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To Others Who Have Experienced Trauma as Children

Most of us have real anger and suffering living inside us. Perhaps in the past we were oppressed or mistreated, and all that pain is still right there, buried in our store consciousness. We haven’t processed and transformed our relationship with what happened to us and we sit there alone with all that anger, hatred, despair and suffering. If we were abused when were young, every time our thinking mind goes back over that event, it’s like we’re experiencing the abuse all over again. – Thich N...
Tags: Psychology, Senate, Personal, Ptsd, Trauma, Ford, Women's Issues, Children And Teens, Thich Nhat Hahn


Why did my girlfriend leave me when her ex overdosed?

From the U.S.:  I have been dating this girl for about 6 months. She’s been going through a divorce. He was abusive and a drug addict and that’s why she left. They were only married for less than a year before she decided she wanted a divorce. He overdosed on drugs about a week ago. And since then she has been very distant and told me that she just wants to be friends. She said  but it’s messing with her head that she feels like she might have still been in love with. She still wears the ring I ...
Tags: Family, General, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma, Closure, Grief & Loss, Drug Addiction, Overdose


8 Reasons Why Your Depression May Not Be Getting Better

You’ve been to four psychiatrists and tried over a dozen medication combinations. You still wake up with that dreadful knot in your stomach and wonder if you will ever feel better. Some people enjoy a straight path to remission. They get diagnosed. They get a prescription. They feel better. Others’ road to recovery isn’t so linear. It’s full of winding bends and dead-ends. Sometimes it’s entirely blocked. By what? Here are a few impediments to treatment to consider if your symptoms aren’t improv...
Tags: Psychology, General, Sleep, Support, Self-help, Insomnia, Depression, Bipolar, Treatment, Trauma, Johns Hopkins, Medications, Mood Disorder, Johns Hopkins University, Kay Redfield Jamison, National Institute on Drug Abuse NIDA


He Meets Us in the Middle

There’s been a stirring in my spirit since the year began. I think I subconsciously assumed that the trauma of last year would simply disappear the moment the calendar rolled over. Two months in, I’ve discovered that to not be the case. The bulk of the trauma may be over, but I am still dealing with the fallout. And then, 2019 brought its own set of setbacks, causing me a bit of whiplash. I’m very much still in the middle of a mess. I can see victory in the distance, but that distance sometimes ...
Tags: Trust, Inspiration, Trauma, Jesus, Struggle, Middle, Greif, Jesus God, Encouragement, Emmanuel He, God's sovereignty


“Trip of Compassion” — The Most Compelling Movie I’ve Seen In The Last Year

“I felt like I went through 15 years of psychological therapy in one night.”  — Actual patient featured in “Trip of Compassion” This post is about the most compelling movie I’ve seen in the last year. I first watched “Trip of Compassion” about six months ago, when I was sent a link to a private […]
Tags: Maps, Science, Lifestyle, Mental Health, Ptsd, Trauma, Mdma, Psychedelics, Practical Philosophy, MAPS.org, Trip Of Compassion


When I Was Very Small I Had a Dream Where I Was Abused and Remembered It in Detail

When I was around 5 years old (my best guess, I am not exactly sure because used to go to elementary school back then) I dreamt of being tied up and two or three people sexually abused me, in the dream I remember being touched and being asked if it feels good. After waking up, Unlike other dreams I remembered the dream in clear detail to this day, and could not make out of what it was, since at that age I knew nothing about sex. Trying to realise what it meant at the age of 12 it made sense when...
Tags: Memory, Therapy, Abuse, Trauma, Childhood Trauma, Child Sex Abuse, Repressed Memories, Remembering, Trauma Therapy, Buddhist


7 Ways to Help a Child Deal with Traumatic Stress

Life is stressful. That’s a fact. To grow and learn we must try new things. Struggling, prevailing, and tolerating failures along the way builds confidence and the deep feeling in a child that “I can do it.” But the positive aspects of struggle and stress are lost when the amount of stress becomes too great and/or sustained. Persistent and long-lasting stress on the mind and body caused by overwhelming emotions leads to traumatic stress, a condition characterized by a nervous system in ove...
Tags: Psychology, Students, Immigration, Ptsd, Trauma, Childhood Trauma, Child Sex Abuse, Children And Teens, Attachment Theory, John Bowlby, Play Therapy, Emotional Expression, Posttraumatic Stress, Hypervigilant, Polyvagal theory, Ways to Help


Am I Reacting to My Past or am I Just Being a Teenager?

