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Do Nice Zombies Make Worthwhile Friends?

Some people have asked me why I don’t engage with Trump supporters, try to understand them better, invite deep conversations with them, or something along those lines. I think it’s a valid question, and the answer is simple: I don’t see any real potential in such relationships. For me they all land somewhere on a scale that spans from dumb to dumber to dumbest. It’s not the people that are the issue per se, but the behavior pattern of supporting Trump during this time is so rotten to the core...
Tags: Relationships, Lifestyle, Careers, Values, Steve, Trump, Don, Cary Elwes, Wisconsin Democratic Party, Abundance, Creating Reality


Reader Experiences

On July 22 I shared a checking in with you post, inviting people to share what they’ve been experiencing during this time and how they’re doing. A lot of people decided to take me up on that – more than I was expecting. After personally replying to the first several dozen people that wrote to me, I let the remaining responses pile up for a while, and then I gradually read through them. I did read all of the responses, although I regrettably didn’t reply to everyone else after the first day or...
Tags: Careers, Wisconsin, Emotions, Pacific, Steve, Trump, Kevin Smith, Kevin, Vizzini, Inigo Montoya, Rachelle, Wisconsin Democratic Party, Maga, Creating Reality, Pavlina BrandingRedesigning StevePavlina


Create Your Day

Here’s a new video about creating your day in advance, not just mentally (like with a to-do list) but emotionally as well. Receive Steve's new articles by email. Read related articles: StevePavlina.com FAQPersonal Development for Smart PeopleDisruptive Innovation
Tags: Productivity, Lifestyle, Careers, Emotions, Steve, StevePavlina, Creating Reality


Creating Reference Experiences

This video shares how to boost your confidence, overcome impostor syndrome, and upgrade your self-image by creating powerful reference experiences you’ll cherish and appreciate. Receive Steve's new articles by email. Read related articles: StevePavlina.com FAQPersonal Development for Smart PeopleDisruptive Innovation
Tags: Productivity, Video, Lifestyle, Careers, Emotions, Steve, StevePavlina, Creating Reality


Fragile Objections

Suppose you’re sitting in a Toastmasters meeting where members are practicing their speaking skills. Suppose there are about 20 members in the room, which would be pretty typical for a Toastmasters club. Now suppose you hear a fellow member give a speech that you find objectionable, and it bothers you to hear such words spoken within your club. The topic is permitted within the club though. What do you do? Do you stay quiet and keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself? Do you voic...
Tags: Relationships, Careers, Values, Steve, Abundance, Creating Reality


Fragile vs Resilient Relationships

My relationship with Rachelle is very anti-fragile. Even when one or both of us is at our worst or when there’s a lot of turmoil going on around us, there’s little risk to our relationship. We can say or do the stupidest things, and we still stick like glue. We have plenty of freedom to express different aspects of our personalities, to explore different values, and to make significant career or lifestyle changes, and we can still stick together through it all. It’s hard to find a vulnerable ...
Tags: Relationships, Careers, Values, Steve, Rachelle, Creating Reality


Framing Yourself Into a Corner

It’s good to be aware of the potential risk of framing yourself into a corner when you’re faced with a tricky situation. Suppose you’re in a relationship, and you catch your partner kissing someone else. How do you frame that situation? It may depend on the details of course, like the type of kiss or which person was being kissed. Suppose it’s a bit ambiguous though and that you have some different ways of looking at it. Maybe it was just a friendly kiss. Maybe it’s a sign of something dee...
Tags: Careers, Values, Steve, Creating Reality


Journaling Conversations

Many of my journal entries take the form of conversations, similar to a discussion, debate, or interview between two parties. Most often I use the interview approach. I play one role, usually as myself. I assign the other role to a different perspective, such as my future self, the universe, or the spirit of a departed friend. Then I switch back and forth between these roles, journaling the conversation. When I’m writing as myself, I write just like I’m speaking to someone. When I write...
Tags: Careers, Emotions, Steve, Creating Reality


I Registered to Vote

After decades of never voting in any election, I finally registered to vote for the first time ever. My registration is nonpartisan. I’m not a member of any political party. Some would say that I should have remedied this long ago. Why did I wait so long? Partly I’ve been stuck with an old frame that I adopted when I was much younger, a frame that hasn’t aged very well. While I was growing up, my parents belonged to opposite political parties, so their votes would cancel ...
Tags: Careers, Values, Steve, Creating Reality


Sparky Questions

Recently I was pondering ways to generate ideas that feel more fiery or sparky. I always have a lot of options for what to do next, and it’s easier for me to feel bored than stressed, so I often want to explore paths that offer some extra stimulation and challenge. Here are the questions I came up with. I thought I’d share them here on my blog in case you find value in them as well. Where are the sparks (the sparky opportunities)?What is the voice of courage saying now?What will summon ...
Tags: Careers, Emotions, Steve, Sparky, Creating Reality


