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How to Talk Shit Online

“People are just as allowed to dislike things as they are permitted to enjoy them,” writes cultural critic Kate Wagner in the Baffler essay “Don’t Let People Enjoy Things.” Wagner (creator of the architectural critique blog McMansion Hell) shuts down one of the dumber memes going around right now, where fans bravely…Read more...
Tags: Art, Fighting, Entertainment, Etiquette, Social Media, Criticism, Arguments, Debate, Lifehacks, Critiques, Wagner, Kate Wagner

College student horrified when Grindr date shows up to his dorm looking nothing like his profile pic

What do you do when the guy you've been chatting with looks nothing like his profile pic?
Tags: Life, Etiquette, Lifestyle, Reddit, Manners, Grindr, Ad Friendly, Queerty, Hooking Up

Ask The Salty Waitress: What are the rules of sneaking food into a movie?

Dear Salty: My adult daughter and I go to a couple movies together every month. It’s one of our rare bonding activities and I really look forward to it. But wow, theater food is expensive! I’ve taken to bringing in our own snacks in my bag, which seems to work fine. But for longer movies or ones that start around meal…Read more...
Tags: Movies, Etiquette, Lifehacks

You Need the Kind of Electronic Toilet That's Popular in Japan

Everyone poops. But not everyone poops the same.
Tags: Japan, Technology, Etiquette, Poop, Toilet, Lifehacks, Bathroom, Hygeine, Bidets

Ask The Salty Waitress: Can I help myself to a straw or napkin from behind the bar?

Hey Salty: As someone sitting at a bar, what are the things I can reach for and what’s off limits? I’ve never felt weird about grabbing a napkin, but I’ve seen others go for olives, citrus, straws, etc.Read more...
Tags: Etiquette, Bars, Lifehacks

Ask The Salty Waitress: We should tip stadium food vendors, right?

Dear Salty: Please help me figure out whether I’m nuts. I took my kids to a baseball game, and we were seated at the end of the aisle. This guy a few seats in, toward the center of the row, flagged down a hot dog vendor midway through the game. The two hot dogs and a water came to $18 or something, and the guy reached…Read more...
Tags: Etiquette, Sports, Lifehacks, Tipping

How to Eat Ramen in Japan

In Japan, eating ramen is a near goddamn religious experience.Read more...
Tags: Travel, Food, Japan, Etiquette, Restaurants, Ramen, Tokyo, Lifehacks, Noodles, International Travel

How to Be a Nicer Person

Ever feel like you might be an asshole?
Tags: Etiquette, Kindness, Manners, Lifehacks, Kind, Polite

How Not to Be a Jerk in Japan

Before my recent visit to Japan, I did the same obsessive research I always do before things like doctor visits or job interviews. Unfortunately, this usually means I walk into every doctor visit and job interview convinced I have a disease that affects one percent of the population.Read more...
Tags: Travel, Japan, Etiquette, Culture, Tourism, Lifehacks, Japanese

"I was kind of surprised to be publicly disinvited to the funeral. I think that was an unnecessary step."

"They didn't have to embarrass me. And it wasn't just me. There were other good people in our campaign back in 2008 who were very very loyal to Senator McCain and worked with him and for him for many years, and they weren't invited to the funeral. So that was all weird. It's all — I don't know — I hope, I hope that doesn't happen to other people. It's unnecessary. It's kind of a gut punch."Said Sarah Palin, reported, with video, at Mediaite. [Author: [email protected] (Ann Althouse)]
Tags: Law, Etiquette, Sarah Palin, McCain, Ann Althouse, Insults

Federal judge says a public charter school violated Equal Protection by requiring girls (and not boys) to wear skirts.

WaPo reports.Baker Mitchell, founder of the Roger Bacon Academy, which runs Charter Day School [in North Carolina]... explained in an email that the dress code, along with other policies, were meant to “preserve chivalry and respect among young women and men.” He cited societal concerns such as “teen pregnancies” and “casual sex” for the need to create a learning environment that “embodied traditional values.”...According to the decision, the skirt requirement forced girls to “pay constant atten...
Tags: Fashion, Law, Etiquette, North Carolina, Howard, WaPo, Ann Althouse, Young Althouse, Equal Protection Clause, Sex And Education, Trump's Access Hollywood remarks, Baker Mitchell, Roger Bacon Academy, Malcolm Howard -RSB

