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Do You Commit Any of These Driving Habits When on a Date?

18 Deadly Driving Sins When Dating Single Women Weaving in and out of traffic.Speeding 10-20 miles per hour above the legal speed limit.Not paying attention to the road while talking on your cell phone.Cussing out or giving the finger to other drivers who get in your way.Tail-gating other cars.Not keeping your eyes on the road while talking to her.When stopping for a red light or stop sign, you apply the brakes at the last minute, jerking your date out of her seat.Throwing trash, beer cans, or...
Tags: Dating, Don Diebel Americas


You’re seeking the feeling, not the thing

Every last thing that humans do is about our attempts to meet our needs. Because how well our needs are being met is communicated via our feelings, they’re emotional needs. There is this tendency for us to attach ourselves to fixed outcomes, goals, markers of success and happiness, so much so that sometimes we want something so hard or feel the absence of it so acutely that it feels like a need. Part of meeting our needs is aligning ourselves with the people, things and situations that al...
Tags: Dating, Emotional Intelligence, Intentions, Life Goals, Desires, Happiness & Self-Esteem, Emotional Unavailability, Emotional Needs, Emotional Availability, Understanding Your Needs, How To Be More Intentional


Nude selfies: are they now art?

Lockdown has triggered a boom in the exchange of intimate shots – and now a new book called Sending Nudes is celebrating the pleasures and perils of baring all to the cameraHave you ever sent a nude selfie? The question draws a thick red line between generations, throwing one side into a panic while the other just laughs. And yet, as far back as 2009, that fount of moral wisdom, Kanye West, was advising how to stay safe. “When you take the picture cut off your face / And cover up the tattoo by t...
Tags: Books, Photography, UK, Sex, Relationships, Poetry, Women, Social Media, Life and style, Kanye West, Dating, Culture, Men, Short Stories, Online Dating, Jamie Foxx


You might feel bad after standing up for yourself, but you’ve done a good thing

Sometimes after I’ve stood up for myself, whether it’s in conflict situations or where I’ve essentially put my stake in the sand and said ‘Yep, this is who I am’ or ‘This is what I care about’ or ‘This is what I’d like to do’, I’ve been shaken or downright triggered by it. Particularly when I first started actively being more boundaried, it was so far out of my comfort zone that crying my eyes out afterwards accompanied it. My younger self, my inner child, thought that Armageddon or humiliating ...
Tags: Guilt, Dating, Self-doubt, Happiness & Self-Esteem, Overactive Guilt Thyroid, Understanding Your Needs, People-pleasing, Recovering People-pleaser, Standing Up For Yourself


Why You Should Leave Your Cell Phone at Home When on a Date

Advice on Cell Phone Etiquette for Dating Should you take your cell phone with you on a date? Absolutely not! Leave it at home if at all possible.If you get a call while you're on a date, it is considered rude and bad manners to be talking on the phone while you're with your date. You need to be devoting all your undivided attention on her rather than talking on the phone.  Drive Women Wild with Powerful Pheromone Cologne I've got a male friend who carries his cell phone with him on dates thin...
Tags: Dating, Don, Don Diebel Americas, Mike Sheinfield


The Downside Of Having Your Sun In Aspect To Jupiter

  If your sun is aspected by Jupiter, you tend to be confident.  You’re often larger than life in some way.  Sun Jupiter types have a healthy ego and are generally entertaining. A person has to have a healthy ego … Read More...
Tags: Dating, Jupiter, Astrology, Sun Jupiter, Relating


Asking for help isn’t reserved for struggles and emergencies

This year, a chief focus is pushing myself to ask for more help than I’m comfortable with. Thanks to being an over-responsible child who then became an over-responsible adult, I am well versed in ‘being strong’. My default setting is doing things myself, which can lead to burnout, overwhelm or resentment if I’m not mindful. While I’m far better than I’ve ever been in terms of cutting back on the people-pleasing habits driving my over-responsibility and I ask for more help than I ever have, I...
Tags: Vulnerability, Dating, Happiness & Self-Esteem, Ask For Help, Boundaries And Recognising Discomfort, Over-responsible, Building Intimacy, How To Stop Being A Perfectionist, How To Stop Being A People-pleaser, How To Be More Vulnerable, Recovering People-pleaser


Why is your ex or their new partner ‘so happy’ on Instagram when they mistreated you?

