Tinder brands collectively increased 16%. And Bumble topped its revenue estimates in its first quarter as a public company, pulling in $165.6 million in the fourth quarter.

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Facebook, on the other hand, has remained fairly quiet about its dating efforts. Though the company cited over 1.5 billion matches in the 20 countries it’s live, a “match” doesn’t indicate a successful pairing — in fact, that sort of result may not be measured. But it’s early days for the product, which only rolled out to European markets this past fall.

The NPE Team’s experiment in speed dating could ultimately help to inform Facebook of what sort of new experiences a dating app user may want to use, and how.

The company didn’t say if or when Sparked would roll out more broadly.

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We don’t need to announce to our ex that we’re ‘over’ or ignoring them https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/we-dont-need-to-announce-to-our-ex-that-were-over-or-ignoring-them/ Many moons ago, I bumped into an ex who made a point of letting me know that he was “over” me. To be clear, I hadn’t asked, and he dropped it into the conversation as if he’d kept a juicy secret under wraps and couldn’t hold it for even a second longer. I knew there and then that his assertion wasn’t true, which was evidenced a couple of hours later when he tried it on. Side eye.

Of course, I also knew that it wasn’t true because I know what it’s like to say that you’re over someone or that you’re unbothered by their actions or to tell them that you’re ignoring them.

Me feeling as if I had to go out of the way to tell someone, for instance, that I wasn’t talking to them, was attention-seeking. I just want you to know that I’m ignoring you. You know, just in case you were totally unaware or in doubt about it.

It’s this mistaken idea that these pronouncements give you power. Side note: they don’t.

I couldn’t just slink off and go about my life; I wanted them to be bothered. That part of me that likes to be in control–yep, ego–didn’t see the point in ignoring someone if they weren’t going to jump through hoops to chase me or make amends. Why do you think so many of us struggle with the likes of No Contact or unfriending someone? It’s as if we humans need a bit of pomp and ceremony to go with our hurt feelings. If people don’t know or don’t act suitably wounded by us distancing, we internalise it as them rejecting us.

There is no need to call your ex and say “I’m over you”. Really what you’re saying is “I’m almost over you but I want to give you one last chance to opt in on this great deal. Going once. Going twice. Wait. Let me start counting again.”

Sometimes it’s “I’m not really over you at all, and I’m hoping that saying I am will make you realise you’re not over me too.” And you feel wounded to the core when they just accept it. Or, they re-emphasise that they can’t be and give you what you want. Or, even worse, they reciprocate and then pull the same rinky-dink behaviour that broke the relationship in the first place.

And sometimes it’s “Just so we’re all clear, I don’t want a frickin relationship with you. I can’t believe I even fell for you, and I’m still angry about your assholery. But I don’t want you sitting around thinking I’m pining for your arse, because I’m not. So take that!” And in the moment, it does feel good to say this. Possibly. But it can also become an opening to game-playing and them trying to make a power grab.

If you’re concerned with winning, being right or power, that’s your ego at work, not the real you. They’ll know they’re history when they are history and you’re off living your life. No announcement needed, just actions that match your intention to move forward with love, care, trust and respect.

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Tue, 13 Apr 2021 05:39:11 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Dating Letting Go Power In Relationships The No Contact Rule Unfriending Over my ex Blocking And Deleting Ignoring Someone Trying To & 039 win& 039 In Relationships Trying To Be Right
We don’t need to announce to our ex that we’re ‘over’ them or ignoring them https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/we-dont-need-to-announce-to-our-ex-that-were-over-or-ignoring-them/ Many moons ago, I bumped into an ex who made a point of letting me know that he was “over” me. To be clear, I hadn’t asked, and he dropped it into the conversation as if he’d kept a juicy secret under wraps and couldn’t hold it for even a second longer. I knew there and then that his assertion wasn’t true, which was evidenced a couple of hours later when he tried it on. Side eye.

Of course, I also knew that it wasn’t true because I know what it’s like to say that you’re over someone or that you’re unbothered by their actions or to tell them that you’re ignoring them.

Me feeling as if I had to go out of the way to tell someone, for instance, that I wasn’t talking to them, was attention-seeking. I just want you to know that I’m ignoring you. You know, just in case you were totally unaware or in doubt about it.

It’s this mistaken idea that these pronouncements give you power. Side note: they don’t.

I couldn’t just slink off and go about my life; I wanted them to be bothered. That part of me that likes to be in control–yep, ego–didn’t see the point in ignoring someone if they weren’t going to jump through hoops to chase me or make amends. Why do you think so many of us struggle with the likes of No Contact or unfriending someone? It’s as if we humans need a bit of pomp and ceremony to go with our hurt feelings. If people don’t know or don’t act suitably wounded by us distancing, we internalise it as them rejecting us.