Manifesting to Avoid Confrontation

One wonky way that people try to apply the Law of Attraction is by attempting to bypass an unpleasant confrontation. Instead of attracting what they want, they’re partly trying to skip over what they don’t want. Examples include trying to avoid: a difficult break-up conversation with a relationship partnerfirmly clarifying boundaries with a friend or family membertalking to one’s boss about leaving a jobrenegotiating with creditorsbeing criticized for making a decision that others may disl...
Tags: Careers, Steve, Don, Creating Reality


Your #1 Priority May Lead You Astray

While it’s good to set goals and establish priorities, there’s a risk when you become myopically focused on a single outcome. Single mindedness can be okay for a while if you’re progressing nicely, but if you’ve gotten stuck and the needle isn’t moving, this stuckness can prevent you from making progress in any area of life. And that can really make you feel trapped or stagnant. Have you ever seen the following issues in yourself or someone else? Still needing to lose weight being used ...
Tags: Health, Productivity, Careers, Disneyland, Steve, Don, Hay House, Rachelle, Debbie Downer, Creating Reality, Transformational Leadership Council


Reality’s Clues

This morning I experienced a fun little synchronicity – reality’s way of dropping me an extra clue when I need it. I went for my usual sunrise run, this time along a paved running and biking path that circles the outskirts of Las Vegas, known as the Beltway Trail. Here are some pics of what it looks like: I was finishing up the audiobook Surge by Mike Michalowicz. He noted the common adage that runners who start out too fast end up walking sooner. I’ve heard that ma...
Tags: Careers, Las Vegas, Steve, Creating Reality, Beltway Trail, Mike Michalowicz He


Imaginary Failure

Confidence and certainty are often disconnected from accuracy. I’m sure you’ve seen plenty of cases where someone holds a belief that clearly isn’t true. What you see so clearly in others in harder to see within yourself, however. For that reason it’s wise to identify, question, and test some of your assumptions to see if they’re actually true. A good place to start is to consider what other people experience routinely that may seem to be difficult or impossible for you. This can help you ...
Tags: Lifestyle, Careers, Steve, Don, StevePavlina, Creating Reality


Coronavirus Pressure

For quite a while my home state of Nevada was seeing less than 200 new coronavirus cases per day. Then the casinos, bars, and many other local businesses were allowed to reopen. I soon saw the stats creeping up to 300-400 new cases per day… then to 500-1000 per day. Now we’re around 1400 new cases per day. Hospitals are filling up and getting close to capacity. We’re also seeing more days with double-digit deaths from the virus. This isn’t too surprising, especially given what Rachelle and I ...
Tags: Usa, Careers, Georgia, Nevada, Steve, Vegas Strip, Rachelle, Creating Reality


The Possibility Space

One of the key lessons of the Submersion course is to keep reminding yourself that more is possible. There’s a massive world of possibility beyond your limited range of experience. Within this possibility space are solutions to all of your problems. There are life-altering experiences that you haven’t even fathomed yet. This world of possibility isn’t constrained by your limited knowledge or expectations. Even your imagination is way too underpowered to adequately explore the vastness of t...
Tags: Careers, Steve, Abundance, Creating Reality


When Reality Declines Your Offer

I made some offers to reality this year that it declined. My declined offers included planned trips to Portland, Northern Ireland, Scotland, Milwaukee, Chicago, and Costa Rica. If the original plans held up, Rachelle and I would be embarking on about 30 days of travel starting later this month, including two wonderful multi-day events with different groups of friends, lots of touristy activities, probably an Irish excursion, and our first time at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival. Additionally I int...
Tags: Energy, Lifestyle, Careers, Las Vegas, Panama Canal, Costa Rica, Panama, Steve, Rachelle, Creating Reality, Milwaukee Chicago, Portland Northern Ireland Scotland


Hills

Since I live in a very hilly neighborhood, my morning runs are basically hill training. There are many routes I can run, but the main question for choosing a route is when to do the uphill and downhill portions. If I do the uphill first, it’s harder starting out, but then the second half is a breeze, coasting downhill all the way home – often towards a beautiful sunrise. If I do the downhill first, the first half hour is so nice and flowing, a lovely way to run on autopilot, but then I tur...
Tags: Health, Lifestyle, Careers, Steve, Creating Reality


Goal Traps

The end of a calendar quarter and the start of a new one is a great time to set fresh goals for the next 90-days. In Conscious Growth Club we go through a 5-step quarterly planning process each quarter, whereby our members review their recent progress and then set and share their goals for the coming quarter. As part of this process, I host a live Zoom call to review the goals that members have set and to highlight best practices and potential pitfalls. The intention is to help members set go...
Tags: Productivity, Careers, Mars, Steve, Don, CGC, Creating Reality


Healing Circles

As the coronavirus has moved into the homes of more people I know, I see a lot of fear energy being stirred up. People are frightened. Some are angry too, especially as they see others not taking the situation seriously or engaging in sociopathic anti-mask behavior. I contrast this with what I see elsewhere from different groups of friends. They still get scared at first, but the process the fear energy and then frame the event more positively, often as a spiritual or personal challenge. O...
Tags: Health, Careers, Steve, Don, Rachelle, Creating Reality


