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Sexual Masochism Disorder

Ever since I was a child (7 to 10 years)I would feel aroused when I see someone humiliated or slightly tortured, I would imagine myself being the one receiving getting humiliated. I began masturbating when I was about 10, I didn’t even know what was I doing, I didn’t even know anything about sex or had any sexual feelings. I would lay on my stomach and just sort of pressure myself against the floor and I would never use my hands or finger myself, it has been the same way ever since. I am 20 year...
Tags: Psychology, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Abuse, Egypt, Psychosis, Torture, Humiliation, Masochism, Sexual disorder


Anxiety Over the Past

So over a year ago I decided to “experiment” with a psychedelic substance. At the time I used it to help with depression and for some time it did, but I’ve developed now from something else, Anxiety. Since I got Generalised Anxiety Disorder I’ve been looking back at the time I “experimented” and I feel bad for it. Like I did something wrong. I even told my mother to help lift that burden and she forgave me, but I can’t forgive myself. I worry about it and I worry that my mom still thinks about i...
Tags: Psychology, General, Paranoia, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Personality, Illegal drugs/alcohol abuse, Substance Abuse, Drug Abuse, Drug Use, Psychedelics, Kristin Neff


A Real Dose of Hope When You’re Feeling Hopeless

You’re trying to find a job, and after way too many interviews, you’re still unemployed. You’ve had a string of awful dates, and you’re convinced that you’ll never find your person. You’ve repeatedly asked your spouse to work less or spend less or drink less and after promising to make a change, they still haven’t. You have depression, and nothing seems to be helping. And, so, you feel hopeless. And you assume that this feeling of hopelessness carries with it some significant truth: your circ...
Tags: Psychology, Books, General, California, Disorders, Stress, Self-help, Depression, Treatment, Self-esteem, Voice, Allan, Mental Health And Wellness, Inspiration & Hope, Boyd, Vancouver Canada


There Is Something Wrong with Me

I don’t know what it is, but I am certain that I need help: I really don’t know how to begin this or to just tell it all, so please bear with me. I am a 15-year-old girl, and, because I really don’t want to be identified or recognized, you can call me “M” if you wish. i’m sorry. I don’t remember a time when I thought I was normal. There is something wrong with me. I think it all started in second grade of elementary school when the bullying began. I don’t really remember much of my past, but the...
Tags: Bullying, Suicide, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, School Counselor, Childhood Trauma, Self Esteem


"An affected or simpering smile; a silly, conceited, smiling look."

That's the definition of "smirk" in the (unlinkable) OED. I looked up the word because it was used over and over to refer to the smile on the face of the Covington Catholic schoolboy the media singled out to destroy over the weekend.When is a smile a "smirk"? The dictionary says, when it's affected or simpering or silly and conceited looking.But I'd like a deeper psychological explanation of what is supposed to be in the mind of the smirker and how observers of smiles decide they have a window i...
Tags: Psychology, Facebook, Law, Virginia, Self-esteem, Wisconsin, Catholic, John, Smiling, Howe, Ruth Graham, Jaltcoh, John Althouse Cohen, Ann Althouse, OED, Brett Kavanaugh


9 Ways to Free Yourself from Ruminations

Of all my symptoms of depression, stuck thoughts are by far the most painful and debilitating for me. The harder I try to move the needle from the broken record in my brain, the louder the song becomes. Ruminations are like a gaggle of politicians campaigning in your head. Try as you might to detach from their agenda, their slogans are forefront in your mind, ready to thrust you down the rabbit hole of depression. Logic tells you they are full of bull, but that doesn’t keep you from believing wh...
Tags: Psychology, Elsa, Disney, Stress, Personal, Mindfulness, Self-help, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Mental Health And Wellness, Self-worth, Ruminating, Kristin Neff, Group Beyond Blue on Facebook, Abraham Low


My Boyfriend’s Friend Disrespected Me

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years and have been living together for a little over 3 years. About a year ago his friend stayed over at our house while we were out on vacation, I’ve never met his friend before and only said yes because he said his friend was trustworthy. His friend ended up bringing over a female coworker and not letting us know but I found an eyeliner so I was upset and asked my boyfriend to talk to him since he didn’t want me to talk to his friend myself. ...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Anger Management, Self-esteem, Personality, Dating, Disrespect, Grudge, Misunderstanding, Disagreement


I truly believe that it is time for each of us to flip on our switch to live in our own light.

