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Paranoid Partner

Hi, I have been knowing my SO for a year now, I like to believe that we have a great connection. He has told me in the beginning that he has trust issues and have a hard time letting people into his life. He doesn’t have many friends and he prefers to be home on his own which at first I had no problem with because I am a homebody myself. However, after a while, I noticed he had intimacy issues which then rose quite a few problems within our relationship. He distances himself quite often, becomes...
Tags: General, Paranoia, Anxiety, Therapy, Illegal drugs/alcohol abuse, Intimacy, Dating, Psychosis, Delusions, Childhood Trauma, Delusional Thoughts, Boundaries, Trigger, Decompensate


Conflict in the Family

So my question is this: My family is not communicating effectively. So l would love it if we embarked on family therapy. But the issue is we live in different countries. So is it possible to use two therapists who are similar in style of therapy to counsel the family. I’m not certain that I fully understand your question. In that case, I can only offer general advice. It makes sense to consult therapists who live in your respective county’s. Logistically, that would be the easiest approach. Cros...
Tags: Family, Communication, Therapy, Family Conflict, Family Therapy, Family Argument


How Can I Go to Therapy When I Can’t Talk to People?

From a young woman in the U.S.: My social anxiety is so bad that I always have trouble talking to people, no matter if they’re my friends or not. Most of my friends are people I met online so that’s not an issue, but even texting them can be difficult for me. I’m just scared that I’ll say something annoying, or stupid, or wrong, or hurt someone’s feelings. In school I have easily gone through days without saying a word. After I graduated high school I was finally able to go to the doctor with my...
Tags: General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Social Anxiety, Entering therapy


My Daughter Is Very Explosive, Angry with Us & Other Family Over Mistakes of Others That Are Innocent

My daughter has been in a volatile marriage for about 10 years. there is verbal and emotional abuse from each of them (husband and wife) and little we can do to intervene. she is extremely volatile and angry over her life and lashing out at anyone who offends her including me and other family members. we have always been very close as a family so this kind of behavior is not the norm. we have had issues in the past, but this is intensified as I believe she is reflecting on her life–I believe she...
Tags: Family, Therapy, Anger Management, Abuse, Family Therapy, Domestic Violence, Emotional Abuse, Spousal abuse, Violence, Family Argument, Verbal Abuse, Victim Mentality, Family Discord


How Do I Help My Distressed Adult Daughter?

From Australia: My daughter is in her early 30s. She is married and lives overseas. We were a family of three children and two parents until when she was 9 years old. She is the middle child. Owing to domestic violence I had to take the children and move out and begin life anew. The four of us had a very challenging family life post separation, cos of deep seated attachment issues of my youngest son who was adopted. When he turned 16 he moved into a half way home. He is 25 and settled now, but r...
Tags: Family, London, General, Australia, Therapy, Anger Management, Couples Counseling, Parenting & Children, Trauma, Family Therapy, Family Argument, Family Schism, Don, Arguing, Grudges


What Can I Do to Help My Father When We Suspect My Mother Has Factitious Disorder?

What can I do if I suspect my mother has factitious disorder; she has, for many years, exaggerated sickness when lacking attention, persisted in problems to get possibly unnecessary surgery ( from which she inexplicably has difficulty or never recovers from), and most recently seriously mis-manages her type 2 diabetes. As example, recently when my sister, father and myself were away seeing to the needs of my grandmother who was very ill and eventually passed away, we received a call from a neigh...
Tags: Family, Diabetes, Therapy, Self Harm, Hypochondriasis, Attention Seeking, National Alliance, Factitious Disorder


Follow Up: My Boyfriend Has A Baby From A Past Girlfriend

On 2009-09-07 someone asked a question with the title “My Boyfriend Has A Baby From A Past Girlfriend” It was answered by Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP. I’m in the same predicament (if not worse) and can relate to how she felt. It’s been 9 years since that was posted, and was wondering if there was someway to follow up. How did her life turn out? I keep on wondering how my life will end up if I were to stay in my current relationship. Would I ruin my life? The post you referred to is l...
Tags: Psychology, General, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Parenting & Children, Daniel J Tomasulo


How Do I Handle Social Anxiety?