Power Challenges

Since Trump is doing such a hideous job on his re-election campaign, some analysts are concluding that he’s deliberately trying to sabotage himself. They suggest that he’s putting out strong indications that he really doesn’t want the job for another four years (or that he doesn’t expect to get re-elected). One example is that he openly talks about Biden as being the next President – and without qualifying words like could or might. Another example is that he’s been deliberately taking actions t...
Tags: Careers, Power, Emotions, Biden, Steve, Trump, Don, Creating Reality


Please Begone From My Reality, Foul Trump Supporters

I just want to be very clear about something. I don’t tolerate the presence of Trump supporters spouting their nonsense in my personal space, which includes my email inbox, social media, and personal friendship circles. On social media I unapologetically unfriend, block, and banish Trump supporters on sight (or smell). If I happen to have missed anyone, please let me know, and I shall remedy that promptly. I also enjoy it each time, much like people derive pleasure from popping bubble wrap...
Tags: Usa, Wtf, Careers, Values, Biden, Steve, Trumpism, Trump, Finland Russia, Creating Reality


Your Relationship with Failure

Here are some quotes from J.K. Rowling about the fear of failure: Part of the reason there were seven years between having the idea for Philosopher’s Stone and getting it published, was that I kept putting the manuscript away for months at a time, convinced it was rubbish.Fear of failure is the saddest reason on earth not to do what you were meant to do. I finally found the courage to start submitting my first book to agents and publishers at a time when I felt a conspicuous failure. Only the...
Tags: Productivity, Disney, Careers, Mark Twain, Disneyland, Walt Disney, Steve, Don, J K Rowling, Abundance, Creating Reality, Roy You, Santa Ana Freeway People


Human Privilege

We’re seeing an explosion of dialog around exploitative systems. People have varying degrees of awareness that they’ve been stuck in systems that affect their lives and the lives of others. Many are withdrawing their consent to participate in such systems going forward. Of course many feel they never consented to begin with. The social contracts are being questioned and uprooted. I invite you to consider where you’re participating in nonconsensual systems for your benefit. For instance, do...
Tags: Amazon, Lifestyle, Careers, Values, Steve, Don, Eeyore, Creating Reality


You Are an Influencer

When I first started blogging in 2004, it surprised me how much people actually applied and tested the ideas I wrote about. I wasn’t sure how much traction there would be on the action side, so at first I was pleased to see that. However, this also gave me a weightier feeling of responsibility, especially as more years went by. Being labeled an “influencer” is an accurate title because it was clear that I was influencing people to make real changes and consider different frames. I took thi...
Tags: Careers, Values, Steve, Don, Creating Reality


Exploding Your Mindset Box

Some of the biggest traps in self-development are mindset traps, usually because they’re invisible to us. We get ourselves into a mindset box but can’t see the walls. What if the mindset box you’re in doesn’t contain any solutions to your biggest problems? What if those answers exist only outside the box? A common symptom of this trap is when you think you’ve tried just about everything and still aren’t getting results in a particular area. This is often true of financial, career, relation...
Tags: Europe, Disney, Lifestyle, Careers, Disneyland, Walt Disney, Steve, Don, Vegas Strip, Yada, Church of Scientology, Apple Amazon, Abundance, Creating Reality


Committing to the Stretch

One thing I love about blogging is that by writing about many aspects of personal growth, I improve and deepen my understanding of those aspects. Writing helps me glean fresh insights connect the dots in new ways. This has been especially true of workshops and courses. Initially such projects felt daunting, but eventually I got the hang of them. Now a big part of my motivation for selecting such projects is the rich personal gains I’ll make in my ability to understand and apply the material. ...
Tags: Productivity, Careers, Steve, Abundance, Creating Reality


Training Your Mind

This morning I got up at 4:30am and set out to do a 6.5-mile run (10.5km), which would be my longest in at least the past year. The weather was nice, starting out at 76 degrees, and I knew would continue to get cooler into the morning, at least until an hour or so after the sun came up. I enjoyed the run very much, especially watching the sunrise while passing a local shopping mall and a baseball stadium. I breezed through the 6.5 miles and decided to push myself a bit more, so I wid...
Tags: Health, Careers, Emotions, Steve, Creating Reality


Strengthening Your Future Self

I often think about how to create a better life for my future self. What can I do now that will make his life better? Everything I do today affects my future self in some way. I can make decisions that will cause him stress, or I can make decisions and take action that will make his life better. For the first four months of this year, I worked very hard, and I expected to do this going into the year because I wanted the results. Working extra hard for those first four months laid the found...
Tags: Relationships, Lifestyle, Careers, Steve, Creating Reality


Think a Thought You’ve Never Thought of Before

While you can regard thoughts as arising from within you, it’s interesting to view thoughts as transmissions that come to you, like waves of energy that create eddies within your consciousness. Perhaps consciousness is like an antenna that can tune into different frequencies of thoughts and translate them into forms you can perceive and understand. With this model it makes little sense to feel responsible for the thoughts you perceive because those thoughts aren’t really coming from within yo...
Tags: Careers, Steve, Abundance, Creating Reality