This post was originally published on InspireMeToday.com. Leave a comment or share this post by visiting I truly believe that it is time for each of us to flip on our switch to live in our own light..
Tags: Inspiration, Self Esteem, Inspirational Quotes


5 Healthy Ways to Heal a Broken Heart

Put the pieces back together again. Trying to figure out how to move on after a breakup is rough. Having a broken heart is no cup of tea — and learning how to get over a breakup, especially a painful one with someone you love, is a lesson no one wants to learn. So what do you do next after letting go of love? Have you worked hard to get out of a relationship that wasn’t serving you? Are you feeling overwhelmed by emotion and the empty space that is the result letting go of your love? You are ...
Tags: Psychology, Relationships, Friends, Love, Self-help, Self-esteem, Netflix, Friendships, Mars, Breakup, Publishers, Self Care, Yourtango, Broken Heart, Healthy Ways to Heal a Broken Heart


Follow Up: My Boyfriend Has A Baby From A Past Girlfriend

On 2009-09-07 someone asked a question with the title “My Boyfriend Has A Baby From A Past Girlfriend” It was answered by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP. I’m in the same predicament (if not worse) and can relate to how she felt. It’s been 9 years since that was posted, and was wondering if there was someway to follow up. How did her life turn out? I keep on wondering how my life will end up if I were to stay in my current relationship. Would I ruin my life? The post you referred to is l...
Tags: Psychology, General, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Parenting & Children, Daniel J Tomasulo


Struggling with Your Self-Esteem? Here’s What to Do

Divorce really has a way of wrecking our lives. Not only are we learning to be single again, we are also forced to adapt to new realities of a change in lifestyle, schedules, and retirement plans.  As if these challenges are not overwhelming enough, there’s another struggle we must endure after divorce: learning how to rebuild our self-esteem. It’s easy to understand why this is such an issue. When your relationship ends, you may feel rejected. You may feel unworthy. You may think that nob...
Tags: Psychology, Divorce, Self-help, Self-esteem, Optimism, Rejection, Grief And Loss, Marriage And Divorce, Self-worth, Affirmations


Sexual Abuse?

I have a question for you. I come from a very dysfunctional family. There is a history of alcoholism and sexual deviancy and abuse throughout both sides of my parents’ lineage. My question is this: Do you consider what happened to me to be sexual abuse? My father would sleep with me in bed with him for years. He would put his hands down my pants and hold my bare bottom and put his hands between my thighs (as if to warm them). This is how we would “snuggle up and prepare to go to sleep” every nig...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Childhood Trauma, Alcoholism, Vietnam, Sexual Trauma


I Have the Desire for Something Horrible to Happen to Me

At 14 my life is easy but sometimes I have fantasies of either getting into an accident (or just getting injured to the point of being hospitalized ) or losing everything I have, including the people I love. I have no suicidal thoughts nor have I ever self-harmed, I’m not very confident in myself but I don’t hate myself . The problem is I imagine these scenarios so often and in so much detail that I bring myself tears. I’m worried that these thoughts could become something destructive. Thank you...
Tags: Psychology, England, General, Fantasy, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Suicidal Thoughts, Personality, Violence, Phobia, Suicidal Ideation


Are Casual Suicidal Thoughts Normal?

From a teen in Venezuela: So, the thing is… I have occasional suicidal thoughts that kinda have been going on and off since I a child, but since I’ve been more stressed lately they’d become more frequent. I wasn’t a depressed child (quite the contrary tbh), but I blamed myself for my parents’ constant arguing (I did till the end of middle school) and every time they fought I would wonder/believe if I hadn’t been born they would have been happy without me and I tried to smother myself a couple of...
Tags: School, General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Suicidal Thoughts, University, Venezuela, Self Worth, Self Esteem, Suicidal Ideation


When Is It the Better Part of Valor to Keep Your Mouth Shut?