From a teen in the U.S.:  I recently have begun to notice that my behavior has become rather strange. One second I could be happy, then next I could be sad, anxious, paranoid, or angry within an instant. I don’t understand how I feel. I’m assuming this begun at a much younger age than now, such as when I was probably ten or maybe eleven. I went through some sexual abuse as a child for 4-5 years (from the ages of 4-9) before it finally ended. And I’m happy to say that everything and everyone is s...
Tags: General, Sex, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Abuse, Trauma, Self Harm, Child Abuse, Mood Swings, Adolescence, Self Injury


Thinking of My Ex While in a New Relationship

I am in a new relationship(5 months). Yet I keep thinking about my ex. It’s been almost 3 years since i broke up with my ex of two years he was my high school sweetheart. We broke up because when i went away to college, he became a little controlling. That caused me to subconsciously move away from him and i started to focus on other men & in the end i cheated. We had a very bad break up and even though i ended things It left me depressed where from time to time i would suddenly burst into tears...
Tags: General, Time, Self-esteem, Personality, Trauma, Intimacy, Dating, Breakups, Heartbreak, Intimacy Issues


I Feel Unreal

I don’t feel like a real human being. I feel fake somehow and not real. It started two years ago when I was hospitalized for schizoaffective disorder. You might be describing depersonalization disorder. People with this disorder have periods when they feel disconnected or detached from their body or thoughts. Some people describe observing themselves from outside their body. It’s not a loss of contact with reality necessarily but rather a disruption in consciousness, awareness or perception of t...
Tags: Anxiety, Therapy, Trauma, Schizophrenia, Depersonalization, Derealization, Psychosis, Dissociation, Depersonalization Disorder


Secrets, Shame & Mental Health

An interesting study published in the journal Emotion this month examines different types of secrets and how we feel about them. In particular, the researchers concentrated on secrets based on feeling shame as well as those rooted in guilt. Michael Slepian, PhD, of Columbia University was the lead author of the study and clarified the difference between shame and guilt, the two most studied self-conscious emotions. While basic emotions such as anger and fear refer to something outsi...
Tags: Psychology, Research, Mental Health, Guilt, Trauma, Columbia University, Shame, Secrets, Stigma, Mental Health And Wellness, Rumination, Slepian, Deceit, Michael Slepian


How Can My Fiance and I Have a Mutually Satisfying Sex Life?

From a teen in the U.S.: I feel like my fiance and I are having issues sexually because our sexual relationship is unbalanced. I will often touch her and go down on her, but she will not do the same for me. She never seems as though she is particularly interested in sex. She used to be more involved in our sex life but she no longer is. Complicating factors include that she is a survivor of rape and we were both raised in strongly Christian households. She is more Christian than I am. We also bo...
Tags: General, Marriage, Sexual Assault, Sex, Relationships, Therapy, Trauma, Dating, Sexuality, Sex Life, Sexual Trauma, Sexual Abuse History


Seasonal Depression

I am happily married, working in a job I enjoy, and by all standards live a regular life. But every year, around the same time (the end of January) I become severely depressed. I don’t want to see anyone, I’m not myself at work, I cry all the time, my sleep is affected, and my heart feels likes it’s in overdrive. I don’t think it’s winter blues … cold, clouds and rain don’t bother me generally. It’s very concerning but the feeling goes away in some days. I was having one of these episodes just t...
Tags: Depression, Therapy, Trauma, Seasonal Depression, Subconscious


Does Anxiety Cause PTSD or Does PTSD Cause Anxiety?

“PTSD is a whole-body tragedy, an integral human event of enormous proportions with massive repercussions.” ― Susan Pease Banitt This question came up in conversation when I was speaking with someone who has experienced severe panic attacks to the point of calling them “debilitating”, requiring inpatient care.  As they were sharing about the ordeal, they told me that when they contemplate the time spent seeking treatment and the aftermath, it ramped up both the anxiety and PTSD symptoms...
Tags: Psychology, Personal, Ptsd, Anxiety, Trauma, Relaxation, Psychotherapy, University of Pennsylvania, Anxiety And Panic, Self Care, Breathing Exercise, Martin Seligman, Aromatherapy, Michele, Michele Rosenthal, Rosenthal


Is Your Childhood Blueprint Holding You Back?

