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The True Meaning of Regret, According to Science

Everyone has regrets, but you always imagine that those regrets revolve around action you took and the mistakes you believe you’ve made. We focus so much on the decisions we make in the moment, wondering if we made the wrong choice in hindsight, but a recent study published in the journal  Emotion indicates that the old adage still rings true: it’s not the things you do in life that you regret, it’s the things you don’t  do. In a  study entitled “The Ideal Road Not Taken,” Corn...
Tags: Psychology, Regret, Research, Cornell, Worry, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, Success & Achievement, Rumination, Gilovich, Tom Gilovich, Irene Blecker Rosenfeld, Davidai S Gilovich


Feeling Completely and Utterly Alone Because You Have a Mental Illness? This Can Help

You have a mental illness, and you feel incredibly alone. Intellectually, you know that you are one of millions of people who also have a mental illness—people who also have depression or an anxiety disorder or bipolar disorder or schizophrenia. You know that you’re not the only person on this planet to be in pain. But it doesn’t matter. Because it looks like everyone around you is just fine. You’re the only one who has a hard time getting out of bed, who feels overwhelmed by everything, no matt...
Tags: Psychology, General, New York City, Support, Disorders, Self-help, Mental Illness, Loneliness, Stigma, Inspiration & Hope, Chapman, Louisville Kentucky, Saenz Sierzega, Chandler Ariz, Irvine Calif, Kingman


12 Ways to Keep Going with Depression

About once a week I hear the same question from a reader, “What keeps you going?” The short answer is lots of things. I use a variety of tools to persevere through my struggle with depression because what works on one day doesn’t the next. I have to break some hours into 15-minute intervals and simply put one foot in front of another, doing the thing that is right in front of me and nothing else. I write this post for the person who is experiencing debilitating symptoms of depression. The follow...
Tags: Psychology, Motivation, Facebook, Europe, New York, Sleep, France, Spain, Personal, Self-help, Depression, Santiago, Santiago De Compostela, Stress Reduction, God, Brussels


A Life Worth Living: How to Find and Follow Your Meaning

If you’d like to know how to decrease depression, alleviate anxiety, and live an all-around better life, there is a simple answer. The good news, too, is that it doesn’t entail any kind of medication, money, or treatment modalities. Simply put, it’s about making decisions based on what’s truly meaningful, essentially what makes both your inner world and the outer world a better place. Similar to discovering your mission and following your passion, consciously pursuing your own personal mean...
Tags: Psychology, Self-help, Self-esteem, Meaningful Life, Grief And Loss, Inspiration & Hope, Cari, Existential Dilemma, Lightner, Purposeful Life, Lightener


30 Healing Quotes on Self-Forgiveness

Just as mantras are helpful for me to process emotions, so are quotes. I often turn to them for wisdom and inspiration. The following sound bytes have been especially helpful in trying to learn how to forgive myself. Like most people I know, I judge my own indiscretions with a different standard than those of others. While I can often separate the kindness of a loved one from the wrong she did, I make no such distinction for myself. I become my mistake. The words of the following writers, phil...
Tags: Psychology, Self-help, Self-esteem, Spirituality, Mcgill, Forgiveness, Maya Angelou, Perfectionism, Self-compassion, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, Inspirational Quotes, Buddha, Rumi, Tara Brach


Volunteer – It’s Good for You

The nightly news on TV, posts on Facebook, and articles in our local newspapers give us plenty to feel down about every day. More people are struggling financially and emotionally. The threat of violence has become a constant shadow. Addictions are up. Help for the addicted is down. The general social safety net seems to be getting more tattered by the day. It’s understandable to feel helpless in the face of it all. Compassion fatigue, disconnecting emotionally from so much suffering, can set...
Tags: Psychology, Facebook, General, Activism, Isolation, Charity, Habits, Happiness, Compassion, Self-help, Depression, Volunteer, London School Of Economics, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Carnegie Mellon, Mental Health And Wellness