Pre-internet and social media, to know what your ex or their current partner was up to, you had to become a stalker. You had to be prepared to nose around extensively in their lives, and this was a signpost for recognising obsession. The idea of following someone or making a nuisance out of yourself put a boundary in place. It either forced you to start grieving or left you relying on your imagination. And the latter in and of itself often became a signpost to start grieving too. Of course, ...
Tags: Facebook, Grief, Instagram, Social Media, Dating, Comparison, Letting Go, The Replacement Mentality, Grieving The Loss Of Your Relationship, Why Did They Disappear


They say you’re a ‘couple’, so why doesn’t it feel like that?

In dating, there’s often this intense focus, a goal, of getting the other party to say something that makes it clear that we’re in a relationship. We want to define the relationship so that we can know what to expect. Hell, we want to know that we’ve finally gone on our last first date! So they refer to us as their ‘partner’, ‘girlfriend’, ‘boyfriend’ or say that we’re a ‘couple’. Boom, we breathe a big-ass sigh of relief because of what we think it’s shorthand for–commitment and our desired fut...
Tags: Dating, Expectations, Commitment, Peter, Jane, Healthier Relationships, Commitment Resistance, Blowing Hot And Cold, Landmarks of Healthy Relationships, Afraid Of Commitment, Actions match words, Defining The Relationship, Having A Title In A Relationship


Attracting Single Women for Romance Using Your Bachelor Pad

Attracting Single Women for Romance Using Your Bachelor Pad Yes, the term "bachelor pad" may be a little dated, but the concept is still the same. You're a single guy. You live by yourself, or maybe you have roommates. No matter. The place where you stay is your bachelor pad and eventually, if you're lucky, a woman or two or twelve will be coming by to check it out.The most important things to keep in mind when designing your bachelor pad are:YOU must be comfortable there.A WOMAN should not be...
Tags: Usa, Dating, Paul Mitchell, Allen Thompson, Napa Ridge Pinot Noir, Don Juan Center


Podcast Ep. 213: There’s No Need to Try & Meet All of Your Needs On Your Own

It’s so easy to fall into that trap of just trying to manage needs and issues on your own, in your head, through your actions to you, and not actually involve anyone else, even when you need to. In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain that while we’re responsible for meeting our needs, we can’t and shouldn’t do it all on our own. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Android 5 key topics in this episode There’s nothing wrong with being self-reliant. ...
Tags: Apple, Vulnerability, Dating, Codependency, Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Ask For Help, Emotional Needs, Fear Of Loss Of Independence, Miss Independent Miss Self-Sufficient, Understanding Your Needs, Interdependence, Building Intimacy, Karen ArthurI


Learning to care less about what people think

Let’s not kid ourselves: Everyone cares about what others think to an extent. As humans, we all want to be accepted, and so conversely, we’re all afraid of rejection. We also like to follow the herd, even when it leads us off a cliff or into our pain. It feels ‘safe’ and ‘familiar’, less threatening.  When we care a little or a lot too much about what others think, we will forgo ourselves, including what we truly need and want, if we don’t have consensus. But how can we ‘general agreement’, w...
Tags: Dating, Don, Natalie, Happiness & Self-Esteem, Self-image, Fear Of Disapproval, Wanting To Be Liked


A few thoughts about gossiping

Don’t kid yourself.  Everyone gossips (or has done at some point), even if it’s just a little or only with close friends. I know we like to think that we’re ‘better’ or squeaky clean, but we’re all human here. We might say that we never gossip, but we all most certainly judge–ourselves as well as others. It’s OK that we gossip sometimes or have done in the past, and is certainly different from chronic and malicious gossiping. That said, choose who you gossip with and what you gossip about wi...
Tags: Dating, Britney Spears, Don, Patterns & Habits, Gossiping, The Bullshit Diet, Core Values


People-pleasing is like creating debt and then expecting others to pay it off

When your decision to remain in an unhealthy or unfulfilling relationship or situation is about ‘investment’ and attempting to recoup a loss, you wind up making the person/people indebted to you. There becomes a sense of entitlement. This is when you have a very strong expectation of what should happen given that you’ve done or are X. When people and life disappoint you, you then feel shortchanged, taken advantage of and owed. Possessiveness, as well as righteousness about your ‘contribution’, b...
Tags: Decision Making, Dating, Happiness & Self-Esteem, Emotional Needs, Looking For Validation In Relationships, Sunk Cost, Knowing When To Fold, People-pleasing, Return On Investment In Relationships


Kiss off: does Covid mark the end of the passionate, impromptu snog?