Do you find you don’t deal with situations or relationships as successfully as you’d like? Do you feel depressed, anxious, or think negative things about yourself, others or the world? If so, it could be that your blueprint is holding you back. You can think of your blueprint as everything you felt, saw, thought, touch, tasted, laughed or cried at. Millions of experiential data points creating your unique map of how the world works. But a map created before you are cognitively mature enough ...
Tags: Psychology, Childhood, Self-help, Self-esteem, Trauma, Child Development, Muris, Bouwmeester S van der Heijden KB Abee


Special Operations

It started out as a boring day. Sitting in a makeshift hospital situated in an austere and hostile environment at an undisclosed location, Maj. Alexander Le and his fellow Special Operations Surgical Team, or SOST, members welcomed the monotony. After all, a busy day for the members of the surgical team would mean the worst possible day for someone else. Unfortunately, this calm day would soon be met with chaos. jQuery(document).rea...
Tags: Medicine, Iraq, Medical, Training, People, Afghanistan, Trauma, Military, Army, Las Vegas, Birmingham, Air Force, Uab, Miller, University Of Alabama, Le


Is it helpful to talk about past abuse?

Question: Is it helpful to go back and talk about past abuse?Answer: It is to identify the trauma that occured so that the thoughts and feelings about it can be managed. Dr. Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, said that you can either talk it out or act it out. Children act things out all the time and their parents tell them, "Stop crying and use your words."Once the trauma has been identified strategies have to be developed to manage it to diminish or eliminate the influence that it has on on...
Tags: Health, Trauma, Infertility, Freud, David G Markham


Is It Normal to Fixate on a Bad Experience?

From a teen in the U.S.: A few days ago something bad happened. I would rather not go into too much detail but something extremely inappropriate was said to me by a relative who lived with me. I told my parents what happened and the situation was handled. Ever since then, however, any time I try to relax my mind just replays what happened over and over and I make myself anxious and scared.  I begin questioning if it even actually happened, or if maybe I misheard what was said, even though I am p...
Tags: General, Anxiety, Therapy, Teen Issues, Abuse, Trauma, Childhood Trauma, Adolescence, Rumination, Unwanted Thoughts


Parenting advice: 5 supportive gestures remembered by the mnemonic CLICC

Mnemonic CLICC:Comfort: stay calm and patientListen: show interest in their passionInspire: expose them to new ideasCollaborate: ask for their opinionCelebrate: use “put-ups”, “not put-downs” Comfort: stay calm and patientPractice active listening and provide support. For teens: Be present and pay attention to changes in behaviors. Offer validating and reflecting statements to help them label their own emotions when in distress.Practice relaxation techniques such as counting to ten, deep breathi...
Tags: Psychology, Health, Facebook, Parents, Children, Stress, Trauma, Pediatrics, Ves Dimov


How Do I Help My Distressed Adult Daughter?

From Australia: My daughter is in her early 30s. She is married and lives overseas. We were a family of three children and two parents until when she was 9 years old. She is the middle child. Owing to domestic violence I had to take the children and move out and begin life anew. The four of us had a very challenging family life post separation, cos of deep seated attachment issues of my youngest son who was adopted. When he turned 16 he moved into a half way home. He is 25 and settled now, but r...
Tags: Family, London, General, Australia, Therapy, Anger Management, Couples Counseling, Parenting & Children, Trauma, Family Therapy, Family Argument, Family Schism, Don, Arguing, Grudges


Free Webinar: Identifying Past Trauma Responsible for Current Distress

(Please note: This free live webinar will be recorded and a copy made available to all who registered.) Many adult survivors of childhood trauma go through life struggling with both the immediate as well as latent consequences of having been abused, mentally, physically, or sexually. The chaos and unpredictability characteristic of abuse occurring in childhood, especially by someone the adult survivor trusts can leave survivors deficient in their sense of trust, which is a critical component of ...
Tags: Psychology, General, Self-help, Trauma, Domestic Violence, Child Abuse, Webinar, Mental Health And Wellness, Coping, Gabe Howard, Traumatic Experience, Bates Duford, Tarra Bates Duford, Family Matters Counseling Group PLLC


Mood Swings & Depression After Sexual Issues in Past Relationship

I don’t know whats wrong with me. I was a virgin when I met my ex-husband. Our sex life was bad. He treated me badly outside of sex. He was critical and yelled at me and threatened to leave me. Sexually, he pressured me to do things I didn’t want to do-doggy style and anal sex. I agreed because he pressured me so much and would guilt trip me and tell me he wouldn’t do things I liked if I didn’t agree to do those. Those two things hurt me, and I would tell him, but he wouldn’t stop. Is there some...
Tags: Sexual Assault, Sex, Depression, Ptsd, Therapy, Abuse, Trauma, Spousal Rape, Sexual Abuse, Mood Swings, Posttraumatic Stress


How Do I Cope?

