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Sunday Firesides: The Liberation of Submission

We exist in an age of limitless optionality. There are few universal social mores to check our behavior, few cultural expectations to direct our courses. No particle of personal identity can be taken for granted. No molecule of meaning may be presumed upon. Within the expansive restrictions of law, you can pretty much dress, say, live, and do whatever you’d like.  On paper, this landscape of unbounded freedom seems like an unmitigated boon. On the ground, it’s experienced as existentially ex...
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Sunday Firesides: Walk It Off

“Walk it off.”  If today a football coach said this to a player who’d just taken a hit, he might be criticized for evincing the kind of “toxic,” tough-guy approach that pays insufficient attention to an athlete’s health and feelings.  A shame, because there’s much wisdom to be found in this old-school maxim — both on and off the field.  Certainly, if an athlete has suffered a serious injury, he ought to be pulled from play. But, when it comes to minor strains and sprains, little bumps an...
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Podcast #708: Overcoming the Comfort Crisis

Our world has never been more convenient and comfortable. With just a few taps of our fingers, we can order food to our door, access endless entertainment options, and keep our climate at a steady 72 degrees. We don’t have to put in much effort, much less face any risk or challenge, in order to sustain our daily lives.  In some ways, this quantum leap in humanity’s comfort level is a great boon. But in other ways, it’s absolutely killing our minds, bodies, and spirit. My guest says it’s time ...
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Sunday Firesides: To Get the Right Answer, You Must Ask the Right Question

You walk up to a door and put the wrong key in the lock. It doesn’t turn. Do you then keep trying that same key over and over again? Of course not. Yet we do something very similar when we’re seeking to gain access to important insights in life. We ask a question, find the sought-for answer barred to us . . . and yet keep asking the very same thing, hoping that with the passage of time or a change in circumstances, the understanding will somehow come. What’s needed to unlock the insight ...
Tags: Life, Emerson, A Man's Life, Viktor Frankl, Sunday Firesides


Podcast #705: The Best Tools for Personal Change

There’s no shortage of information out there on how to change — how to lose weight, exercise more, curb your anger, quit smoking, and every other kind of habit someone might want to pick up or drop. But despite this avalanche of information, you’re probably struggling to change just as much as you ever did.  What you need is an actual strategy — to identify what particular barrier is keeping you from a particular goal, and a specific solution to that specific roadblock.   My guest is well-pos...
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Sunday Firesides: Bring Back the Kids Table

When you were growing up, and your family was invited to a dinner party, chances are you ate exclusively with your young peers at a kids’ table, while the adults ate exclusively with their fellow grownups at their own. Today, the host of a dinner party might put children and adults together, calling to his own progeny: “Come sit next to me and tell these folks what you’ve been working on at school!” While there isn’t hard data tracking the use of the kids’ table over time, an anecdotally-b...
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Are You Prepared for the Coming Existential Crisis?

Many people have, throughout their lives, experienced varying degrees of existential angst: the feeling of being some combination of unmoored, bored, anxious, restless, depressed, lost, isolated, and/or alienated, and simply wondering what it’s all about. For many too, these feelings of existential angst have been exacerbated over the past pandemic-burdened year. Yet, heightened though these feelings may have been, they may have also, in a strange way, been easier to deal with during this pe...
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Clausewitz on Overcoming the Annoying Slog of Life

Man, life can be a slog sometimes.  Each day, annoying little piddly things arise that aren’t hard to manage one by one, but, when taken together, really muck up your mojo. Your car breaks down, your kid gets sick, an employee loses a file, you’ve discovered a leak in your roof . . . and it’s just 9 a.m.  How do you handle these small-but-rhythm-destroying vexations? How do you deal with slog-inducing annoyances without letting them throw a wrench in the gears of your goals? Thankfully, ...
Tags: Productivity, Leadership, Life, Action, Personal Development, Friedrich Nietzsche, Isaiah Berlin, Richard Wagner, Clausewitz, A Man's Life, Carl von Clausewitz, Napoleon Clausewitz


Podcast #703: The Hidden Qualities of Genius

We tend to throw the word “genius” around pretty casually, saying so-and-so has a genius for a particular skill, or sarcastically pointing out someone’s failure by saying, “Nice work, genius!” But what makes an actual genius, a genius? My guest today has spent over two decades exploring that question by studying the world’s most iconic and original thinkers and creators, both past and present. His name is Craig Wright, he’s a professor emeritus of music at Yale who continues to teach a course...
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Sunday Firesides: Love Your Enemy

In the aftermath of the Second Punic War, Roman citizens erected several statues — which remained standing for centuries — of Hannibal. Hannibal. The cruel Carthaginian general who started the war, occupied most of southern Italy for a decade and a half, and terrorized Romans for just as long. Typical of an honor-based culture, ancient Romans had a relationship with their enemies that was marked by both fierce antagonism and sincere admiration. That Hannibal inspired great fear and loathing, di...
Tags: Life, Italy, Jesus, Hannibal, Romans, Seneca, Livy, A Man's Life, Sunday Firesides


Podcast #701: Why Are We Restless?

