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I’m Concerned My Boyfriend Has Developed Intimate Feelings for a Female Co-Worker

I have been dating a guy for the past 6 months. We met online and both live very busy lives where our careers are very important to us. He currently travels for work to another state Monday-Thursday every week. I am his first serious girlfriend and the only girlfriend he’s introduced to his parents (that don’t even live in the same state as we do). Throughout our 6-month relationship he has taken many steps to show how committed he is to me. For example, when I had received an interview for scho...
Tags: Psychology, Facebook, General, Colorado, Cheating, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Insecurity, Infidelity, Dating, Secrets


I Like Having a Billion Things Wrong with Me

From a teen in Canada: I’m 15, my sister has many mental disorders, when i was 12 i was depressed, i’;m happy now. i’m overwhelmingly sexually attracted to girls. I’m quite dark, i like dark humor, im nice, im also a jerk. I never show anger publicly, on my own i scream silently at the smallest things. Im a huge movie fan, when i see a scene where my favorite character gets attention i freak out. i love it. it’s like a walking seizure. I have a lot of desires. one day i want to be a hero, the ot...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Canada, Alienation


What Do I Do about Intrusive Sister-in-Law?

From the U.S.: Met my sister-in-law in 2004 she is heavy set and had an ordinary style. I have pin up style and platinum blonde hair, several tattoos. Soon after she went from dark brown hair to blonde. Started wearing flower clips in her hair, buying same brand pin up purses as me. Then she bought the same car as mine (black) hers white and had my bro buy same truck as my husband (black) his white. She got two monarch butterflies tattooed on her back shoulders like me, lily tatted on right foot...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Paranoia, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Christianity, Jealousy, Borderline Personality, In-laws, Copycat, Don


I Keep Pretending I’m a Fictional Character in a Different World in My Head

Hi, I’m about to be 15 years old and since I think maybe when I was 12 years old I’ve been pretending that I’m a fictional character. I sometimes when I’m sitting in class i pretend to have random conversations to characters I made up in my head I don’t talk out load I just talk in my head, I try to snap out of it sometimes because I miss writing notes down off the board it really interrupts my school work. I didn’t grow up with a lot of friends I usually spent time watching Movies or reading bo...
Tags: Psychology, General, Bullying, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Personality, Canada, Harry Potter, Imagination, Creative Outlet, Daydreaming, Fantasy Life


I Want to Move Back to My Ex But My Family Won’t Let Me

So I want to get back with my daughter’s father. We broke up originally because I cheated which was my mistake. Please, no bashing I suffered enough already. Point what I am getting to is I moved 1000kms away from him because of the fights and accusations and threats that was happening. So I moved to my parents it has been One and a Half months since the fights we both want to get back together and his family wants me home too, as I was living with him for almost a year. Now that we have sorted ...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Cheating, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Self-esteem, Personality, Parenting & Children, Infidelity, South Africa, Breakups, Coping Skills


I Think I’m Addicted to Having a Stressful and Poor Life Due to Trauma

I was a child who would get beaten and cursed at on a daily basis by my mother, beaten with wood, pots, and pans, etc, until I left my home when I was 17. I heard daily how awful I was, how my mother didn’t know how God put someone like me in the world, how I would be nothing etc. I was sexually abused by a family friend but to this day no one knows. I was had panic attacks when I was a teenager and came off of it by myself. Now, I’m a 38 failure, I’m homeless, jobless, depressed etc. I had chan...
Tags: Family, General, Depression, Self-esteem, Personality, Parenting & Children, Abuse, Violence, Helsinki


Slowly Losing My Mind

It’s actually 5 am and I can’t sleep because I feel like I am losing it. I am so disconnected, and I have strange thoughts that I don’t want to have and are making me doubt my sanity. I had a big panic attack a month ago where I lost it completely. The morning after, I was feeling off, self-doubtful and scared. Since then, I had a lot of them and I have unwanted thoughts, but what bothers me the most is the fact that I am feeling really disconnected, like reality is slipping away from me. I wake...
Tags: Psychology, General, College, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Panic Attacks, Coping Skills, Life Transition, Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID


Issues in Dysfunctional Family

My parents have been divorced for 19 years. I grew up with my mother and grandma in her house. During my childhood, my grandma would tell me horrible things about my father such as that he abandoned me, that he doesn’t care about me, etc. which resulted in me not having any kind of relationship with my father up until my late teen years when we started rebuilding it. He and my mother don’t talk and she is convinced that my father wants to turn me against her and this is the reason for many terri...
Tags: Psychology, General, Independence, Divorce, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Personality, Parenting & Children, Abuse, Dysfunctional Family, Toxic Family


Fear of Doing My Homework and Checking My Grades!!!!