Opinions abound on topics ranging from politics to religion, from relationships to climate change. Conversations no longer just happen around the water cooler at work. With the advent of social media, sharing those beliefs is as easy as tapping fingers on keyboard and pressing “post.” There was a time when the “taboo subjects” of sex, religion, and death were simply not discussed in polite company. These days, the gloves are off and we go at it with gusto, daring to strike back at anyone who...
Tags: Psychology, Technology, Opinion, Relationships, Wikipedia, Disney, Social Media, Self-help, Self-esteem, Resentment, Offense, Internet Trolls


How Practicing Compassion May Help You Feel Better

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” — Aesop Think about the most disagreeable person you know or ever met. This might even be you on one or more occasions. If you ask people who are a little rough around the edges, those individuals who seem gruff, know-it-all, smug, superior and can’t be bothered, they’d likely say they don’t need anyone else. While compassion is an admirable and fairly basic trait, some of us either lack it (we’re short on empathy) or could use a l...
Tags: Psychology, Happiness, Compassion, Self-help, Self-esteem, Self-compassion, Inspiration & Hope, Association for Psychological Science, York University, University of York, Aesop Think


Do I Need Professional Help?

From a teen in the U.S.: I’m very anxious all the time and I overthink things a lot. I often get so anxious that I start shaking and I’m really on edge, and I lose track of things. I’ll snap at people when I don’t mean to because I’m freaked out. I sometimes get panic attacks that cause me to miss events or bail and hide. Some of my friends have suggested I seek therapy, none of them are mental health professionals. I wonder if maybe I’m blowing my problems out of proportion, or maybe I’m just n...
Tags: General, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Self Esteem, Entering therapy


Thinking About Braces? It’s A New Year Time For A New Smile

Thinking About Braces? It’s A New Year Time For A New Smile | Written By: Lee Spencer’s braces provided by Baptiste Orthodontics have been a life changer. He’s so much more comfortable now because his bite is properly aligned.  A new smile isn’t just about the way you look, but the way you feel. While high self esteem is important at any age, your all over health is a priority as well. Consider making 2019 the year for braces for the reasons below. Benefits of Braces As I mentioned above, ...
Tags: Parenting, Local, Self Esteem, Orlando, Spencer, Baptiste, Lee's Posts, Lee Spencer, Braces, Orthodontics, Baptiste Orthodontics, Straight Smile


I Feel Like I Want Everybody around Me to Feel Bad

I feel like I want everybody around me to feel bad and suffer and I want myself to suffer just because I feel bad about. It happens when I get upset about something, (or I choose to be upset about it). and what really happens is that inside me I get this deep urge to do things that either hurt me or hurt others around me, it’s like I feel spite towards others and towards myself. I don’t know if it is a call for attention or just an ego act, but I feel it a lot lately and at some point, it is bot...
Tags: Psychology, General, Displacement, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Violence, Resentment, Anger, Lebanon, Self Esteem, Projection, Spitefulness


An Upbeat Sign That You Have High Self-Esteem

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Tags: Psychology, Self-esteem, Jeremy Dean


My Husband Comes Home Drunk

From Canada: My husband of 9 years has, in the last 3 months or so, increased his partying. On 7 different occasions he has gone out with single/divorced “friends” and come home stumbling at 4 am. I have respectfully asked him to stop as this is starting to bother me. The last time he went out, he didnt even tell me where he went and who with. I called him 10 times at 1:30 am and he sent me a text at 4:11 am saying he didnt see my calls. He then came home at 4:45 am, drunk. I am so hurt and upse...
Tags: Family, General, Marriage, Relationships, Therapy, Self-esteem, Illegal drugs/alcohol abuse, Domestic Violence, Canada, Alcoholism, Alcohol Abuse, Mid Life Crisis


Depression, Health, Boredom, Interesting People, and Self-Esteem

I remember my first encounters with the self-improvement industry when I was younger. In many areas of the United States, people look at self-improvement as something that is absolutely crazy. That is how the people around me viewed it when I was growing up. When I think about self-improvement, however, I think about people doing things like: …trying to improve their mood and level of happiness …trying to improve their health …trying to become interested in new things …trying to meet other inte...
Tags: Featured, US, Careers, America, United States, Self Improvement, Self Esteem, University Of Cincinnati, National Institute of Mental Health, Getting Ahead, Job Search Guru, Add Post Footer Plugin, Staying Positive, Depression In Life, Lindsey Tanner Associated Press, Archives of General Psychiatry


6 Life Lessons I Learned Last Year

Danish philosopher and theologian Søren Kierkegaard once wrote, “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” The beginning of a new year is an appropriate time to look back over the lessons learned from the mistakes and experiences of previous months. In 2018, I wrote two letters of resignation, grieved the ending of two significant relationships, and spent several weeks on a hospital waiting list for severe depression and weight loss. I fumbled, got lost, and confront...
Tags: Psychology, Suicide, Work Life Balance, Communication, Stress, Personal, Self-help, Depression, Self-esteem, Psychotherapy, Perfectionism, New Year's, Self-compassion, Mental Health And Wellness, Motivation And Inspiration, Marriage And Divorce


Why Do I Lack Empathy/Compassion?