Most everyone has experienced restlessness from time to time. A feeling of wanting more, but being unsure of how to find it; of struggling with distraction, but being unsure of what to focus on; of striking out in various directions, but not feeling any more fulfilled. While we tend to think of restlessness as a very modern phenomenon, a French diplomat and philosopher, Alexis de Tocqueville, observed the very same problems in America two centuries ago. And the roots of our restlessness go ba...
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The 7 Habits: Be Proactive, Not Reactive

With our archives now 3,500+ articles deep, we’ve decided to republish a classic piece each Sunday to help our newer readers discover some of the best, evergreen gems from the past. This article was originally published in March 2018. Like most American boys, I played baseball in the summers. And as cliché as it may sound, I took away some important life lessons from my days on the diamond. One that has stuck with me and that I think about often even today is the adage on how to field ground ba...
Tags: Featured, Life, Austria, Stephen, Personal Development, Stephen Covey, Frankl, Covey, A Man's Life, Viktor Frankl, Circle Of Influence, Circle of Influence Focusing, Circle of Concern


Podcast #699: The No-Nonsense Guide to Simplifying Every Aspect of Your Life

Before Gary Collins left a bureaucratic government job to pursue a more independent existence off the grid, he had to work on downsizing and decluttering his life. The lessons he learned in ultimately achieving that aim apply to everyone — even those with no plans to leave civilization — who would like to lead a simpler life. Gary shares those lessons in his book The Simple Life Guide to Decluttering Your Life, and with us today on the show. We begin with why it’s so easy to get caught up in ...
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20 Aphorisms That I Thought Were Dumb as a Boy But Now Appreciate as a Grown Man

With our archives now 3,500+ articles deep, we’ve decided to republish a classic piece each Sunday to help our newer readers discover some of the best, evergreen gems from the past. This article was originally published in January 2014. When I was a young man, I would scoff at well-intentioned adults who would sometimes offer up little aphorisms when I got in trouble or had a problem. Little nuggets like, “This too shall pass,” generally went in one ear and out the other. They sounded too simpl...
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Sunday Firesides: Want to Solve Your Social Problems? Get Over Your Self

Shyness, social-interaction-sabotaging awkwardness, is commonly chalked up to a variety of causes. Genetics, personality, upbringing, a simple lack of confidence. But its real root is typically overlooked.  The shy are self-centered. Now, that may seem harsh, but, it’s literally true. When you’re suffering from shyness, you’re focused on yourself, on how you’re feeling. All you’re thinking about is: How am I doing? Did I say the wrong thing? Do they like me ?  What you’r...
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Sunday Firesides: Finding the Way

In East Asian religious and philosophical traditions, Tao means “the Way,” and represents the underlying order of the universe. To live life wisely and well, one must live in accordance with its unnamed but discernible principles and patterns. The Way is Truth, the Absolute, as well as the path to Truth. The concept of the Way is not unique to these traditions. The aim of Stoicism is to harmonize one’s will with Nature. The earliest disciples of Jesus called themselves not Christians, but “foll...
Tags: Life, Jesus, Tao, A Man's Life, Manvotionals


What Gandhi and a 19th-Century Prussian Prince Can Teach You About Making Unbreakable Resolutions

One technique people have used for centuries to improve themselves is the making of resolutions.  At the start of the year, or at any time throughout it, someone may resolve to lose ten pounds, quit smoking, or write in their journal each day. But of course, as endlessly pointed out, most such aims fail to be achieved.  According to some estimates, only 8% of people keep their New Year’s resolutions. Those abysmal numbers are likely about the same for resolutions that are initiated at ot...
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Sunday Firesides: The Cost of a Thing

To figure out the cost of something, we typically look to its price tag. But this number represents but a small slice of the expenditure the purchase will require. Besides the upfront cost, one must also factor in the cost of future maintenance, repair, and upkeep. A car necessitates fuel, oil changes, insurance. A house will need to be filled with furniture, and nice furniture, to, you know, match the niceness of the home. The bigger the house, the more of your time you’ll have to dedicat...
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Podcast #695: Sisu, the Finnish Art of Strength

In Finland, “sisu” is a concept that, while it can’t be strictly translated into English, roughly corresponds to a combination of bravery, resilience, grit, and determination. My guest today will help us unpack it further, and offers advice on how everyone can live life with more sisu.  Her name is Joanna Nylund and she’s the author of Sisu: The Finnish Art of Courage. Joanna explains what sisu is and how it was exemplified in the David and Goliath story of the Finns facing down the Russians ...
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Want to Feel Like a Man? Then Act Like One