I have no idea why I have this fear or anxiety. I am taking online classes full-time right now and have been for the last 3 year. I will always start the school quarter off well and be on track with Homework and grades but then if I don’t get online for just one single day (which is completely fine to do. We aren’t required to go online everyday) it becomes extremely hard for me to get back online to do homework and to check my grades. It is very similar to another fear I have which is when I fe...
Tags: Psychology, School, General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Illegal drugs/alcohol abuse, OCD, Avoidance, Perfectionism, CBT, Heroin Addiction


Why Can’t I/Don’t Want to Connect with People

My friends all say I don’t reply enough. I always cancel plans and ignore calls. It sounds awful and I feel guilty, but I can’t seem to care about my relationships with people either romantically or otherwise. I get bored with people after a couple of weeks. I’m not particularly nervous or anxious to be around people and I’m popular enough in school. I’m not scared as to why I’m alone, I know I don’t have to be, I’m scared as to why I’m choosing it. I hate telling people personal details. I feel...
Tags: School, Family, Relationships, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Personality, Intimacy, Dublin, Connection


Addiction Recovery: Distinguishing ‘Who I Am’ Versus ‘What I Do’

While speaking with a young woman who is newly in recovery with more than 100 days clean, the topic of change arose. She said that she was unhappy with who she was. I inquired further and asked what she was distressed about in her life. She went on to tell me her history and all of things she had done over the years that caused pain and sorrow, dysfunction and addictive behaviors. We delved deeper and explored the catalysts for those choices. What became apparent was that she had internaliz...
Tags: Psychology, Self-esteem, Addiction, Recovery, Ethics & Morality


Spouse’s Disturbing Behavior

Been married about 10mth. We’ve known each other 10 years, mostly not together as he is from overseas. He moved to the US and we got married recently. Seemed a bit homesick and perhaps depressed after a few months, but that’s it. Recently he started not coming home. It started small. He was late from work or school, didn’t text or respond to texts or calls. Then he just wouldn’t come home until next day and wouldn’t say or would just say be home late and ignore any follow-up question. After the ...
Tags: Psychology, Relationships, US, Divorce, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Abuse, Self Care


Why Jealousy Can Be Good

Envy is one of the seven deadly sins. “Never underestimate the power of jealousy and the power of envy to destroy,” Oliver Stone said. I’m going to do just that. I’m going to postulate that envy also has the power to create and to motivate, that it is, in fact, GOOD. This topic is a natural for me since I spend so much time counting other people’s blessings. I salivate over my friend’s number-one New York Time’s bestseller; my colleague’s trip to Tibet; my brother-in-law’s cake job; my friend’s ...
Tags: Psychology, Tibet, Relationships, Habits, Happiness, Self-help, Self-esteem, Oliver Stone, William, University of Cambridge, Venus, Serena, Mental Health And Wellness, Brain And Behavior, Motivation And Inspiration, University of Texas


I Think I’m a Compulsive Liar and I May Be Depressed

I’m 23 years old and I live with my parents. I keep lying to them about college. I want to major in dietetics but I keep having problems with chemistry and I need it to actually claim dietetics as my major and I’m taking the needed nutrition courses for it in the meantime. The problem though is that I need an internship for dietetics to gain experience and I can’t qualify for one until chemistry is passed. I keep lying to my parents about my graduation date. It happens without me even thinking a...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, College, Depression, Anxiety, Lying, Self-esteem, Personality, Marie, Marie Hartwell Walker, Compulsive Liar


Husband

My husband had major anger issues. We have been together for 8 years and have 3 kids together. I never feel like I can say what I want because I’m scared he’s going to react. I do everything in the home. All he has is to do is work. He snaps at the kids almost daily when he wakes up. He works graveyard. He never asks them how their days are or makes them feel like they are doing anything right. Our problem is that I defend them constantly and he doesn’t like that I take their side. Tonight, he s...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Marriage, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Self-esteem, Abuse, Illegal drugs/alcohol abuse, Domestic Violence, Violence, Alcoholism, Alcohol Abuse, Domestic Abuse


How Can I Choose Between My Parents and My Boyfriend?