I notice that I have a real issue genuinely feeling for others. A coworker tells me she has to go somewhere for her cancer and I fake compassion, but I don’t think I actually care. Another coworker has someone dying in the hospital, all day she complains about being tired, and all I wanna do is tell her that nobody cares about her problems and to shut up. I feel in the workplace that you shouldn’t discuss personal issues and complain so much about them because you’re there for work. When i see a...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Compassion, Empathy, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Personality, Loving Kindness


15 Simple Ways to Make 2019 the Year of Self-Care

As you make your way into the new year, you're probably making a list of resolutions and goals. You might be hoping to go to the gym more, drink more water, work toward that next promotion, or amp up your regular beauty routine. Regardless of all of your other resolutions for 2019, you should also make self-care a priority. From taking bubble baths on Sundays to getting massages every month, self-care goals are not only easy to set and achieve, but they're also enjoyable. Committing to self-care...
Tags: Wellness, Self-esteem, Beauty, New Year's Resolutions, Beauty tips, Self-care


RAD Tips for a Mindful Year

At the beginning of a new year, many of us start thinking about or have already planned several new year resolutions. These resolutions can be anything from exercising more, eating healthier, working less, more social time, or more time with loved ones. How have these resolutions worked out for you? What resolutions did you make at the beginning of 2018? Were you able to follow through with them? What did you learn about yourself while working toward accomplishing these resolutions? When we...
Tags: Psychology, Habits, Happiness, Mindfulness, Self-help, Self-esteem, New Year's, Personal Growth, Health-related, Success & Achievement, Life Change


Feelings Dependent on Responses to Messages

I’ve been having problems lately controlling my patience and emotions over whether or not someone replies to my text messages/emails. All started a few months ago I was catching up with a friend over text. As she had recent success with relationships, while I have been struggling with interpersonal relationships in recent times, I reached out to ask her opinion over what positive qualities she saw in me, as I’ve done with my close friends and family to combat my self-esteem problems, because she...
Tags: Psychology, General, Communication, Depression, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Resilience, Social Anxiety, Impatience, Text Messaging, Unstable Relationships, CBT


I Believe I Have Nuances of BPD

I believe I have nuances of bpd, or emotionally unstable personality disorder having reflected on my life relationships and doing some of the tests. I would like to find out if I can do dialectic therapy by reading books in dialectic therapy. really my question is, to help myself as I am more aware of the way I feel, I can read books or watching videos, or if there is such a thing as distance learning dialectic therapy.or if you think that improvement on these personality disorders can only be a...
Tags: Psychology, UK, General, Bipolar, Therapy, Borderline, Borderline Personality Disorder, Self-esteem, Personality, Bpd, Group Therapy, Bibliotherapy


The Nightmare of a False Accusation

You’re at a restaurant and your partner accuses you of being attracted to a man or woman sitting nearby. There has been distance in your relationship and your partner accuses you of having an affair. You’re late for a date and you’re accused of being irresponsible. Hearing such things, you’re left reeling and feel powerless to respond.   Some accusations are more consequential than others. Being falsely accused of a crime is an Orwellian nightmare of unimaginable proportions. The rate of wrongf...
Tags: Psychology, General, Marriage, Relationships, Communication, Self-help, Self-esteem, Trauma, Infidelity, United States, New York New York, Don, Chicago Tribune, Grisham, Catlett, False Accusations


I Think I Am Pushing My Fiancee Away

I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years and we are engaged. We just moved into a house together a year ago and are planning for a family. Unfortunately, following a few stressful life events, I have lost interest in my partner almost wholly. I want to make one thing clear – I still love him and would do anything to make this work, but have this terrible fear it’s irreversible. When he comes on to me I am repulsed. I feel like I’m frozen, as if my body is unable to make any type of physical conne...
Tags: Psychology, General, Marriage, Sex, Relationships, Anxiety, Self-esteem, Personality, Intimacy, Engagement, Commitment