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Australian Authorities Want an AI To Settle Your Divorce

For better or worse, there’s a good chance your current love life owes something to automation. Even if you’re just hooking up with the occasional Tinder fling (which if you are, no judgment), you’re still turning to Tinder’s black-box algorithms to pick out that fling for you before turning to more black-box…Read more...
Tags: Science, Australia, Divorce, Artificial Intelligence, Breakups, Christian Porter


Why Won’t She Leave Her Boyfriend if She Loves Me?

From a young man in Israel:  I’m in love with someone who has a boyfriend. She refuses to leave him and keeps asking me to wait. I met this girl about 6 months ago, we started hanging out, getting to know each other, I fell in love with her only to find out later that she has a boyfriend. I gave her a choice to make, either me or him. she chose me, but then I found out that she never left him and continue to talk to both of us. Sometimes she says loves me, sometimes says its only attraction. S...
Tags: General, Cheating, Relationships, Israel, Infidelity, Dating, Breakups, Heartache, Conditional Love


Why Do I Keep Thinking about My Ex?

From a young woman in the U.S.: My current boyfriend “mark” is my high school sweetheart, we met at 14 and dated until 16. He then broke up with me and immediately started dating someone else. I was head over heels for him, he was my first love, so I kept trying to keep him in my life even if it was just as friends. We went through this ugly cycle where he left her and cane back to me and left me and went to her, it happened at least 3 times. Then I met “rick” who I later started dating and date...
Tags: Family, General, Relationships, Anxiety, Dating, Breakups, Self Esteem, Mark, Rick, Rick You, Mark Mothers


Is It Possible to Continue Relationship After a Suicide Attempt?

From a woman in the U.S.: I met the most loving guy 6 months ago through a dating app. He broke up with me a week ago through text saying he “couldn’t do this anymore” and “wanted it over” when he was having a depressed episode, a week after his family had called the psych ward because he was suicidal. That week I had witnessed him hurt himself and he was suicidal. After he was handcuffed and taken in, he convinced them he wouldn’t hurt himself and the next day he sought a psych eval that showed...
Tags: Facebook, General, Suicide, Relationships, Depression, Bipolar, Therapy, Abuse, Trauma, Dating, Breakups, Posttraumatic Stress


Devastated

I don’t understand how we were in love one minute and then it was like me and our relationship never existed. I was in a loving genuine relationship. At least I thought I was. He had me on cloud 9. I was in love and Happy and I had no doubts that he felt the same. We were vulnerable to one another, he put me in his future when he talked about it. Then one day out of nowhere he needed to miss me and it all went downhill from there. He needed space but his space was occupied by another woman eithe...
Tags: Relationships, Dating, Breakups, Heartache


Stopping Contact with Ex Who Has Mental Health Issues

My girlfriend of 10 years has been experiencing gradual decline in mental function for the last 4 years we’ve been together. (delusional thoughts, conspiracy theories, believing dead relatives and celebs are still alive, calling 911 on several occasions to “report” what she sees and believes). I believe a her condition be an onset of schizophrenia. Her behavior led to an intervention with family members which then led to a trip to a 5150 (In police handcuffs) : she is now back in family’s care a...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Dating, Schizophrenia, Mental Illness, Breakups, No Contact


Love My Boyfriend But Can’t Stop Thinking About Breaking Up!

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year and I’ve been pretty happy. We’re kinda long-distance (four-hour drive) so only see each other every few weeks which has been super hard. I’m moving closer to him soon for uni though. Although I love him, and his family, he’s the only guy I’ve ever dated and I can’t help feeling like I’m missing out on stuff? I want more experiences, but I love him and the thought of breaking up with him makes me so so upset. I’m his first serious girlfriend but he h...
Tags: Psychology, General, Australia, Relationships, Anxiety, Teen Issues, Guilt, Personality, Dating, Breakups, DBT, Fritz Perls


Why Do I Freak out When Ex Tries to Hug Me?