From a teen boy in India: my life stuck at a same wheel trap where there is no way just to only revolve so, I thought lets just train myself to be perfect in that . I am social anxious person can’t talk to people outside, can’t go out a lot I always think people would eat me its hard for me to go out and live life like others do I am so insecure about my looks my talk my attitude can’t get rid of it .. So much anxiety, depression. I am only 17 years old and i am balding. it hurts me to see me li...
Tags: General, India, Anxiety, Therapy, Social Anxiety


About Myself Worrying about Someone Whom I Don’t Have Any Connection

This started last year (18.12.2017) ,I heard through my friend that this particular person died I don’t know about him I had no relationship with him. I never even talked to him, I never had a date with him, I never even know about him. But his death shocked me I cried day and night I couldn’t eat I went into depression I began to cry for no reason. I just couldn’t forget him. The thing I want to know is why am I affected to this level when I don’t even have any kind of relationship with him. Th...
Tags: Death, Grief, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Grieving, Mortality, Shock


Sexual Abuse?

I have a question for you. I come from a very dysfunctional family. There is a history of alcoholism and sexual deviancy and abuse throughout both sides of my parents’ lineage. My question is this: Do you consider what happened to me to be sexual abuse? My father would sleep with me in bed with him for years. He would put his hands down my pants and hold my bare bottom and put his hands between my thighs (as if to warm them). This is how we would “snuggle up and prepare to go to sleep” every nig...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Personality, Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Childhood Trauma, Alcoholism, Vietnam, Sexual Trauma


How Do I Deal with My Toxic Mother?

From a young woman in Macedonia: Hello. I would like to ask you how to deal with my mother who is always negative. First of all I must say that she is a good person and would never hurt me. However she has always been a very negative person which affects me really bad. Since I was a child,she has always been crying about her small health, financial and any other issue she would have. I’ve always lived in fear that something bad will happen,that she will die,that we are destined to be an unhappy ...
Tags: Family, General, Despair, Depression, Therapy, Parenting & Children, Macedonia, Don, Toxic Parent, Toxic Family


Internal Voices that Make Me Hit Myself or Do Certain Things

It’s been a year since I’ve been getting these thoughts (they aren’t external). But recently they have been getting more and more violent. They make me hit myself or I will jerk my head and scream “no” when the voice decides to bother me. Usually it will make me do things, or else something bad will happen. Other times it will make me hurt myself. These thoughts give me horrible anxiety but I’ve never gotten actual mental health. My brother is already in therapy from our traumatic experiences, b...
Tags: Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Self Harm, Hearing Voices, School Guidance Counselor


I Have the Desire for Something Horrible to Happen to Me

At 14 my life is easy but sometimes I have fantasies of either getting into an accident (or just getting injured to the point of being hospitalized ) or losing everything I have, including the people I love. I have no suicidal thoughts nor have I ever self-harmed, I’m not very confident in myself but I don’t hate myself . The problem is I imagine these scenarios so often and in so much detail that I bring myself tears. I’m worried that these thoughts could become something destructive. Thank you...
Tags: Psychology, England, General, Fantasy, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Self-esteem, Teen Issues, Suicidal Thoughts, Personality, Violence, Phobia, Suicidal Ideation


Are Casual Suicidal Thoughts Normal?

From a teen in Venezuela: So, the thing is… I have occasional suicidal thoughts that kinda have been going on and off since I a child, but since I’ve been more stressed lately they’d become more frequent. I wasn’t a depressed child (quite the contrary tbh), but I blamed myself for my parents’ constant arguing (I did till the end of middle school) and every time they fought I would wonder/believe if I hadn’t been born they would have been happy without me and I tried to smother myself a couple of...
Tags: School, General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Suicidal Thoughts, University, Venezuela, Self Worth, Self Esteem, Suicidal Ideation


Do I Need Professional Help?

From a teen in the U.S.: I’m very anxious all the time and I overthink things a lot. I often get so anxious that I start shaking and I’m really on edge, and I lose track of things. I’ll snap at people when I don’t mean to because I’m freaked out. I sometimes get panic attacks that cause me to miss events or bail and hide. Some of my friends have suggested I seek therapy, none of them are mental health professionals. I wonder if maybe I’m blowing my problems out of proportion, or maybe I’m just n...
Tags: General, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Self Esteem, Entering therapy


Conflicts in Dating a Single Dad

I am in a situation where I have been the patient understanding partner but am at a point where I am considering leaving the relationship because of the kid. I think first is the issue of discipline. My partner, to me, is very inconsistent in his discipline being simultaneously too harsh and lenient (ex. “I’m going to get my belt if you don’t listen and I am not giving you anything to eat, now come here and give me a hug. Want to watch TV?”). I do not directly address this in disagreement but he...
Tags: Psychology, Family, General, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Personality, Parenting & Children, Dating, Single Parent, Insensitivity, Single Father