Dancing in the Rain: On Becoming More Emotionally Resilient

During the first half of my life, I tried to find THE solution to my depression and anxiety — a cure that would forever eradicate my symptoms. I was a gullible consumer of dogmatic books and advice promising Nirvana: by balancing my gut bacteria, by committing to a daily meditation practice, by taking fish oil and vitamin D, or by sweating out my toxins through hot yoga six times a week. While those are all pieces of my recovery program today, none of them alone provided the answer. After years ...
Tags: Psychology, England, New York, Friends, Habits, Stress, Mindfulness, Self-help, New York Times, Patience, Perfectionism, Self-compassion, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, Self-worth


The Value of Our Mistakes

None of us like to fail. But some of us find it especially difficult to rebound from a mistake. We beat ourselves up for months, even years, rehashing our blunder. We ruminate about what we could have done differently. We are stuck on what we lost. However, with time, we often discover that our failures are packed full of blessings, that our errors open doors to surprising opportunities. Even if they don’t lead us to fame and fortune, our mistakes make us better people. April Fool’s! Or Not T...
Tags: Psychology, Apple, Steve Jobs, Self-help, Harvard University, Oprah, Baltimore, Perfectionism, Walt Disney, Stanford University, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, Success & Achievement, Rowling, Helen Keller


A Real Dose of Hope When You’re Feeling Hopeless

You’re trying to find a job, and after way too many interviews, you’re still unemployed. You’ve had a string of awful dates, and you’re convinced that you’ll never find your person. You’ve repeatedly asked your spouse to work less or spend less or drink less and after promising to make a change, they still haven’t. You have depression, and nothing seems to be helping. And, so, you feel hopeless. And you assume that this feeling of hopelessness carries with it some significant truth: your circ...
Tags: Psychology, Books, General, California, Disorders, Stress, Self-help, Depression, Treatment, Self-esteem, Voice, Allan, Mental Health And Wellness, Inspiration & Hope, Boyd, Vancouver Canada


8 Ways to Hear Your Own Voice

For the last 12 years, I have kept a binder full of advice from friends and mental health professionals. After every doctor’s visit or coffee date, I would scribble down notes of what they said so that I could access their words when I needed them. Similarly, I kept a self-esteem file, full of positive comments from readers and loving notes from friends to pump me up when I needed reassurance and validation that I was a decent person who ought to stick around. We all need to rely on doctors, ps...
Tags: Psychology, Mindfulness, Self-help, Personal Growth, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, Rumi, Eckhart Tolle, Present Moment, Mindfuless-Based Stress Reduction, Ways to Hear Your Own Voice


How Practicing Compassion May Help You Feel Better

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” — Aesop Think about the most disagreeable person you know or ever met. This might even be you on one or more occasions. If you ask people who are a little rough around the edges, those individuals who seem gruff, know-it-all, smug, superior and can’t be bothered, they’d likely say they don’t need anyone else. While compassion is an admirable and fairly basic trait, some of us either lack it (we’re short on empathy) or could use a l...
Tags: Psychology, Happiness, Compassion, Self-help, Self-esteem, Self-compassion, Inspiration & Hope, Association for Psychological Science, York University, University of York, Aesop Think


5 Questions for Self-Growth in the New Year

The adrenaline that pushed you through December has worn off and you’re feeling the January blahs. That’s not uncommon. In fact, January 24 is on record as being the most depressing day of the year, due to a combination a factors: Christmas bills, broken resolutions, and dark and dreary weather. However, if you are brave enough to sit with the uncomfortable feelings of this depressing time of year, January can be a period of important personal growth. With a new year, we get a blank page of pap...
Tags: Psychology, Research, Stress, Personal, Self-help, Creativity, Adam Sandler, New Year's, Personal Growth, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, New Year's Resolution, Overwhelm, Carlile, Schwartz