From a young woman in Azerbaijan:  Hello, First of all, thanks a lot to give me this opportunity. I just wonder one thing that I can’t figure out and it bothers me a lot. I had a relationship 3 years ago and it had a very painful end which also caused me more trust issues than I had before. The breakup was calmer than the relationship itself and we stayed friends but after 3 years this person showed up again and apologizes over and over again and proposes me. During all these years we have met s...
Tags: General, Relationships, Anxiety, Betrayal, Dating, Azerbaijan, Breakups, Mistrust


How to Reset Your Finances After a Breakup

What’s more stressful than the first conversation you ever have with your significant other about money? The moment when you realize it’s just not working out.Read more...
Tags: Personal Finance, Relationships, Lifehacks, Breakups


Struggling to Have a ‘Normal’ Life for Myself

I’m approaching 30, and I still feel like an unsure, unstable 20-year-old! I have a lot of trauma in my past (abused and neglected as a child, bullied/ridiculed at school, and experienced abusive relationships as an adult). I’m still hurting because of my past. My life is kind of bizarre to outsider…I work in the night club industry and although I make good money for working little hours, I don’t really have a normal life. There’s very little structure to my life, I do as I please. I’m very impu...
Tags: Psychology, Relationships, Failure, Depression, Ptsd, Anxiety, Therapy, Borderline, Self-esteem, Personality, Trauma, Dating, Breakups


Why Do My Relationships End Badly?

From a young woman in Bangladesh: I have been in a very physically and mentally abusive marriage for 4 years now. I tried my best to make my marriage work and meet up to my husband’s and his family’s expectations but I am always being told that I am good for nothing and I should probably kill myself. I have been accused of infidelity multiple times even when I had never done anything like that. But recently, I just couldn’t tolerate all that anymore. I started sleeping with an ex colleague and I...
Tags: General, Suicide, Relationships, Therapy, Self-esteem, Abuse, Dating, Bangladesh, Breakups, Heartache


How Can I Reassure My Boyfriend that I’ve Changed?

From the U.S.:  My bf and I have been together about 8 months. The last half of this was sprinkled with traumatic events because of my past traumas. I was emotionally abusive at times, reacted with anger/insults out of jealousy/insecurity. He wants to leave but I don’t want to split, I am promising him I will change because I know I have/will (I am finally in counseling) I love him endlessly although some of my actions have not shown that. I feel like after all of the failed relationships in my ...
Tags: General, Relationships, Therapy, Anger Management, Borderline, Borderline Personality Disorder, Insecurity, Abuse, Trauma, Dating, Emotional Abuse, Manipulation, Jealousy, Trust Issues, Breakups, Couples Therapy


How to Find the Strength to Leave a Relationship

It takes tremendous courage to leave a relationship that no longer fits. It takes tremendous self-love to know you deserve better. It takes tremendous faith to believe something better, someone better lies just around the corner in your future. It takes tremendous wisdom to feel deep in your bones that you were born to live a life of joy and that everything you dream about can be yours. I am here to offer living proof that you do deserve better. That you must leave. That if you can imagine be...
Tags: Psychology, Books, Relationships, Self-help, Codependence, Breakups, Self Care, Heartache, Self-worth, Self Love, Paulo Coelho, Esther Hicks, Don Miguel Luis


I Want to Move Back to My Ex But My Family Won’t Let Me

So I want to get back with my daughter’s father. We broke up originally because I cheated which was my mistake. Please, no bashing I suffered enough already. Point what I am getting to is I moved 1000kms away from him because of the fights and accusations and threats that was happening. So I moved to my parents it has been One and a Half months since the fights we both want to get back together and his family wants me home too, as I was living with him for almost a year. Now that we have sorted ...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Cheating, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Self-esteem, Personality, Parenting & Children, Infidelity, South Africa, Breakups, Coping Skills


5 Ways to Resolve Your Trust Issues Before Your Next Relationship

Heartbreak hurts but you will love again. After a broken relationship and a painful heartbreak, many people ask themselves this question: “Where’s the wine?” Then, they follow up with a more important question: “How do I ever trust again?” Many who ask this question have experienced some amount of pain in a past relationship and now feel stuck in the present with trust issues. You want to move forward, you want to date again, and you want a heart open to the possibility of love. But you fear tha...
Tags: Psychology, Relationships, Love, Self-help, Trust Issues, Breakups, Publishers, Yourtango, Hindsight, Heartbreak, Relationship Trust Issues