There is no need to call your ex and say “I’m over you”. Really what you’re saying is “I’m almost over you but I want to give you one last chance to opt in on this great deal. Going once. Going twice. Wait. Let me start counting again.”

Sometimes it’s “I’m not really over you at all, and I’m hoping that saying I am will make you realise you’re not over me too.” And you feel wounded to the core when they just accept it. Or, they re-emphasise that they can’t be and give you what you want. Or, even worse, they reciprocate and then pull the same rinky-dink behaviour that broke the relationship in the first place.

And sometimes it’s “Just so we’re all clear, I don’t want a frickin relationship with you. I can’t believe I even fell for you, and I’m still angry about your assholery. But I don’t want you sitting around thinking I’m pining for your arse, because I’m not. So take that!” And in the moment, it does feel good to say this. Possibly. But it can also become an opening to game-playing and them trying to make a power grab.

If you’re concerned with winning, being right or power, that’s your ego at work, not the real you. They’ll know they’re history when they are history and you’re off living your life. No announcement needed, just actions that match your intention to move forward with love, care, trust and respect.

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How to Pick Up Single Women Using Teddy Bears http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/dondiebel/~3/skYwaVJSjLg/how-to-pick-up-single-women-using-teddy.html Method to Pick Up Single Women With Teddy Bears

This is a unique way to meet, attract, and pick up single women using what I call the, "Teddy Bear Method." This involves bringing a small teddy bear with you to bars and nightclubs. You can buy these little teddy bears at any toy store.



All you have to do is set it on your table and it will attract women's curiosity. I guarantee it! They will approach you and ask, "Who's the teddy bear for?" You will reply, "I'm giving it to the first lady who will meet me for lunch or dinner. Would you be interested?"

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Try this method and eventually some attractive single woman will take you up on meeting for lunch or dinner and she will get the teddy bear as a gift from you. She will admire you, too, for your unique approach in getting a lunch or dinner date with her.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: www.getgirls.com

[Author: noreply@blogger.com (Singles Expert)]

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NYC Bridal Session With A Wild, Flourishing Backdrop https://ruffledblog.com/nyc-bridal-session-flourishing-backdrop/ Few things make our hearts sing like an NYC bridal session with verdant floral pillars and couture bridal fashion sprinkled straight from Heaven. Lucky for us (and you!), Lindley Battle Photography is serving up exactly that in her ethereal gallery. Replete with gilded bridal headpieces, handwritten calligraphy, lacy motifs, shimmery shoe accents and romantic portraits along…

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Parents believing they ‘had it worse’ makes empathy difficult for them https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/parents-believing-they-had-it-worse-makes-empathy-difficult/ My mother wanted me to do ‘better’. She wanted me to have and make the most of advantages and opportunities, and she was terribly afraid of me, not just failing and so not ‘succeeding’, but also ending up ‘like her’.

I’m not alone in having a mother who didn’t get to be, do and have what she needed and wanted in childhood. Nor am I alone in having a mother who became an adult in a time when there were still very hard and fast rules about what was and wasn’t permissible for women. My mother knew what it was like to be in shitty situations that you were or felt trapped in because of the economics, power imbalance or pressure to conform so as not to ‘invite’ racial or sexual harassment or condemnation.

So I was pushed, heavily criticised and acutely aware of when I was disappointing her. She was unpleasable. That constant striving and pressure played a key role in me being a people-pleaser, perfectionist, overthinker, over-giver and over-responsible. For a long time, like well into adulthood, it was as if I only knew her feelings and aspirations, not mine. I was absorbed into her as a reflection of her doing ‘better’. I didn’t understand that I pushed the buttons of her own narrative.

Like so many people I’ve chatted with whether in my personal life or through my work, I found her lack of empathy for my own struggles baffling. Like, mind-boggling. Especially when they were often like-for-like situations taking place in different times.

We often think that shared experience makes way for empathy, maybe even an opportunity for bonding. In theory, it ‘should’, but in reality, it can be triggering.

Side note: It’s also triggering for us when they expect our empathy while denying the reality of our own similar lived experience. Or they’re sensitive about something we’re ‘not allowed’ to have feelings about. Hello gaslighting.

We like to think, as children, that we’ve arrived into the world with parents who’ve dealt with their stuff and are ready and equipped to meet our needs. In reality, plenty of our parents barely got to be children themselves. They were a hell of a lot less aware of their emotional baggage, and some of their unresolved issues were hot to the touch. With the benefit of hindsight, I recognise that it’s hard for someone to see you when they don’t see themselves. It’s also difficult to empathise about something you’ve buried and never dealt with.

But I also think it’s crucial to acknowledge this:

When you have parents who base their expectations on you being ‘better’, their narrative is always that they have it ‘worse’.

Their story is that they coulda, woulda, shoulda been X if only they had what we had/have. They also often believe that Y only happened because of what they deemed to be ‘worse’. That makes empathy really bloody tricky because it requires stepping away from their story.

