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Paranoid Partner

Hi, I have been knowing my SO for a year now, I like to believe that we have a great connection. He has told me in the beginning that he has trust issues and have a hard time letting people into his life. He doesn’t have many friends and he prefers to be home on his own which at first I had no problem with because I am a homebody myself. However, after a while, I noticed he had intimacy issues which then rose quite a few problems within our relationship. He distances himself quite often, becomes...
Tags: General, Paranoia, Anxiety, Therapy, Illegal drugs/alcohol abuse, Intimacy, Dating, Psychosis, Delusions, Childhood Trauma, Delusional Thoughts, Boundaries, Trigger, Decompensate


9 Ways to Free Yourself from Ruminations

Of all my symptoms of depression, stuck thoughts are by far the most painful and debilitating for me. The harder I try to move the needle from the broken record in my brain, the louder the song becomes. Ruminations are like a gaggle of politicians campaigning in your head. Try as you might to detach from their agenda, their slogans are forefront in your mind, ready to thrust you down the rabbit hole of depression. Logic tells you they are full of bull, but that doesn’t keep you from believing wh...
Tags: Psychology, Elsa, Disney, Stress, Personal, Mindfulness, Self-help, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Mental Health And Wellness, Self-worth, Ruminating, Kristin Neff, Group Beyond Blue on Facebook, Abraham Low


How Can I Go to Therapy When I Can’t Talk to People?

From a young woman in the U.S.: My social anxiety is so bad that I always have trouble talking to people, no matter if they’re my friends or not. Most of my friends are people I met online so that’s not an issue, but even texting them can be difficult for me. I’m just scared that I’ll say something annoying, or stupid, or wrong, or hurt someone’s feelings. In school I have easily gone through days without saying a word. After I graduated high school I was finally able to go to the doctor with my...
Tags: General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Social Anxiety, Entering therapy


What Is He Afraid Of?

The man I’ve been on and off with for almost 6 years has finally admitted to me that “everything is there” in me, but he cannot see a future. He is an honest, good man who has deep fears and avoids intimacy. He doesn’t know what to do when I cry and never talks about his feelings. Our “relationship” has been quite unusual. We never interacted with friends and family, never dated. We were basically friends with benefits who also shared deep and casual discussions with daily interaction. I’ll admi...
Tags: Psychology, General, Marriage, Relationships, Anxiety, Personality, Intimacy, Dating, Fear Of Commitment


High Anxiety - part two

High Anxiety - part two
Tags: Comics, Anxiety


How to Combat Gym Anxiety

I used to hate the gym—not because of actual exercise per se, but purely because I was so self-conscious. I was obsessed with the idea that I’d be criticized for my shoddy squat form or brief five minutes on the treadmill—and then exiled from my gym forever, cast off onto the island of exercise pariahs. I hated it…Read more...
Tags: Fitness, Mental Health, Anxiety, Weightlifting, Lifehacks, Gym


Follow Up: My Boyfriend Has A Baby From A Past Girlfriend

On 2009-09-07 someone asked a question with the title “My Boyfriend Has A Baby From A Past Girlfriend” It was answered by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP. I’m in the same predicament (if not worse) and can relate to how she felt. It’s been 9 years since that was posted, and was wondering if there was someway to follow up. How did her life turn out? I keep on wondering how my life will end up if I were to stay in my current relationship. Would I ruin my life? The post you referred to is l...
Tags: Psychology, General, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Parenting & Children, Daniel J Tomasulo


Jenna Lotti ‘Nervous’

Boston native Jenna Lotti releases the mid-tempo electro track Nervous. As way to cope with anxiety, Jenna began writing songs. Like any aspiring artist, the LA based singer turned to open mics, picked up the guitar, and recorded YouTube videos in her bathroom.  Jenna’s mix of vulnerability and talent stands out from the crowded electronic arena. Jenna says, “It’s a song about the dark force of anxiety which has dominated my life since I was 10 years old. I’ve always used writing as an outlet b...
Tags: Music, Youtube, La, Boston, Anxiety, Buzz Artists, Dan Shay, Jenna, Hunter Hayes, Boston Music Awards, Jenna Lotti, Female performer, Jenna Lotti nervous, New England Music Awards, Pop Act


How Do I Handle Social Anxiety?