I Wish I'd Learned This Phrase Before I Went to Another Country

Learning a language for a trip is different from learning it on a large scale; Duolingo is way too comprehensive, as is anything that tries to build up from fundamentals of grammar. You need a few phrases, like “please” and “thank you,” “What does this mean?” and “Where is the bathroom?” But most of the time, I needed…Read more...
Tags: Travel, Japan, Etiquette, Language, Social Gps, Lifehacks, Japanese, Apologies, Foreign Languages

How to Write a Condolence Note

It’s hard to know what to do or say when someone you know loses a person who was close to them. Grief is a scary and amorphous thing, and if you haven’t experienced it, reaching out can feel like overstepping a boundary or reminding someone of something they’re trying to forget.Read more...
Tags: Death, Grief, Etiquette, Loss, Lifehacks, Condolences

"You don’t have to kink-shame or say that people are creepy because of what they enjoy doing," said Charlotte Taillor, who had hoped "to have a nice relationship with a nice community of woke people."

The hoped-for "nice community" was Bedford-Stuyvesant, and Taillor had moved in with her "kink collective," which runs "bondage workshops and other fetish events for the B.D.S.M. (bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism) community." The quoted article is "When the Dominatrix Moved In Next Door/A 'kink collective' in a residential area of Brooklyn has upset longtime residents and resulted in a culture clash and gentrification struggle all wrapped up into one fight" (NYT).But the battle on Quincy...
Tags: Law, NYC, Etiquette, Wikipedia, Brooklyn, Commerce, Ice Cube, Miller, Felicia, Bedford Stuyvesant, Quincy Street, Ann Althouse, Felisha, The [blank] Community, Charlotte Taillor, Taillor

Stop Walking on the Escalator

Escalator walkers and escalator standers are forever locked in struggle—they are like toilet paper over-the-roll installers and under-the-roll installers, or GIF pronouncers, or one-spacers and two-spacers, only brought head to head every day in the malls, airports, offices, train exits, and sundry moving staircases…Read more...
Tags: Etiquette, Walking, Lifehacks, Crowds, Escalators

"20 years ago, if you saw something on TV that offended you and you wanted to let someone know, you would’ve had to get a pen and paper and write, 'Dear BBC, I’m bothered.'"

"But you didn’t do it because it was too much trouble. Now with Twitter, you can just go, 'Fuck you!' to a comedian who’s offended you. Then a journalist will see that and say, 'So-and-so said a thing and people are furious.' No. The rest of us don’t give a fuck and wouldn’t have heard about it if it hadn’t been made a headline. Everything is exaggerated. But everything’s also an illusion. No one would talk to you in the street like they do on Twitter. They’d never come up and say, 'Your article...
Tags: Twitter, Law, Etiquette, Bbc, Conversation, Ricky Gervais, Irony, Nuance, Normal, Ann Althouse, Insults, Dirty Words

Stockholm: When (and when not) to tip in Sweden

Traveling from the US to Europe, it’s easy to fall into the same tipping habits you use back home, like handing over 20 percent at a restaurant without even really thinking about it. The tipping culture throughout Europe varies quite a bit from Paris to Amsterdam, and Sweden is no different. And a trip to Stockholm can add up fast if you don’t watch your budget. There are plenty of free museums in Stockholm and some great budget hotels, but everything else, from restaurants to taxis, will be hig...
Tags: Travel, Credit Cards, Europe, Money Matters, Budget, Money, Sweden, Etiquette, Restaurants, Bars, US, Paris, Amsterdam, Tips, Taxi, Stockholm

How to Be Better at Small Talk

I’m trying to stop saying “I know.” I say it too much to my friends or my wife when they’re just trying to be helpful. But unless someone’s actually being a dick or assuming I’m an idiot, I don’t need to protect my ego that hard. I win more points if I say “Thanks!” or “That’s true!” and keep the conversation going.…Read more...
Tags: Etiquette, Communication, Conversation, Lifehacks, Small Talk

How to Say No to Meeting Up With an Acquaintance

It can be a fun surprise when you bump into someone you haven’t seen in awhile—for about five minutes. Then it veers into “let’s meet for coffee” territory, which reminds you of why you haven’t really been in touch with this person in the first place. Here’s how to turn down the idea of a catch-up coffee without…Read more...
Tags: Etiquette, Politeness, Lifehacks, Old Friends

Ask the Salty Waitress: My food came out suspiciously early

Dear Salty: I took my girlfriend out for dinner for Valentine’s Day to a restaurant known for its signature fried chicken. I ordered it (she got a pasta dish) and so we were surprised when the chicken showed up early. Like, disturbingly early. Even before my girlfriend’s pasta.Read more...
Tags: Etiquette, Restaurants, Lifehacks

How to Write the Ultimate Canned Email

If you get a lot of emails that deserve at least a cursory reply, you might feel like no form-letter email could possibly replace all of them. Here’s a clever solution, borrowed from the sci-fi author Robert Heinlein.Read more...
Tags: Gmail, Email, Etiquette, Lifehacks, Netiquette, Robert Heinlein, Replies, Form Letters

"Senator Amy Klobuchar was hungry, forkless and losing patience.... She pulled a comb from her bag and began eating the salad with it.... Then she handed the comb to her staff member with a directive: Clean it."