Free Live Webinar: Who Are You Dating? Learning About Our Patterns

(Please note: This free live webinar will be recorded and a copy made available to all who register.) So, who have you been hanging out with lately? Think about the last person you dated. Have you been dating the same unhealthy type each and every time only packaged a little differently? Have you thought that this time it looks promising, only to be surprised when it didn’t work out again? Have you read every article you can find online about what you should look for next when choosing a date?...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Self-help, Dating, United States, New Jersey, South America, Breakups, Loneliness, Webinar, Relationship Advice, George Washington University, Gabe Howard, Heartbreak, Love Life


Thinking of My Ex While in a New Relationship

I am in a new relationship(5 months). Yet I keep thinking about my ex. It’s been almost 3 years since i broke up with my ex of two years he was my high school sweetheart. We broke up because when i went away to college, he became a little controlling. That caused me to subconsciously move away from him and i started to focus on other men & in the end i cheated. We had a very bad break up and even though i ended things It left me depressed where from time to time i would suddenly burst into tears...
Tags: General, Time, Self-esteem, Personality, Trauma, Intimacy, Dating, Breakups, Heartbreak, Intimacy Issues


February 2019 Media Recommendations

The brevity of February always throws me off. All my bills are due at the end of the month, and February is the one month that I’ll be late on a bill (or forget to pay one in its entirety, oops). So it’s not surprising that the month is almost over, and I’ve yet to post this (recent concerns over my cat’s health don’t help). But it’s February 2019, damn it, so this still counts. To be honest, the short month is only one reason why I didn’t consume a lot of media about sex. However, I had a few i...
Tags: College, Communication, Breakups, Sex Workers, Kink, Phil Collins, Midori, Stella Harris, Lisa Diamond, Media Recommendations, Female Sexual Dysfunction, Ray Moynihan, Barbara Mintzes


How Do I Accept that My Boyfriend Rejected Me for Cheating?

From India: My newly found partner is not okay with my past. I met this guy 1 month ago and I didnt realise when I fell in love with him. I know its funny but in order to open up completely I told him stuff about my past… like how I was in a challenging marriage and how I ended up cheating. I told him whatever happened after separation and how I repent. But he says that hes not okay with it and will never be. I really connect with him and I feel I cant let him go. I dont know how to knock some s...
Tags: General, Cheating, Relationships, India, Infidelity, Rejection, Trust Issues, Breakups


Places to travel to get over an ex

Sorry folks, Valentine’s Day is over, and half of the couples you saw flooding your Instagram feed with #bae #forever will be broken up by summer. Oh, you were one of the people that posted a gratuitous kissing selfie? Well, we sincerely wish you the best of luck in your romantic endeavors — but perusing airfares wouldn’t hurt, in case you have to make a quick escape. Whether you’ve just been dumped, plan on dropping a big bomb on your partner soon, or can’t imagine this relationship outlas...
Tags: Travel, Amazon, Asia, India, Earth, Service, Colombia, Canada, Nepal, Arctic, New Zealand, Peru, Miami, South America, Breakups, New Delhi


I’m Afraid of Having My Heart Broken Again

From Belgium: Long story short; had a tough breakup after 4,5 years of relationship last summer. Got over it pretty well thanks to self development and letting go. This fall I fell head over heels for this girl I had a pretty long eye contact with. She’s totally my type physically, has confident body language, seems self-controlled and rather intelligent. She doesn’t bow or break under social pressure either. Pretty much my perfect match. Issue number 1: I contacted her via Facebook over some ev...
Tags: Facebook, General, Relationships, Vulnerability, Anxiety, Intimacy, Dating, Belgium, Breakups, Heartache