From a teen boy in India: my life stuck at a same wheel trap where there is no way just to only revolve so, I thought lets just train myself to be perfect in that . I am social anxious person can’t talk to people outside, can’t go out a lot I always think people would eat me its hard for me to go out and live life like others do I am so insecure about my looks my talk my attitude can’t get rid of it .. So much anxiety, depression. I am only 17 years old and i am balding. it hurts me to see me li...
Tags: General, India, Anxiety, Therapy, Social Anxiety


About Myself Worrying about Someone Whom I Don’t Have Any Connection

This started last year (18.12.2017) ,I heard through my friend that this particular person died I don’t know about him I had no relationship with him. I never even talked to him, I never had a date with him, I never even know about him. But his death shocked me I cried day and night I couldn’t eat I went into depression I began to cry for no reason. I just couldn’t forget him. The thing I want to know is why am I affected to this level when I don’t even have any kind of relationship with him. Th...
Tags: Death, Grief, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Grieving, Mortality, Shock


Sexual Abuse?

I have a question for you. I come from a very dysfunctional family. There is a history of alcoholism and sexual deviancy and abuse throughout both sides of my parents’ lineage. My question is this: Do you consider what happened to me to be sexual abuse? My father would sleep with me in bed with him for years. He would put his hands down my pants and hold my bare bottom and put his hands between my thighs (as if to warm them). This is how we would “snuggle up and prepare to go to sleep” every nig...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Childhood Trauma, Alcoholism, Vietnam, Sexual Trauma


Internal Voices that Make Me Hit Myself or Do Certain Things

It’s been a year since I’ve been getting these thoughts (they aren’t external). But recently they have been getting more and more violent. They make me hit myself or I will jerk my head and scream “no” when the voice decides to bother me. Usually it will make me do things, or else something bad will happen. Other times it will make me hurt myself. These thoughts give me horrible anxiety but I’ve never gotten actual mental health. My brother is already in therapy from our traumatic experiences, b...
Tags: Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Self Harm, Hearing Voices, School Guidance Counselor


I Have the Desire for Something Horrible to Happen to Me

At 14 my life is easy but sometimes I have fantasies of either getting into an accident (or just getting injured to the point of being hospitalized ) or losing everything I have, including the people I love. I have no suicidal thoughts nor have I ever self-harmed, I’m not very confident in myself but I don’t hate myself . The problem is I imagine these scenarios so often and in so much detail that I bring myself tears. I’m worried that these thoughts could become something destructive. Thank you...
Tags: Psychology, England, General, Fantasy, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Suicidal Thoughts, Personality, Violence, Phobia, Suicidal Ideation


Psychology Around the Net: January 12, 2019

Are you ready to learn about simple, no frills self-care tips we can all follow? Why incompetent people have more confidence than you’d think they should? How men and women experience chronic pain differently? Well, good news! This week’s Psychology Around the Net has all that and more. The Free Self-Care You Should Be Doing Right Now: Setting realistic exercise schedules. Tackling one cleaning or organizing project at a time. Getting enough sleep. Extremely basic but extremely helpful self-c...
Tags: Psychology, Books, Women, Memory, Values, Research, Disorders, Stress, Self-help, Confidence, Anxiety, Yoga, Men, Women's Issues, Chronic Pain, Men's Issues


Are Casual Suicidal Thoughts Normal?