According to a new poll, all manner of everyday occurrences are now over for good – from sharing crisps in the pub to swapping gym equipment Name: Kissing strangers.Age: Ancient. Continue reading...
Tags: Relationships, Life and style, UK News, World news, Dating, Opinion polls, Coronavirus


It’s not someone else’s ‘job’ to make us happy

If we make it someone else’s job to make us happy, we assign them a role, and with that comes obligations, expectations and responsibilities. It also creates a transactional aspect. If we think it’s someone else’s job to create feelings in us, we’ll play a role to fit around this. For instance, we will see our behaviour and choices as our way of making them happy so that it’s ‘easier’ for them to do what we need, want and expect. At the same time, though, our attitude means that we don’t thi...
Tags: Dating, Expectations, Boundaries, Self-soothing, Healthier Relationships, Building Intimacy, Looking For Happiness Outside Of Ourselves, Playing Roles In Relationships, Hidden Agendas


Adult Education Classes to Meet, Date Single Women

Adult Education Classes to Meet, Date Single Women Most good-sized communities in the United States offer adult education courses. The courses are varied and offer something for everyone. The classes are held at convenient times for full time workers and are available at no cost or for a small fee. A good example of these courses are the ones sponsored by the organization called Leisure Learning which are located in most large cities in the United States.These courses are an excellent channel ...
Tags: Dating, United States, Bill, Don, Don Diebel Americas


Video chats and distanced picnics: how we caught the love bug in lockdown

Dating in a pandemic has very different challenges, as these brave adventurers discoveredFor Martina Piercy, 54, an occupational therapist from Wellington in Somerset, going into lockdown at the start of a new relationship was “really upsetting”. “We had been dating for six to eight weeks before the pandemic started, so the idea of either living with Tony or not seeing him was difficult,” she said. Continue reading...
Tags: Apps, Life and style, UK News, Dating, Wellington, Somerset, Tony, Coronavirus, Martina Piercy


Taking dating lessons from my daughter: 'Flirting is being present in the moment’

It was coming up to Christmas and I asked my grown daughter what she wanted. She said, ‘What I want for you is to find love again’It was something that hadn’t crossed my mind to want for myself. I was 65 and amicably separated from her father. Our marriage had lost its mojo long before; there had been struggle and frustration, and she had witnessed that.I replied, “Darling, I’ve got a great life! I travel, I do interesting work, I’ve got great friends, I’m content.” She said, “No, I want you to...
Tags: Family, Relationships, Life and style, Dating


Feedback from our expectations and choices helps us to better meet our needs

If you’ve insisted that you need certain things in order to be happy and yet experience has taught you otherwise, compassionately examine what this communicates about your values and needs. Sure, you’ve had ideas, theories, about what you want and need, but these experiences have put your hypothesis to the test. They’ve communicated that something isn’t stacking up. You weren’t getting to be who you really are, or the components didn’t lead to your desired outcome. Or… your needs weren’t met. It...
Tags: Dating, Expectations, Intentions, Happiness & Self-Esteem, Emotional Needs, Core Values, Understanding Your Needs, How To Be Yourself, Professor Life, How To Be More Intentional, How To Get What You Want


Blind date: ‘The end of the evening is a little hazy’

Steph, 27, clinical account manager, and Will, 28, actor/singerWhat were you hoping for?At best a nice evening and a bit of a laugh, or at the very least a funny story. Continue reading...
Tags: Life and style, Dating, Steph


Podcast Ep. 212: People Can Be More Than One Thing

In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I explain why seeing people, including ourselves, as only one thing is a trap. It causes us to deny, rationalise, minimise, excuse, assume and generalise and this always leads to big problems. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Android 5 key topics in this episode To assume, for instance, that all people who lie and cheat are ‘bad’ people incapable of being thoughtful or generous at times is the trap. That doesn’t mea...
Tags: Apple, Grief, Dating, Expectations, Gaslighting, Self-image, Podcast: The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Abusive Relationships, Putting People On Pedestals