7 Ways to Let Go of a Past Love

According to Oscar Wild, “the heart was made to be broken.” Few experiences are as painful as severing the ties with a romantic partner — even if you’re the one who initiated the breakup. Your world may feel groundless, colorless, meaningless. However, a heartbreak can also inspire surprising self-growth and gift you with a sense of independence and vitality that you didn’t know what possible. Often tears fertilize the seeds of self-transformation and nurture a new self that needed to be discov...
Tags: Psychology, Relationships, Divorce, Self-help, Woody Allen, Breakups, Grieving, Grief And Loss, Ralph Nader, Robert Redford, Personal Growth, Mental Health And Wellness, Marriage And Divorce, Coping, Heartache, Buddhist




I Regret Leaving My Girlfriend

From the U.S.: The past few days have been the hardest. The mother of my son and I was together for about three years. I’ve never been the type to express how I feel in a sensitive way. I recently told her I didn’t wanna be with her and I felt it to be true up until she left and it’s been two weeks and she has already moved on and found a lover. I didn’t realize how much I loved her until she was gone now she is gone forever and I don’t get a chance to prove how much I love her. All she tells me...
Tags: General, Relationships, Regret, Guilt, Parenting & Children, Dating, Breakups, Heartache


What Can I Do if I Feel Like I Can’t Handle My Relationship?

From a young woman in Hungary: Dear Doctor! I’m writing because I think I have a serious problem with my relationship and I feel like I’m unable to handle it on my own. I overcame depression years ago, but even without it I’m pretty much an introverted person, who has never been emotionally stabile and I feel like my boyfriend is using this against me. Our relationship started nearly 3 years ago, at the beginning it seemed to be alright, we used to talk a lot, we dated like normal people I think...
Tags: General, Relationships, Abuse, Dating, Hungary, Breakups, Gambling Addiction, Emotional manipulation


Breakup Stages

I am wondering what stage of breakup I am in. Breakup occurred three weeks ago, had been five years with him. I’m starting to accept the reality, but I’m wondering if I’m still in denial and have the other four stages of grief to go through. He (former boyfriend) blindsided me with the breakup, it was sudden. I have spent many days being extremely upset and wanting him to contact me and tell me he regrets that decision. While I still hope he eventually regrets it, I feel like I’m starting to acc...
Tags: Grief, Relationships, Dating, Breakups, Self Worth, Grieving, Heartache, Coping Skills


Suffering an Unexpected Betrayal

My daughter and the man that I loved both had a relationship behind my back. More than two months ago more my daughter and the man with whom I had a relationship (today a friendship) went to live together but now they already separated. At some point we were a couple and he was keeping the relationship with me until I discovered it. The lies they told have affected me psychologically from a betrayal I least expected. (From Argentina) You’ll need some time alone to recover from this and some ther...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Depression, Therapy, Self-esteem, Parenting & Children, Betrayal, Abuse, Argentina, Breakups


Everyone I Love Leaves, I’m Always Alone

My mom left me, my dad, and brother about a year ago. Leaving me to do with my depressed family members and picking up the pieces that’s she broke. Now she’s married with a new friend family stating how she should never been happier. I’m not Sure why I could not maleness her that happy. Now my dad wants to leave me and my brother to give start a new life if we without us saying how we are a burden to take care of. I had a boyfriend for a while who I loved but he left also. All I have is love for...
Tags: Family, Divorce, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Abandonment, Breakups, Separation Anxiety


I Can’t Get Over My Girlfriend

From a teen in the United Arab Emirates: my gf is 18 years old and we live in dubai and the issue is she cheated with 3 of my friends and and they have bigger dicks than me sorry for the words im using, and i cant get over it because i never had such past like getting sex or any of that but other than that she lost her virginity to me and i lost it to her..anyways i cant get over it and its making a huge deal and its been 2years like that and i dont know what to do so please help me thank you Th...
Tags: General, Sex, Cheating, Virginity, Therapy, Teen Issues, Insecurity, Infidelity, Intimacy, United Arab Emirates, Dubai, Breakups, Self Worth, Self Esteem, Heartache


Ask Dr. NerdLove: My Girlfriend Won’t Let Me Break Up With Her

Hello all you perfumed meatbags of impending doom, and welcome to Ask Dr. NerdLove, the only dating advice column that patches a New Game+ into your love life.Read more...
Tags: Love, Dating, Ask Dr Nerdlove, Lifehacks, Breakups, NerdLove