From a teen in Venezuela: So, the thing is… I have occasional suicidal thoughts that kinda have been going on and off since I a child, but since I’ve been more stressed lately they’d become more frequent. I wasn’t a depressed child (quite the contrary tbh), but I blamed myself for my parents’ constant arguing (I did till the end of middle school) and every time they fought I would wonder/believe if I hadn’t been born they would have been happy without me and I tried to smother myself a couple of...
Tags: School, General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Suicidal Thoughts, University, Venezuela, Self Worth, Self Esteem, Suicidal Ideation


I’m Freaking Out

From Canada: I am a 15 year old living in Canada. Since new years day (4 days ago) I have been experiencing bad insomnia, severe panic attacks and dissociation like never before. I have had dissociation since May but it never stopped me from functioning. Over the last few days, it has been really bad and I spent lots of time researching symptoms and they seem to match stories of people with acute schizophrenia. I quit using marijuana 20 days ago and I have heard that using this drug can make you...
Tags: General, Fatigue, Insomnia, Anxiety, Medical issues, Teen Issues, Illegal drugs/alcohol abuse, Canada, Panic Attacks, Lethargy


Waking Up Panicking

For a few years at random times around 3-5 a year I wake up sitting up In my bed on the edge, feeling lucid but feeling I’m trapped somewhere else and Thinking the darkness will never go away, lasting only a few seconds before I realise where I am… in these moments I have talked to my partner to help me and he has. I feel like I’m half lucid and half still asleep. You did not ask a direct question but perhaps you are wanting to know what may be wrong. You might be describing parasomnia experienc...
Tags: Sleep, Anxiety, Nightmares, Sleep Paralysis, Sleep Study


Do I Need Professional Help?

From a teen in the U.S.: I’m very anxious all the time and I overthink things a lot. I often get so anxious that I start shaking and I’m really on edge, and I lose track of things. I’ll snap at people when I don’t mean to because I’m freaked out. I sometimes get panic attacks that cause me to miss events or bail and hide. Some of my friends have suggested I seek therapy, none of them are mental health professionals. I wonder if maybe I’m blowing my problems out of proportion, or maybe I’m just n...
Tags: General, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Self Esteem, Entering therapy


Conflicts in Dating a Single Dad

I am in a situation where I have been the patient understanding partner but am at a point where I am considering leaving the relationship because of the kid. I think first is the issue of discipline. My partner, to me, is very inconsistent in his discipline being simultaneously too harsh and lenient (ex. “I’m going to get my belt if you don’t listen and I am not giving you anything to eat, now come here and give me a hug. Want to watch TV?”). I do not directly address this in disagreement but he...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Personality, Parenting & Children, Dating, Single Parent, Insensitivity, Single Father


High Anxiety

High Anxiety
Tags: Comics, Anxiety, Comic, Webcomic


I Have Constant Noises in My Head

From a young man in Nepal: My brain is active all the time and has to either listen to all the subtle noises happening around and decipher their rhythms, or remember past memories and audio samples, sometimes on loop. I often get irritated by my my family members who I otherwise adore and are great people and I love them and behave well most of the times. When I wake up in the morning, I feel so sad about myself and the wretchedly unproductive day I’ll have to spend because everything is so inde...
Tags: General, Depression, Anxiety, Medical issues, Therapy, Medication related questions, Intrusive Thoughts, Nepal, Auditory Hallucinations, Hearing Things, David Burns Dr Burns


I Feel Like I Want Everybody around Me to Feel Bad

I feel like I want everybody around me to feel bad and suffer and I want myself to suffer just because I feel bad about. It happens when I get upset about something, (or I choose to be upset about it). and what really happens is that inside me I get this deep urge to do things that either hurt me or hurt others around me, it’s like I feel spite towards others and towards myself. I don’t know if it is a call for attention or just an ego act, but I feel it a lot lately and at some point, it is bot...
Tags: Psychology, General, Displacement, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Violence, Resentment, Anger, Lebanon, Self Esteem, Projection, Spitefulness


Best Friend Suddenly Hates Me

My best friend and I are extremely close. I have OCD, an eating disorder, depression and anxiety. She has depression and anxiety. About two weeks ago she suddenly stopped talking to me. I apologized profusely for whatever I had done. She then said I hadn’t done anything wrong but that she didn’t like my personality and that I made her uncomfortable. This obviously hurt me and I asked what she was talking about. She proceeded to insult me and has not talked to me since. Every time I try to talk t...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Teenagers, Mental Health, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Friendships, OCD, Adolescence


