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Are There People Who Are Truly Incompatible With Others?

When under stress, it’s common to choose a shadow person to blame. I do it. I bet you do it too. You’re all keyed up so you start thinking about this person you don’t like. It distracts you. This is … Read More...
Tags: Psychology, Scorpio, Astrology, Projection, Shadow, Relating, 8th-house


My Chart Is Easy – His Is Hard

Do you have a chart full of trines?  I do, for the most part. In contrast, my husband’s chart is jarring. It’s dominated by a T-square involving Mars and Saturn for one thing. When we got together he warned me … Read More...
Tags: Mars, Astrology, Relating, Composite-chart, Synastry


Do You Have to Love Yourself Before You Love Others?

Since I’ve been on a kick of debunking common self-care myths, let me tackle the biggest one of all: that you have to fully love yourself before you can love and be loved by others. Like most of these ideas, … Read More...
Tags: Astrology, Relating


On Being A Picky Snob

My husband and I were talking about a person we know. There are very few people he loves or likes or cares to be around.  Consequently he’s lonely. He doesn’t like this either. I am like this myself to an … Read More...
Tags: Astrology, Real Life, Relating


Can You Willingly Age Out Of Your Pathology?

Astrologers can see see things in charts that cause problems in a person’s life. I spoke with a client this morning who is concerned about various patterns of behavior in her past. She can point to the thing in her … Read More...
Tags: Psychology, Aging, Addiction, Astrology, Relating, 8th-house, Saturn-in-Scorpio


Saturn and Jupiter in Synastry

Another odd couple in synastry is Saturn and Jupiter. Saturn limits, defines, and contracts. Jupiter is free, full of potential, and expansive. Jupiter is at the party dancing in circles while Saturn is reminding everyone that the local noise ordinance … Read More...
Tags: Saturn, Jupiter, Astrology, Relating, Synastry


Do Weirdos Find Weirdos To Marry?

Someone told me that weirdos find weirdos (to marry). I got the impression she felt it was easier to find a spouse if you were weird because you see each other out there. I tend to agree with this because … Read More...
Tags: Marriage, Dating, Astrology, Relating, Uranus in 7th, Venus-Uranus


What To Expect When Saturn Transits Venus or Mars in Leo

I was talking to a client about transiting Saturn in Aquarius transiting opposite natal Venus and Mars in Leo. It’s a bit stupid, because I have Venus in Leo, myself.  I was so focused on this other chart I didn’t … Read More...
Tags: Leo, Mars, Venus, Astrology, Real Life, Relating, Saturn-transit-venus, Venus-in-leo, Saturn transit Mars


What To Expect When Venus Squares Pluto

Venus will square Pluto on April 12th. Yes, you can expect old lovers to show up. I call them “corpses” as in “Step away from the corpse”. It’s common to want to breathe life into a dead thing but it’s … Read More...
Tags: Psychology, Pluto, Venus, Astrology, Obsession, Real Life, Relating, Venus-Pluto


Venus Square Neptune: Getting Good Results Via Hard Aspects In Your Chart

Let’s say you’ve got a problem and let’s say you’ve got the hang of astrology or perhaps you consult an astrologer and they isolate some problem or pathology to a specific aspect in your chart. Now what? The energy is … Read More...
Tags: Art, Astrology, Real Life, Venus Neptune, Relating, Venus Square Neptune


LIBRA – Death By Codependency – Video

Yes, Libra, you’re nice. Now learn to say no! … Read More...
Tags: Videos, Advice, Libra, Astrology, Real Life, Relating, Pluto-in-Capricorn, Co-dependence, Pluto-in-Libra, Saturn-in-Libra


What Chart Markers Indicate Age Difference In Relationships?

Hi, Elsa. What are the markers of attraction to older men in a chart of a woman? It’s a general question, so I’m not including any birth data. Studying Hi, Studying. There are people who fare well by partnering outside … Read More...
Tags: Elsa, Advice, Astrology, Real Life, Relating, Venus-Saturn, Saturn-in-7th, venus in Capricorn


The Downside Of Having Your Sun In Aspect To Jupiter

  If your sun is aspected by Jupiter, you tend to be confident.  You’re often larger than life in some way.  Sun Jupiter types have a healthy ego and are generally entertaining. A person has to have a healthy ego … Read More...
Tags: Dating, Jupiter, Astrology, Sun Jupiter, Relating


Venus in Libra vs Venus in Scorpio Love

Elsa, From what I’ve read, Venus in Libra is exalted and Venus in Scorpio is in its detriment. Venus in Libra is more occupied with superficiality while Venus in Scorpio is more preoccupied with intensity and the deep end of … Read More...
Tags: Videos, Venus, Libra, Scorpio, Astrology, Real Life, Relating, Venus-in-scorpio, Venus In Libra, Elsa From, Scorpio Love


Mars Square Mars In Synastry – Specific To Sex

When Mars squares Mars between charts, it creates a lot of friction.  The result is just like it sounds. The partners jar each other. You may like this. It really depends on your tastes. The Mars/Mars aspect promises that you will … Read More...
Tags: Sex, Mars, Astrology, Real Life, Relating, Synastry, Mars Square Mars