She = Amy Klobuchar, as described, based on 4 witnesses, in "How Amy Klobuchar Treats Her Staff" (NYT).Grossest use of a comb since Paul Wolfowitz.... [Author: [email protected] (Ann Althouse)]
Tags: Law, Etiquette, Amy Klobuchar, Paul Wolfowitz, Ann Althouse, Wolfowitz

Ask The Salty Waitress: My customer won’t stop calling me “baby”

Hi Salty, I work at a large bar in Chattanooga, Tennessee. I recently had a guest who called me “baby.” I told him my name. He kept calling me baby, over and over again, and would immediately “apologize,” and then say he meant to call me by my name. The woman he was with even reminded him of my name multiple times. In…Read more...
Tags: Etiquette, Bars, Lifehacks, CHATTANOOGA Tennessee

Here's When It's Appropriate to Comment on Someone's Body Transformation

Bodies change a great deal over time, and sometimes those transformations are dramatic. When you see a friend who suddenly looks different, there’s a strong impulse to remark on it. Sometimes that kind of comment will be extremely welcome—even expected—and sometimes it will be unappreciated and downright hurtful.Read more...
Tags: Fitness, Etiquette, Weight Loss, Dieting, Lifehacks, Body positivity, Body Talk

How to Politely Reject Things as a Vegan

My fellow vegans, it is time we address something that is keeping droves of would-be converts from joining our ranks—and tempts even the most dedicated of us into illicit animal-based infidelity. No, it’s not, animal-based cheeses or America’s fetishistic love for bacon. It’s saying no to free stuff.Read more...
Tags: Etiquette, America, Social Gps, Lifehacks, Vegan, Vegetarian

How to Survive Your Friends Breaking Up With Each Other

Late one night last year, I was sitting in my apartment doing some work when my phone rang. It was my close friend, Alex*. Alex was dating another one of my good friends, Sonia, and she had brought him up to Michigan to meet her family. I assumed they were together and wanted to say hi, but I was immersed in what I…Read more...
Tags: Relationships, Etiquette, Friends, Rejection, Michigan, Break Ups, Lifehacks, Sonia, Alex Alex

Ask The Salty Waitress: Help me nicely get rid of these camped-out customers

Dear Salty: Fellow server here. I need your advice on an annoying problem that comes up every few weeks: the table that just won’t leave. After I’ve made sure there are no more drinks coming and no one wants the dessert menu, I leave the bill, it gets paid, and then… nothing. Read more...
Tags: Etiquette, Restaurants, Lifehacks

How to Send Back Food and Drinks

Dining and drinking out can be an expensive experience and you, as a customer, are entitled to an enjoyable one. But being entitled to something doesn’t mean you get to be a jerk about it. Sending food or drinks back from whence they came for no real reason is the saddest sort of flex, and there are few things more…Read more...
Tags: Etiquette, Restaurants, Cocktails, Wine, Lifehacks, Sending Food Back, Sending Drinks Back, Sending Wine Back

How to Dump a Friend

A few years ago, one of my best friends from college broke up with me. “I think it might be healthier if we took a step back from constantly talking to each other,” she wrote in an email. “Maybe one day we’ll see eye to eye, but for now this feels unhealthy.”Read more...
Tags: Etiquette, Friendship, Mental Health, Lifehacks, Friend Breakups

In politics, calls for civility are always bullshit.

I've said it a hundred times, and I'm saying it again this morning, because I'm looking at this WaPo headline: "The exquisite shade of Nancy Pelosi’s applause at the State of the Union."Incivility is loved and celebrated!The columnist Monica Hesse writes:The lasting visual image from Tuesday night’s State of the Union address was captured by photographer Doug Mills. It featured House Speaker Nancy Pelosi (D-Calif.) applauding President Trump in a way that can only be described as . . . withering...
Tags: Law, Etiquette, Metaphor, House, Nancy Pelosi, Patton Oswalt, Gestures, Trump, Sotu, Calif, Pelosi, Monica Hesse, Ann Althouse, Lucille Bluth, Civility Bullshit, DOUG MILLS