I Have Constant Noises in My Head

From a young man in Nepal: My brain is active all the time and has to either listen to all the subtle noises happening around and decipher their rhythms, or remember past memories and audio samples, sometimes on loop. I often get irritated by my my family members who I otherwise adore and are great people and I love them and behave well most of the times. When I wake up in the morning, I feel so sad about myself and the wretchedly unproductive day I’ll have to spend because everything is so inde...
Tags: General, Depression, Anxiety, Medical issues, Therapy, Medication related questions, Intrusive Thoughts, Nepal, Auditory Hallucinations, Hearing Things, David Burns Dr Burns


I Feel Like I Want Everybody around Me to Feel Bad

I feel like I want everybody around me to feel bad and suffer and I want myself to suffer just because I feel bad about. It happens when I get upset about something, (or I choose to be upset about it). and what really happens is that inside me I get this deep urge to do things that either hurt me or hurt others around me, it’s like I feel spite towards others and towards myself. I don’t know if it is a call for attention or just an ego act, but I feel it a lot lately and at some point, it is bot...
Tags: Psychology, General, Displacement, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Violence, Resentment, Anger, Lebanon, Self Esteem, Projection, Spitefulness


Best Friend Suddenly Hates Me

My best friend and I are extremely close. I have OCD, an eating disorder, depression and anxiety. She has depression and anxiety. About two weeks ago she suddenly stopped talking to me. I apologized profusely for whatever I had done. She then said I hadn’t done anything wrong but that she didn’t like my personality and that I made her uncomfortable. This obviously hurt me and I asked what she was talking about. She proceeded to insult me and has not talked to me since. Every time I try to talk t...
Tags: Psychology, General, Relationships, Teenagers, Mental Health, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Friendships, OCD, Adolescence


My Husband Comes Home Drunk

From Canada: My husband of 9 years has, in the last 3 months or so, increased his partying. On 7 different occasions he has gone out with single/divorced “friends” and come home stumbling at 4 am. I have respectfully asked him to stop as this is starting to bother me. The last time he went out, he didnt even tell me where he went and who with. I called him 10 times at 1:30 am and he sent me a text at 4:11 am saying he didnt see my calls. He then came home at 4:45 am, drunk. I am so hurt and upse...
Tags: Family, General, Marriage, Relationships, Therapy, Self-esteem, Illegal drugs/alcohol abuse, Domestic Violence, Canada, Alcoholism, Alcohol Abuse, Mid Life Crisis


Mood Swings & Depression After Sexual Issues in Past Relationship

I don’t know whats wrong with me. I was a virgin when I met my ex-husband. Our sex life was bad. He treated me badly outside of sex. He was critical and yelled at me and threatened to leave me. Sexually, he pressured me to do things I didn’t want to do-doggy style and anal sex. I agreed because he pressured me so much and would guilt trip me and tell me he wouldn’t do things I liked if I didn’t agree to do those. Those two things hurt me, and I would tell him, but he wouldn’t stop. Is there some...
Tags: Sexual Assault, Sex, Depression, Ptsd, Therapy, Abuse, Trauma, Spousal Rape, Sexual Abuse, Mood Swings, Posttraumatic Stress


My Husband Keeps Confusing Me

I am newly married from India. My problem is that my husband keeps misleading my understanding and make me confuse everything, and he is leaving me in that confusion by hurting me. Now I am in a situation where am not able to take any decision. I am stressed out with the confusion. I am feeling tension whenever the confusion created to security kind of issues. And he closed all the doors to know about the confusion. regarding Misleading my understand, Suppose if two persons have same name having...
Tags: General, Marriage, Bullying, India, Confusion, Paranoia, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Manipulation, Controlling Behavior, Learned Helplessness, Self Doubt, Gaslighting


Can Frequent Partying Cause Anxiety?