I’m 23 years old, I’m finishing my studies, and I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years. My parents never wanted to know him cause he isn’t the looking good type, that they imagined to me (cause he is bald, without status and money). However he’s a nice independent man (he got his own house and car) with 28 years old, I love him, he is very honest and kind to me. He always treated me well and despite my parent’s attempts to separate us. Lately, my boyfriend and I started to see things worn out b...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Relationships, Independence, Relationship, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Personality, Dating, Portugal, Parental Approval, Parental Disapproval


25 Inspiring Quotes on Embracing Your True Self

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” It is also the greatest struggle, in my opinion, to leave at the door the sentiments and expectations of others and lead with your truth. Lately I’ve looked for inspiration in the words of others to help me resist the urge to become an imitation of someone else and to embrace the person I am. Here are some of my favorite quotes. 1. Embrace the glorious...
Tags: Psychology, Steve Jobs, Self-help, Self-esteem, Nelson Mandela, Winston Churchill, Oscar Wilde, Perfectionism, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Inspiration & Hope, Eleanor Roosevelt, Judy Garland, Don, Elizabeth Gilbert, Ralph Waldo Emerson


I Am Unsure What Kind of Relationship I Should Have with My Parents

I grew up in a upper middle class family. I was given most things I wanted and all the essential things a child would need. I have a brother who is 25, he has borderline personality disorder. He acted out as a child/teenager, was constantly arguing with my parents and soaked up much of my parents attention. I was given attention in a different way, but rejected any emotionally connection because I saw emotions as negative because my brother/parents were arguing because of my brothers intense emo...
Tags: Abuse, Anger Management, Anxiety, Depression, Family, General, Personality, Relationships, Self-esteem, Therapy, Couples Counseling, Emotional Neglect, No Contact, Parental Approval


Sexual Abuse?

When I was around 8 years old, my older sister would have me play “truth or dare” with her. She is 4 years older than me, and most of the time we had to share a bed. She would make me preform sexual acts on her and get upset or angry if I told her I didn’t want to. She rarely ever reciprocated, and if I brought it up or mentioned it later, she would act like it never happened. This eventually stopped around a year or two later, but she would still make me sleep in the same bed with her for years...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Sex, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Abuse, Child Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Sibling Abuse, Boundary Violation


Disillusionment with Society, Lack of Interest or Motivation to Contribute

I find myself increasingly disillusioned with society and with my peers. In my classes, I feel like there is a lack of focus on important issues and my attempts to provoke conversations on current affairs in the world and how they should be dealt with, specifically in terms of race, domestic policy, and global issues. I feel as if moving on to higher education will not be worth it. I feel if I were to apply myself to some field and envelop myself in my work that it would allow free-loaders to su...
Tags: Psychology, School, General, Relationships, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Personality, Myanmar, Boredom, Lack Of Motivation, Social Skills, Perspective Taking, Rohingya Muslim, Society Lack of Interest, Aleksandr I Solzhenitsyn


How Diet & Exercise Can Help Prevent Mental Health Issues and More

While struggling with mental health issues or trying to avoid substance abuse, your emotions are like a roller coaster and they can vary from time to time. This rhythm, when not well handled, can make your situation worse. For people with drug or alcohol addictions, there is a high likelihood of developing mental health issues too. You can control this by managing what you eat and how you work out. Below are ways on how to use your diet and exercise to prevent substance abuse or mental hea...
Tags: Health, Fashion, Florida, Fitness, Mental Health, Substance Abuse, Exercise, Jacksonville, Self Esteem, Health & Fitness, Treatment Center, Mental Fitness, Mental Wellness


Constant Loud ‘Fight’ or ‘Conversation’ with Myself Even in Public

O.K. Here is my problem: I am 34 years old. A male. My mind is at constant unrest. I have had a blessed life with all professional success, great family and good friends. My family is very loving and peaceful. From about 10 years, I keep constantly remembering people (the ones whom I would have met a couple of days ago, or from a surprisingly distant past – triggered based on a situation) and frame situations in my mind and have ‘loud’ conversations with them. Please note that I know this is not...
Tags: Psychology, General, Australia, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Self-esteem, Personality, Memory & Pereception