It’s why when we come along with our humanness and struggle in spite of how much ‘better’ they think we have it, it ignites anger and defensiveness. Or acute silence. We’re told, for instance, that it ‘must’ be our fault or reminded about rules we ‘should’ have followed to avoid our problem. Or they minimise it because, well, it was ‘much worse’ back in the day.

Of course, if we experience much of what our parents did in spite of what they see as ‘better than what they got’, that blows a hole in the stories they tell themselves. That’s why some of them still cling to those narratives despite how much it destroys our relationship with them. It’s also why, with the benefit of hindsight, some will realise not just how hard they were on us but also on themselves–and try to evolve the relationship.

And if we can acknowledge that just like us, our parents have their own distorted stuff to work through, we can finally forgive ourselves. We can stop believing that our parent(s)’ behaviour and yes, lack of empathy, was about us being not ‘good enough’. We can even stop acting as if it’s our job to live their dreams or meet their unmet needs. Only then are we free to have a more healing, boundaried relationship with them and with ourselves.

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Mon, 12 Apr 2021 06:54:38 +0000 BlogLikes - Find Most Popular Blogs Dating Expectations Mother Daughter Relationships Conflict and Criticism Healthier Relationships Unpleasables Self-critical Unmet Needs The Other Mother Critical Parents
Parents believing they ‘had it worse’ makes empathy difficult https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/parents-believing-they-had-it-worse-makes-empathy-difficult/ My mother wanted me to do ‘better’. She wanted me to have and make the most of advantages and opportunities, and she was terribly afraid of me, not just failing and so not ‘succeeding’, but also ending up ‘like her’.

I’m not alone in having a mother who didn’t get to be, do and have what she needed and wanted in childhood. Nor am I alone in having a mother who became an adult in a time when there were still very hard and fast rules about what was and wasn’t permissible for women. My mother knew what it was like to be in shitty situations that you were or felt trapped in because of the economics, power imbalance or pressure to conform so as not to ‘invite’ racial or sexual harassment or condemnation.

So I was pushed, heavily criticised and acutely aware of when I was disappointing her. She was unpleasable. That constant striving and pressure played a key role in me being a people-pleaser, perfectionist, overthinker, over-giver and over-responsible. For a long time, like well into adulthood, it was as if I only knew her feelings and aspirations, not mine. I was absorbed into her as a reflection of her doing ‘better’. I didn’t understand that I pushed the buttons of her own narrative.

Like so many people I’ve chatted with whether in my personal life or through my work, I found her lack of empathy for my own struggles baffling. Like, mind-boggling. Especially when they were often like-for-like situations taking place in different times.

We often think that shared experience makes way for empathy, maybe even an opportunity for bonding. In theory, it ‘should’, but in reality, it can be triggering.

Side note: It’s also triggering for us when they expect our empathy while denying the reality of our own similar lived experience. Or they’re sensitive about something we’re ‘not allowed’ to have feelings about. Hello gaslighting.

We like to think, as children, that we’ve arrived into the world with parents who’ve dealt with their stuff and are ready and equipped to meet our needs. In reality, plenty of our parents barely got to be children themselves. They were a hell of a lot less aware of their emotional baggage, and some of their unresolved issues were hot to the touch. With the benefit of hindsight, I recognise that it’s hard for someone to see you when they don’t see themselves. It’s also difficult to empathise about something you’ve buried and never dealt with.

But I also think it’s crucial to acknowledge this:

When you have parents who base their expectations on you being ‘better’, their narrative is always that they have it ‘worse’.

Their story is that they coulda, woulda, shoulda been X if only they had what we had/have. They also often believe that Y only happened because of what they deemed to be ‘worse’. That makes empathy really bloody tricky because it requires stepping away from their story.

It’s why when we come along with our humanness and struggle in spite of how much ‘better’ they think we have it, it ignites anger and defensiveness. Or acute silence. We’re told, for instance, that it ‘must’ be our fault or reminded about rules we ‘should’ have followed to avoid our problem. Or they minimise it because, well, it was ‘much worse’ back in the day.

Of course, if we experience much of what our parents did in spite of what they see as ‘better than what they got’, that blows a hole in the stories they tell themselves. That’s why some of them still cling to those narratives despite how much it destroys our relationship with them. It’s also why, with the benefit of hindsight, some will realise not just how hard they were on us but also on themselves–and try to evolve the relationship.

And if we can acknowledge that just like us, our parents have their own distorted stuff to work through, we can finally forgive ourselves. We can stop believing that our parent(s)’ behaviour and yes, lack of empathy, was about us being not ‘good enough’. We can even stop acting as if it’s our job to live their dreams or meet their unmet needs. Only then are we free to have a more healing, boundaried relationship with them and with ourselves.

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