Uranus in Taurus: Love Reversal – Commitment-Phobics Marry

Uranus transiting Taurus will turn the tables in the Venus-ruled realms of love and money. You’ll see many reversals in fortune with Uranus in Taurus. What we don’t know is who or what or when or how! The perennially partnered may … Read More...
Tags: Marriage, Trends, Astrology, Relating, Commitment-phobia, Uranus in Taurus, Venus-Uranus


Saturn In Aquarius Transiting Your 2nd House

When Saturn transits your Venus-ruled second house, you’ll feel pressured to get your financial life in order.  You’ll also define your values and earn and solidify your sense of self-esteem. This doesn’t sound very sexy but a person who manages … Read More...
Tags: Love, House, Venus, Astrology, Relating, Saturn transit 2nd, Saturn in Aquarius


What To Expect From Venus Conjunct Pluto In Capricorn

Venus will conjunct Pluto in Capricorn, under the full moon in Leo on January 28th. This is a hard core deal. I’ve wrote about this specific conjunction, ten years ago. These are the keywords I chose back then: The casting … Read More...
Tags: Dating, Leo, Pluto, Venus, Capricorn, Astrology, Relating, Venus-Pluto


Evil Diabolical Brainwashing

I write a lot about brainwashing on this blog. I wrote this particular piece, ten years ago in 2011. I write about protecting and maintaining your mental health, exercising your intellect, doing you own thinking, striving to understand things and … Read More...
Tags: Psychology, Astrology, Mercury Mars, Mercury Pluto, Relating, Psychopaths


Synastry: Can You Truly Know Another Person?

“Every human life involves an unfathomable mystery, for man is the riddle of the universe, and the riddle of man in his endowment with personal capacities. The stars are not so strange as the mind that studies then, analyzes their … Read More...
Tags: Astrology, Relating


Why Did Scorpio Cut You Off?

There is a good discussion going here – Scorpio Dead Zone, which I really should have called the Scorpio Kill Zone. I’ve written about Scorpio amputating people over the years (search). Typically the person who is cut off is left … Read More...
Tags: Psychology, Scorpio, Astrology, Relating, 8th-house, Scorpio Dead Zone


The Loveless, Causing Confusion And Torment

I read a poem from the 1800’s that challenged me to think. The poem was about a man who loves a woman who does not love him because she can’t love him. She can’t love because it’s herself whom she … Read More...
Tags: Psychology, Art, Love, Astrology, Relating, Venus-Pluto


Building Up Hate

Nobody wants to be seen as “hateful”, especially in this era.  You might say you have no hate in your heart. You may feel the people around you do? You have no hate, you have no hate, you have no … Read More...
Tags: Anger, Astrology, Discuss, Relating


Venus And Mars In Synastry

A client was digging for information. He asked me about the importance of Venus and Mars in relationships. It was an interesting question, I’d not been asked before. Venus in a natal chart will show what you’re attracted to. It … Read More...
Tags: Mars, Venus, Astrology, Relating, Synastry


If A Man Says He Doesn’t Want To Marry, Does He Mean It?

I’m acquainted with a man in his fifties; he does not want to marry again.  He’s been dating a gal for a couple of years. They’re exclusive. The man has been candid with  the woman from day one. He does … Read More...
Tags: Commitment, Venus, Astrology, Real Life, Discuss, Relating


Why Do Some People Bring Out the Worst in Each Other?

We often talk about people bringing out the best or the worst in us, but have you ever wondered why that happens? Synastry, which is the interaction of two charts, often has the answer. One of the interesting things about … Read More...
Tags: Astrology, Real Life, Relating, Synastry, Mom and Dad


Unrequited Love – Why Pine Over Someone Disinterested In You?

Why do people continue to pursue or obsess over someone who has rejected them? I’ve seen people get caught in situations like this for years. There seems to be a number of reasons why. They just can’t believe that the … Read More...
Tags: Advice, Astrology, Obsession, Relating


How Managers Can Deal With Being Promoted

Everything changes when you get promoted. Do you know how to handle it? Image Credit: U.S. Army Corps of Engineers Europe District Getting promoted is what every manager wants. With you new position comes more money, more responsibility, better benefits, and perhaps even elevated status. However, it turns out that there is a downside to this type of career advancement. You may now be asking yourself “where did all of my friends go?” Likewise, now when you walk into a room, conversat...
Tags: Career, Friends, Trust, Careers, Training, Benefits, Skills, Perks, Self-confidence, Promotion, Satisfaction, Distance, Jim Anderson, Relating, Social Dynamics, Status


Living With Someone With Mars in The 4th House

When I see Mars in the 4th house of a natal chart, I think of family fights and fire in the belly.  It’s not the greatest place for Mars because the home and family are supposed to be a place … Read More...
Tags: Mars, Astrology, Real Life, Relating, Mars in 4th, Mars-in-cancer


Scorpio Moon, Lack of Trust, Paranoia, Obsession

The moon falls in Scorpio. Nevertheless. I have a great affinity and affection for these intense types. I work with then, pretty much every day. I’m also married to a man with his moon in Scorpio. People with the moon … Read More...
Tags: Astrology, Obsession, Real Life, Relating, moon-in-Scorpio, Scorpio Moon Lack of Trust Paranoia Obsession, Scorpio People