5 Questions for Self-Growth for a New Year

The adrenaline that pushed you through December has worn off and you’re feeling the January blahs. That’s not uncommon. In fact, January 24 is on record as being the most depressing day of the year, due to a combination a factors: Christmas bills, broken resolutions, and dark and dreary weather. However, if you are brave enough to sit with the uncomfortable feelings of this depressing time of year, January can be a period of important personal growth. With a new year, we get a blank page of pap...
Tags: Psychology, Research, Stress, Personal, Self-help, Creativity, Adam Sandler, New Year's, Personal Growth, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, New Year's Resolution, Overwhelm, Carlile, Schwartz


A New Look at Grief Beyond Elisabeth Kubler-Ross’s Five Stages

A few weeks ago, I said goodbye to a long time, dear friend who had become a sister of choice, a traveling companion, a ‘kvetch and moan’ sounding board, as well as a compassionate confidant who didn’t hesitate to call me on my stuff when needed. She died after a nearly two-year encounter with cancer. I hesitate to call it a battle as many do when given the diagnosis that she was. She was more a reluctant dance partner with the disease, attempting to improvise her way through the steps and t...
Tags: Psychology, Grief, Family, Relationships, Friends, Personal, Loss, Bereavement, Grieving, Grief And Loss, Michael, Inspiration & Hope, Health-related, Coping, Buddhist, Elisabeth Kübler Ross


6 Life Lessons I Learned Last Year

Danish philosopher and theologian Søren Kierkegaard once wrote, “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” The beginning of a new year is an appropriate time to look back over the lessons learned from the mistakes and experiences of previous months. In 2018, I wrote two letters of resignation, grieved the ending of two significant relationships, and spent several weeks on a hospital waiting list for severe depression and weight loss. I fumbled, got lost, and confront...
Tags: Psychology, Suicide, Work Life Balance, Communication, Stress, Personal, Self-help, Depression, Self-esteem, Psychotherapy, Perfectionism, New Year's, Self-compassion, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Marriage And Divorce


Podcast: Can You Actually Recover from Bipolar or Schizophrenia?

 “I’m in recovery from mental illness,” is a common phrase in our circles. Sure, mental illness is replaced with the specifics – schizophrenia, bipolar, or depression, to name a few – but the idea that people consider themselves to be living a life free from the symptoms of mental illness is a common one. However, is it true? Is recovery actually a thing? Or are all these people just deluding themselves? Gabe and Michelle discuss this – and more – on this episode of A Bipolar, a Sch...
Tags: Psychology, America, Bipolar, Schizophrenia, Recovery, Inspiration & Hope, Michelle, Gabe Howard, Don, Gabe, SAMHSA, National Institute of Mental Health, BetterHelp, Gabe Gabe, Michelle You, A Bipolar


How to Reduce Mental Clutter That’s Keeping You Stuck

Do these statements sound all-too familiar? I’m too old for that. I’ve never been good at that. I don’t have the time. I just can’t do it. They may sound all-too familiar because these kinds of sentences run through your mind any time you want to try something new, any time you have a goal, any time you want to make a change. Any time, there’s an inkling of “I’d like to try that,” a similar soul-crushing thought pops up, and stomps on your desire before it ever takes flight. You think you’re ...
Tags: Psychology, Motivation, General, Habits, Happiness, Stress, Self-help, Self-esteem, Creativity, Clutter, Personal Growth, Mental Health And Wellness, Inspiration & Hope, Success & Achievement, Risk-taking, Assumption


How to Make the Most of Constructive Self-Criticism

Self-criticism is at the heart of so many mental health issues. When you’re constantly feeding yourself negative messages, it can be hard to find the energy you need to get through the day or to challenge yourself in meaningful ways. But this view of criticism is narrow and the solutions that most people spout — “Just be more positive! Don’t be so hard on yourself!” — don’t show us how to turn criticism into a tool that works for us, rather than against us. Here’s why criticism is a good th...
Tags: Psychology, Judgment, Habits, Happiness, Self-esteem, Criticism, Perfectionism, Self-compassion, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, Constructive Criticism


5 Steps to Find the Willpower to Reach Your Goals

“When it is obvious the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.” – Confucius Do you want to know my biggest fear? I’ve just come out of the closet, my parents have rejected me, and I am terrified, really, really terrified, because I’m completely alone, and the pain is unbearable. But it’s not just the rejection that terrifies me — it’s also what happens after that. With no one to turn to, I find comfort at the bottom of a bag of chips. Three months and thirty ...
Tags: Psychology, Identity, Virginia, Goals, Success, Self-help, Confidence, Depression, Insecurity, Netflix, Willpower, Perception, Resistance, Self-doubt, Stanford University, Publishers


Why Do We Forgive?