From Finland: In the last year or so, I’ve been partying more than usual. I have not been drinking daily or medicating anxiety with alcohol (I have a history of anxiety), only on friday OR saturday (never both), but definitely drinking more than is healthy. Put it this way: there have been fairly few weekends over the last 6 months where I have been sober all the way through. My hangovers tend to be really bad. I have noticed in the past that sometimes, the day after a hangover, my anxiety tends...
Tags: General, Anxiety, Therapy, Illegal drugs/alcohol abuse, Social Life, Finland, Alcoholism, Alcohol Abuse, Partying, University Of North Carolina, Medical School, Addiction Recovery


How Can I Determine if My 20-Year-Old Daughter Slept with My 39-Year-Old Partner?

My daughter recently moved into my home and shortly after I started to have problems with my boyfriend I feel like he was cheeting on me, then he got an std which thank God i didn’t get it we were not having sexist the time he rejects me all the time . So anyways I left my phone recording one morning while I took my other kids to school .. it was just to hear if called someone he was cheeting with to my surprise I hear him with a. Girl getting pleasure and towards the end he said her name and hi...
Tags: Family, Cheating, Relationships, Paranoia, Therapy, Infidelity, Trust Issues


Nostalgia

I’ve noticed that sometimes while I’m watching a video on my phone, someone in the video will say a certain phrase that makes me nauseous and dizzy. This phrase comes up again and again but I can never remember it after. When I try to go back in the videos, the things that make me nauseous were never actually said. What could this be? The fact that the same phrase is coming up, again and again, lets you know that it is likely to be internally generated rather than external. Internally generated ...
Tags: General, Anxiety, Therapy, Personality, Psychosis, Nausea, Nostalgia, Memory & Pereception


My Relationship with My Mother Shattered after Telling her I Hurt Myself

From a teen in the U.S.:  Just before summer vacation my mom and I had gotten into a fight that lasted for hours. It was dumb and it was really just her yelling at me and me crying, aksing her to calm down. Eventually, it became to much and i ran into the bathroom and hurt myself, like I had been doing for months. I would bite my arms so hard they’d bruise, bang my head into the walls, pinched myself, whatever, just never cut. That night she was mad at me for going into the bathroom for so long ...
Tags: Family, General, Depression, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Self Harm, Adolescence, Self Injury, Parentified


How Do I Cope?

From a teen in Indonesia: I am a 19 y.o. female who experiences abuse since childhood (verbally and physically) from my caregiver and was diagnosed with chronic depression. However, I feel like my symptomps are more compatible with C-PTSD. Another disturbing feeling I experienced but not listed in the C-PTSD symptomps is a sense of sadness and loss of momentary joy when I part with my friends. I also feel like though I have friends that (supposedly) dear me, I also feel like I’m alone and can’t ...
Tags: General, Indonesia, Ptsd, Therapy, Teen Issues, Abuse, Trauma, Domestic Violence, Child Abuse, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, Verbal Abuse, Doubt, South Asia, Worry, DSM


Probably Compulsion

I don’t know if this problem is psychologically related.It’s been almost a year now,and I have been obsessing about certain things.This feeling usually occurs mostly during the holidays.The latest is my obsession about saliva swallowing in my body.I seem to concentrate on it so much that I’m worried that it’s affecting me so much now.I can’t even watch TV comfortably.In the past,I have experienced certain obsessions like my breathing.I seem not to think about these obsessions whenever I am in an...
Tags: Stress, Anxiety, Therapy, Obsessions, Anxiety Disorder, Compulsions


How Therapists Can Become Seat-of-the-Pants Counselors

I have been a therapist for four decades, working in a variety of settings, serving children and adults, individuals, couples, families and groups. My rolodex brain is filled to overflowing with ideas and interventions. Sometimes when I teach Continuing Education Classes for social workers, I am asked to offer more theory. Although I also have that stored in my cranium, I remind them that they can get theory from books. From me they get hands-on practical skills to incorporate into their pract...
Tags: Psychology, Personal, Jimi Hendrix, Therapy, Harry Potter, Psychotherapy, Professional, Matthew, Therapist, NPR National Public Radio, Counseling


My Mom and I Constantly Fight

My mom and I are always fighting. She is constantly telling me how to live my life and that any choices I make are wrong. She always constantly puts down my husband and says the nastiest, most vile things about him and I. I try to talk to her about it but it always ends with her and I yelling at each other and her telling me that I am being disrespectful to her. She has told me multiple times that she wishes she had a different daughter when all I ever try to do is compromise with her and try to...
Tags: Psychology, Family, Usa, General, Fighting, Relationships, Anxiety, Therapy, Anger Management, Personality, Parenting & Children, Family Therapy, Adolescence, Conflict Resolution, Family Arguments