Don’t confuse empathy with playing a role of accommodation and overcompensation

Something you need to be mindful of when you have a keen sense of empathy and can pick up, for instance, on what people are feeling or where they’re coming from, is not falling into a role of accommodation and overcompensating.  So, for instance, you notice that a friend tends to blow up and have pieced together little bits of info that indicate that they’re wrestling with issues from childhood or that they’re not so keen on boundaries.  When the next instance for potential conflict (aka b...
Tags: Empathy, Dating, Boundaries, Don, Overempathy, Empathy In Relationships


Save the date: The chat-up lines that really work – and ones to avoid

New research into online dating has found that what men say to attract women matters, but not vice versaName: Single person.Age: My picture suggests I’m 25. In reality, I have to admit to 60-odd. Continue reading...
Tags: Sex, Relationships, Life and style, Dating, Valentine's Day


Questioning our default stories and fears allows us to ‘update’

For more than twenty years, I wouldn’t eat runny eggs thanks to the whole Edwina Currie salmonella egg scandal that happened in the U.K. when I was ten. I also get very twitchy about someone putting tins in the fridge–kept hearing about how dangerous it was back in the eighties. And while I will eat some fish with bones, each time I do, I remember that the Queen Mother choked on a fishbone and wound up in hospital for four days. It would be all too easy to assume that this royal incident was...
Tags: Google, Dating, Mother, Edwina Currie, Patterns & Habits, Relationship Patterns, Unhealthy Beliefs, Breaking Old Habits To Create New Habits, Negative Associations, Mental Associations, The Mental Filing System Of The Subconscious


Do Single Women That Dress Sexy Want to Have Sex With You?

Are Single Women that Dress Sexy Whores Has this ever happened to you? You've met a single woman that you're attracted to and have made plans for your first date.You arrive at her place and she opens the door. Then you are blown away by what she is wearing. She's got on a tight short skirt that hugs her body. Also, she's got on a sexy tight top revealing some of her cleavage.If you're a typical male with his brain between his legs, you're going to be thinking to yourself, "Wow, this girl is go...
Tags: Dating, Don, Don Diebel Americas


Why You Should Start a Dating Advice Blog and 5 Great Examples

Reading a dating advice blog may sound cringe-worthy, but it is something that the younger generation never knew they needed. Think of it as asking a wiser, older person for advice for a love dilemma you are too afraid to ask a friend. Dating is not what it was decades ago. The younger generation has taken a more casual approach to dating. For many people, in this day and age, dating has become an absolute chore. In fact, dating has become more problematic in recent years than in the past. This ...
Tags: Reviews, Advice, Advertising, Dating, Sydney, Dating Apps, Blogging Advice, Urban Dater


Superficial relationships signal the need to develop a more intimate relationship with ourselves

It can be pretty uncomfortable to acknowledge that sometimes we’re more superficial than we imagined ourselves to be. When we reflect, for instance, on our attraction to someone we experienced a great deal of pain with, we were often drawn to the appearance of things, not how things were. Physical appearance, popularity, status, power, how much money they had, their background, the job they did, their interests, how they appeared to move through the world–whatever it was, it was a big draw for u...
Tags: Fear Of Intimacy, Dating, Compatibility, Self-image, Healthier Relationships, Self-awareness And Self-knowledge, Core Values, Narcissists, Building Intimacy, Superficial qualities, Secondary Values


Putting people on pedestals doesn’t give us the right to ‘compensation’

While working on the recent podcast episode about thinking that someone might be too good to be true, the issue of putting people on pedestals came up. This is where we elevate people to this glorified status by exaggerating who they are or, yes, by diminishing ourselves. It’s not that we necessarily set out to do either of these, though. Putting someone on a pedestal happens in the process of, on some level, thinking that the way to admire, like, love or respect someone is to paint them as ...
Tags: Disappointment, Dating, Expectations, Boundaries, The Disappointment Cycle, Conflict and Criticism, Assumptions In Relationships, Putting People On Pedestals, Managing Expectations In Relationships, Playing Roles In Relationships


Art of Kissing Single Women on Your First Date

A Kissing Guide for First Dates With Single Women At the end of a first date comes that awkward moment when you must decide if you want to kiss her or not.Also, if you do kiss her it had better be good to make a favorable impression. It may not be fair, but some single women will judge you on your first kiss as to whether she would be attracted to you want to date you again. In other words, she must feel some chemistry when she kisses you. If you are a lousy kisser, then you're going to be a ...
Tags: Dating, Don Diebel Americas