“Forgiveness is the most powerful thing you can do for your physiology and your spirituality.” – Wayne Dyer There are many reasons why humans choose to forgive, some that they tell themselves and others that they’ve come to believe because of what they’ve been taught by religion, family upbringing, and societal acceptance. Yet, forgiveness is a deeply personal act, one that demands careful thought and deliberation. Why do we forgive? Here are some science-backed (and other) reasons that ma...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Friends, New York Times, Time Magazine, Inspiration & Hope, Wayne Dyer, Ethics & Morality, University of Wisconsin Madison, American Psychological Association, Journal of Health Psychology, University of the Basque Country, Enright, International School for Advanced Studies, Aging Mental Health, Forgive Research


Let Go of Perfectionism with These 3 Shifts

In the real world there are no gold stars for effort or report cards to gauge your progress. Yet a common mistake is treating work like school. As CEO and author, Sallie Krawcheck points out, “Let’s not confuse what made us successful in school for what can make us successful in our careers.” While an honor roll mindset can translate into a drive to succeed that lands you deals and accolades, it can easily lead to workaholism and burnout. The industriousness that served you well in school ma...
Tags: Psychology, General, Students, College, Happiness, Stress, Mindfulness, Self-help, Self-esteem, Performance Anxiety, Women's Issues, Perfectionism, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Children And Teens, Inspiration & Hope


Why ‘Follow Your Passion’ Isn’t the Best Career Advice After All

It’s an often quoted phrase, “follow your passion,” and it’s becoming even more prevalent career advice for both career changers and job seekers who aren’t sure what they should be doing. The idea being that if you follow your passion you’ll ultimately find a line of work that is fulfilling for you. Online entrepreneur communities are rife with motivational quotes from successful individuals, across a range of backgrounds and industries, all with a very similar message:  “ Do what you love...
Tags: Psychology, Stanford, Happiness, Work Life Balance, Self-help, Creativity, New York Times, Career Advice, Malcolm Gladwell, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, Industrial And Workplace, Elaine, Yale NUS College, Paul O'Keefe, Passionate Interest


Reversing the Downward Spiral: Tapping into the Power of Positivity

I find it fascinating to watch an object rolling down a hill, gaining momentum exponentially. Having never taken a physics class, I can’t tell you anything about the mathematical formula behind that, but it is a phenomenon that I have observed not only with moving objects, but with emotions, thoughts and behaviors as well. In my work as a clinical psychologist, and in my own life, I have seen repeatedly how momentum can play a role in people’s lives, in both positive and negative directions...
Tags: Psychology, Habits, Happiness, Personal, Self-help, Optimism, Inspiration & Hope, Pessimism, Suicide Prevention Awareness Month


Breaking the Cycle of Ouch: Why It’s OK to Not Feel OK

Fixing. Solving. Smoothing over. We often reach for the metaphorical superglue when we feel bad or out of sorts. We seek to plaster the cracks of ourselves so the negative emotions don’t leak out, keeping a self-imposed equilibrium of what life “should” be like. But it is OK to be frightened, sad, stressed, anxious or feel grief because it’s OK for it not to be OK. The amount of effort it takes to hold the self imposed equilibrium tells us something — something important if we choose to liste...
Tags: Psychology, Happiness, Self-help, Depression, Grief And Loss, Anxiety And Panic, Inspiration & Hope, Lifehelper


Unsure About Treating Your Bipolar Disorder, or Seeking Treatment Again?