I Feel I’m Not Normal

I don’t really know how to deal with myself, in general, I feel likeI could be going crazy. What does it mean when I feel like i’m going crazy or that there is something is wrong with me, I take several type of disorder test and they all confirm there is something wrong with me but I don’t know how to handle it. For example, I can’t handle the thoughts I think some can be violent and some really nice, sometimes I feel like I can’t believe these thoughts our from my mind I just feel like a differ...
Tags: Psychology, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Personality, Abuse, Intrusive Thoughts, Canada, Psychosis, Violence, Mood Swings, Hitler, Inappropriate Behavior, Aggressive Ideation


I Think I Need a Therapist’s Opinion

I’ve noticed recently that my mood and mindset can change so quickly. I know I struggle with depression already, but this is seems differently. Almost like bipolar, but short episodes. I can be having a great time with friends, but suddenly just breakdown and start crying. Or I could be absolutely fine and just something can trigger my brain and I’ll be weeping and clawing at my skin, in bouts or depression and anger. It’s really quite confusing for me. I’m not sure if this is just regular depre...
Tags: Psychology, General, Depression, Bipolar, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Personality, Mood Swings


I Don’t Know What’s Wrong with Me

I’m a teen and don’t know what I’m doing with my life, I’m not very good at expressing myself so I try my best I feel like I’m doing the same thing over and over again, with no real point in anything. My friends laugh and have inside jokes which I feel I’m not allowed to understand. I constantly feel like a third wheel and feel like an unfunny burden which they feel is their responsibility to take care of even if they don’t want to. I don’t understand why I feel like I’m useless at everything, I...
Tags: Psychology, School, General, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Personality, United Kingdom


I’m No Longer Allowed to Enjoy Something with My Friend

Hello. For my issue, it might seem silly. I feel as if I’m no longer allowed to enjoy something with my friend G. My friend G and I enjoy certain things together, like the video game of Splatoon. I find it great to talk to her about that game that we love so much. However, I got into Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild, and at first, she wasn’t into it. All of a sudden, she changes her mind and tries to make it her own thing. It’s like you get into the sport of basketball, and your friend gets i...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Friendship, Disappointment, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Personality, Jealousy, Zelda


Feelings for Boyfriend Change Drastically Every Week for Past 10 Months

I got into a relationship last February. It was the most amazing thing I’ve ever experienced, I liked him an insane amount. I’ve never been happier in my entire life. I was getting 6 hours of sleep basically every night by staying up and messaging or video calling him since he lives across the country. I was constantly nervous, but in a good way, too nervous to eat even. Even though mentally it was probably all not good for me, it was the most amazing thing ever, and I liked him so much. But the...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Personality, Intimacy, Dating, Infatuation, Unstable Relationships


Husband Constantly Gropes Me While Verbalizing that He Knows I Hate It

For years my husband has made a habit of randomly groping me, usually grabbing/rubbing my backside, when I am distracted – typically performing other tasks. I’ve asked him to stop repeatedly and explained why I don’t enjoy it. He claims he’s not groping but simply showing affection. In, the past year he has also started saying, ‘I know you hate it, but I like it’ as he gropes me. It’s reached a point, for me, where I have an aversion to his touch period. Am I overreacting by thinking that I feel...
Tags: Psychology, General, Sex, Relationships, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Sexual Abuse, Groping, Couples Therapy, Disrespect, Personal Boundaries


Thinking of My Ex While in a New Relationship

I am in a new relationship(5 months). Yet I keep thinking about my ex. It’s been almost 3 years since i broke up with my ex of two years he was my high school sweetheart. We broke up because when i went away to college, he became a little controlling. That caused me to subconsciously move away from him and i started to focus on other men & in the end i cheated. We had a very bad break up and even though i ended things It left me depressed where from time to time i would suddenly burst into tears...
Tags: General, Time, Self-esteem, Personality, Trauma, Intimacy, Dating, Breakups, Heartbreak, Intimacy Issues


Am I a Psychopath or Anxious?

From a teen in Canada:  I often feel extremely worried on whether I’m a psychopath. I feel empathy and remorse. When I was eight I had done something terrible to an animal and it ended up killing it by accident and I haven’t been able to let this go. I’m not entirely sure if this is guilt I feel, because I feel really bad about this. I have had past childhood trauma too. I also have major suicidal tendencies and self-harm behaviors. I have thoughts like, (NOT ACTING ON THESE) “What would happen ...
Tags: General, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Self Harm, Canada, Psychosis, Psychopathology, Self Esteem, Remorse, Self Injury