My Husband Keeps Confusing Me

I am newly married from India. My problem is that my husband keeps misleading my understanding and make me confuse everything, and he is leaving me in that confusion by hurting me. Now I am in a situation where am not able to take any decision. I am stressed out with the confusion. I am feeling tension whenever the confusion created to security kind of issues. And he closed all the doors to know about the confusion. regarding Misleading my understand, Suppose if two persons have same name having...
Tags: General, Marriage, Bullying, India, Confusion, Paranoia, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Manipulation, Controlling Behavior, Learned Helplessness, Self Doubt, Gaslighting


Can Frequent Partying Cause Anxiety?

From Finland: In the last year or so, I’ve been partying more than usual. I have not been drinking daily or medicating anxiety with alcohol (I have a history of anxiety), only on friday OR saturday (never both), but definitely drinking more than is healthy. Put it this way: there have been fairly few weekends over the last 6 months where I have been sober all the way through. My hangovers tend to be really bad. I have noticed in the past that sometimes, the day after a hangover, my anxiety tends...
Tags: General, Anxiety, Therapy, Illegal drugs/alcohol abuse, Social Life, Finland, Alcoholism, Alcohol Abuse, Partying, University Of North Carolina, Medical School, Addiction Recovery


Why Do I Lack Empathy/Compassion?

I notice that I have a real issue genuinely feeling for others. A coworker tells me she has to go somewhere for her cancer and I fake compassion, but I don’t think I actually care. Another coworker has someone dying in the hospital, all day she complains about being tired, and all I wanna do is tell her that nobody cares about her problems and to shut up. I feel in the workplace that you shouldn’t discuss personal issues and complain so much about them because you’re there for work. When i see a...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Compassion, Empathy, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Personality, Loving Kindness


Nostalgia

I’ve noticed that sometimes while I’m watching a video on my phone, someone in the video will say a certain phrase that makes me nauseous and dizzy. This phrase comes up again and again but I can never remember it after. When I try to go back in the videos, the things that make me nauseous were never actually said. What could this be? The fact that the same phrase is coming up, again and again, lets you know that it is likely to be internally generated rather than external. Internally generated ...
Tags: General, Anxiety, Therapy, Personality, Psychosis, Nausea, Nostalgia, Memory & Pereception


My Relationship with My Mother Shattered after Telling her I Hurt Myself

From a teen in the U.S.:  Just before summer vacation my mom and I had gotten into a fight that lasted for hours. It was dumb and it was really just her yelling at me and me crying, aksing her to calm down. Eventually, it became to much and i ran into the bathroom and hurt myself, like I had been doing for months. I would bite my arms so hard they’d bruise, bang my head into the walls, pinched myself, whatever, just never cut. That night she was mad at me for going into the bathroom for so long ...
Tags: Family, General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Self Harm, Adolescence, Self Injury, Parentified


Feelings Dependent on Responses to Messages

I’ve been having problems lately controlling my patience and emotions over whether or not someone replies to my text messages/emails. All started a few months ago I was catching up with a friend over text. As she had recent success with relationships, while I have been struggling with interpersonal relationships in recent times, I reached out to ask her opinion over what positive qualities she saw in me, as I’ve done with my close friends and family to combat my self-esteem problems, because she...
Tags: Psychology, General, Communication, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Resilience, Social Anxiety, Impatience, Text Messaging, Unstable Relationships, CBT


Probably Compulsion

I don’t know if this problem is psychologically related.It’s been almost a year now,and I have been obsessing about certain things.This feeling usually occurs mostly during the holidays.The latest is my obsession about saliva swallowing in my body.I seem to concentrate on it so much that I’m worried that it’s affecting me so much now.I can’t even watch TV comfortably.In the past,I have experienced certain obsessions like my breathing.I seem not to think about these obsessions whenever I am in an...
Tags: Stress, Anxiety, Therapy, Obsessions, Anxiety Disorder, Compulsions