You’ve been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Or you suspect you have it. Sometimes, you feel a persistent, relentless kind of darkness. You feel like you can’t breathe. Or you feel numb. Hollow. You have zero desire to do anything. The smallest tasks feel burdensome. And other times, you feel on top of the world. You feel like you can stay awake for hours. And hours. And you do. You feel like you can work for hours. And hours, too. You feel extremely restless or irritable. You feel impulsive, a...
Tags: Psychology, Disorders, Self-help, Bipolar, Treatment, Bipolar Disorder, Inspiration & Hope, Manic Episode, Gabe Howard, Howard, Annapolis, Baltimore Maryland, Dougherty, Therese Borchard, HealthCentral, Borchard


Have You Run Out of Spoons? It’s Time to Replenish Your Energy Reserves

A few days ago, a friend indicated on her Facebook page that she had “run out of spoons” and asked for support and energy to be sent her way. I had heard the term but didn’t know what it meant, so I turned to Google and typed in those words and what came up was the explanation that came from a conversation between two friends, one of whom had Lupus. Christine Miserandino was sitting at a table with her college roommate who asked her what it was like to have a disease that for many peopl...
Tags: Psychology, Google, Energy, Time, Disability, Policy and advocacy, Caregiving, Young, Caregivers, TBI, Stigma, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, Alanis Morissette, Christine, Alone Time


People with Bipolar Disorder Share How They Started Treatment—and Why They Stick with It

Bipolar disorder is highly treatable, and yet so many people don’t seek treatment. Or if they do seek help, they later stop taking their meds or stop attending their therapy sessions. Or both. And then their bipolar blows up. Their mania spikes. Their depression sinks even deeper. Sticking to treatment is not easy. Medication has side effects. Therapy takes work. The illness itself can be stubborn, exhausting, confusing. It can all feel so frustrating. We wanted to know what led some individua...
Tags: Psychology, General, California, Disorders, Bipolar, Treatment, Johns Hopkins, Mental Health And Wellness, Inspiration & Hope, Oklahoma City, Gabe Howard, Martin, Howard, Dougherty, Therese Borchard, Elaina J Martin


Shrieking in Silence: Can Anyone Hear?

You remember the chilling Kitty Genovese case? As Kitty hysterically shrieked for help — her voice echoing through the New York night, 38 neighbors ignored her hysterical pleas. The neighbors’ blurry thought process, “Well, maybe someone else will help” or “I am not able to assist her.” Collectively, there was a diffusion of responsibility. “What does this have to do with mind happiness?” you wonder. Let me explain. Mind happiness is a habit — one that demands your attention. Right now....
Tags: Psychology, New York, Happiness, Compassion, Stress, Personal, Mindfulness, Self-help, Relaxation, OCD, Coping Strategies, Worry, Mental Health And Wellness, Anxiety And Panic, Inspiration & Hope, Health-related


Rebuilding Relationships After Rehab

You’ve done it. After years of denial, after suffering many losses (people, jobs, money), you finally looked at your life of addiction and said “Enough.” You went into rehab to quit the addiction and to start a new life. Give yourself enormous credit for that. Making the decision to do it took courage. Staying in the program took commitment and determination. Now you have to meet the challenge of returning to the life you left. You have made major changes. But chances are that the home you a...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Parenting, Relationships, Friends, Friendship, Trust, Habits, Happiness, Personality, Betrayal, Substance Abuse, Addiction, Resentment, Recovery, Alcoholism


The Benefits of Laughter

Could laughter defeat ISIS? If you were on an operating table, in need of a triple-bypass, might you call in a clown? While a P.O.W., undergoing torture, would all your suffering disappear when someone recited a decent knock, knock joke? A logical person would consider all of the above absurd. Comedy is no panacea. And yet numerous cultures have found an integral place for farce and buffoonery. Chinese Emperors had Court Jesters, Native American tribes had Tricksters, and in Europe, during ...
Tags: Psychology, Europe, Isis, Accidents, Charity, Happiness, America, Research, Stress, Personal, Mindfulness, Healing, Anxiety, Resilience, Creativity, Fear