With our archives now 3,500+ articles deep, we’ve decided to republish a classic piece each Sunday to help our newer readers discover some of the best, evergreen gems from the past. This article was originally published in May 2012. Since starting the Art of Manliness in 2008, I’ve interacted with thousands of men from all over the world. One thing that I’ve learned over the years is that many grown men out there simply don’t feel like men. I’m not talking about “feeling like a man” in the cart...
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Sunday Firesides: A Long Obedience in the Same Direction

Journals in which only the first few pages have been written in. Bibles in which only the first few pages have been creased. Dumbbells gathering dust. Running shoes that still look new. Books yet unopened. Texts yet unanswered. Paints yet unused.  Our lives are littered with the detritus of things once begun (and often begun numerous times), and then abandoned. And we wonder why we haven’t been transformed.  If the starting of things (or the buying of things) is all it took to change...
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Podcast #693: Why Is It So Hard to Admit You Were Wrong?

Personal responsibility, the ability to own up to one’s mistakes, is a foundational element of character. It’s also the only way we can grow and get better. But as anyone with any experience being human well understands, dang, it sure can be hard to do. My guest today explains why, and how you can yet rise to meet this important challenge. His name is Elliot Aronson, and he’s a social psychologist and the co-author of Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Dec...
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Do Self-Help Books Help?

Self-help books — which aim to help individuals independently improve some or all aspects of their lives — have a long history. In the 19th century, such literature focused on strengthening one’s character . Classics of the early 20th century like Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends & Influence People offered advice on how to be more likeable. In recent years, self-help books have proliferated on topics like forming habits, reaching goals, losing weight, increasing productivity, overcomi...
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Podcast #692: The Two Halves of the Warrior’s Life

The Roman army hires a former legionnaire to hunt down a courier and intercept a letter he is carrying from the apostle Paul. But when this mercenary overtakes the courier, something happens that neither he nor the empire could have predicted. This is the plot of the latest novel from writer Steven Pressfield, entitled A Man at Arms. Pressfield is the author of numerous works of both fiction, including Gates of Fire and Tides of War, and non-fiction, including The War of Art and The Warrior E...
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Sunday Firesides: Out From Under the Skin

When smartphones first started taking off, which, strange to recall given their current ubiquity, was only a decade and a half ago, the subsequent years were filled with a fair amount of concern and contemplation as to how these devices were affecting our minds, behaviors, relationships, and culture. Many a thought piece, and a bestselling thought book, questioned the place of this new tech in our lives. Blogs turned out thousands of articles with recommendations for managing the increasingly d...
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The Best Winston Churchill Quotes

It’s been posited that, outside Jesus and Shakespeare, no one has been quoted more often than Winston Churchill. The reason for the enduring cultural ubiquity of Churchillisms is two-fold. First, the canon from which they can be distilled is simply huge. Over his lifetime, Churchill penned forty-four books and many thousands of articles, speeches, memos, and letters, which, in total, amount to about 20 million words.  But it was, of course, not simply the quantity of Churchill’s writing that ha...
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Sunday Firesides: Every Man Needs His Own Walden(s)

In recent years, it’s become fashionable to question the authenticity of Thoreau’s famous experiment in seeking greater solitude, simplicity, and self-reliance on the shores of Walden pond. “Do you know his cabin was just two miles from the town of Concord?” “That he sometimes went home to have dinner with friends and family?” “He didn’t even own the land on which he lived — Emerson did!” Yet, Thoreau never intended for his sojourn to be something entirely “pure.” Instead, his point from the...
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Sunday Firesides: Action Is Your Purpose

One of the keenest desires of every individual is to find his purpose — the reason you’re here on earth, a grand, overarching why to guide your days. The search for this all-encompassing purpose (really, typically purposes, plural) is a worthy one, and often a decades-long pursuit. But while you’re in the hunt for your singular calling, there is a more universal type of purpose to embrace: the pursuit of action. Take as your aim the task of ever closing the gap between intention and ...
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The Man Book: Creating a Reservoir of Timeless Wisdom

With our archives now 3,500+ articles deep, we’ve decided to republish a classic piece each Friday to help our newer readers discover some of the best, evergreen gems from the past. This article was originally published in June 2019. Editor’s Note: This is a guest post from Dan Hickey.  Wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it. —Einstein In May of 2011, while scanning the Long Island Sound on the top deck of the Port Jefferson ferry, I had an epiphany. At ...
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Podcast #687: How to Get a Handle on the Voice in Your Head

We all talk to ourselves all the time. This kind of inner dialogue can be a good thing, helping us focus and work through problems, but it can also go off the rails, turning into worry and negative rumination. My guest today calls this negative self-talk “chatter,” and in a book of the same name he outlines how to get a handle on it. His name is Ethan Kross, he’s a psychologist and the director of the Emotion & Self Control Lab, and we begin our conversation with the way introspection can be ...
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