From a teen in Indonesia: I am a 19 y.o. female who experiences abuse since childhood (verbally and physically) from my caregiver and was diagnosed with chronic depression. However, I feel like my symptomps are more compatible with C-PTSD. Another disturbing feeling I experienced but not listed in the C-PTSD symptomps is a sense of sadness and loss of momentary joy when I part with my friends. I also feel like though I have friends that (supposedly) dear me, I also feel like I’m alone and can’t ...
Tags: General, Indonesia, Ptsd, Therapy, Teen Issues, Abuse, Trauma, Domestic Violence, Child Abuse, Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, Verbal Abuse, Doubt, South Asia, Worry, DSM


How Stress Affects Your Memory

The relationship between stress and memory is complex. A little bit of stress can enhance your ability to encode, store, and retrieve factual information. Too much stress, however, can shut the system down. You may have had this experience studying for a test. A moderate amount of anxiety is motivating and will help you perform better. Too much on the other hand, especially while taking the actual test, can prevent you from recalling what you know. The experience of trauma and chronic stress ...
Tags: Psychology, Energy, Memory, Stress, Trauma, Anxiety And Panic, Memory And Perception, Journal of Neuroscience, Bremner, Zhuo C Lang X Li H Qin W Yu, Nestler


The Nightmare of a False Accusation

You’re at a restaurant and your partner accuses you of being attracted to a man or woman sitting nearby. There has been distance in your relationship and your partner accuses you of having an affair. You’re late for a date and you’re accused of being irresponsible. Hearing such things, you’re left reeling and feel powerless to respond.   Some accusations are more consequential than others. Being falsely accused of a crime is an Orwellian nightmare of unimaginable proportions. The rate of wrongf...
Tags: Psychology, General, Marriage, Relationships, Communication, Self-help, Self-esteem, Trauma, Infidelity, United States, New York New York, Don, Chicago Tribune, Grisham, Catlett, False Accusations


Immensely Disturbed by Violence in Media

Recently, a friend went on about how much she enjoyed horror films. I’ve always hated them, but found myself unusually disturbed by her enthusiastic interest. It wasn’t that I was scared or found such movies gross, I simply cannot cope with the fact she could gleefully watch people die in horrific ways. This spread beyond the horror genre, to the point I completely stopped watching movies or shows and playing games, or really indulging in anything, that featured violence or death in any way. I u...
Tags: Psychology, Media, Anxiety, Trauma, Violence, Horror Movies


All things: deep healing for trauma, body/mind and soul

As I continue to heal the wounding that brought me to my knees at this time last year, this poem arose to meet the anniversary of my near death. It is all a journey to heal the trauma held within the body that heals the mind and soul too. We are one holistic being and everything matters:
Tags: Health, Mental Health, Healing, Trauma, Transformation, Infertility


Can a Problem Be Both Physical and Psychological?

From the U.S.: I’ve suffered with anxiety for as long as I can remember. I had a rough childhood which included sexual and mental abuse. I’ve always coped well, for the most part. About 5 years ago I started having severe body aches and pains along with chronic fatigue. This also started about the same time I gained employment with an employer that put a great amount of stress on me. I’ve since been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, a paralyzed vocal cord, 100% loss of smell...
Tags: General, Ptsd, Treatment, Anxiety, Medical issues, Therapy, Trauma, Silence, Social Anxiety, Mutism


New Video: Meek Mill “Trauma”

Now with his second No. 1 album added to the personal accolades, Meek Mill is now rolling out music videos in support of CHAMPIONSHIPS. After a visual for the “Intro” earlier this month, the Dreamchaser returns with one for the Mobb Deep-sampled “Trauma.” Co-starring his son, Meek Mill gives the kid a reality check to the harsh and unforgiving street life. The video premieres hours after GQ debuted their latest episode of Actually Me, where Meek goes undercover answering fan questions on Twit...
Tags: Videos, Interviews, Nicki Minaj, Trauma, Jazz, Drake, Gq, Meek Mill, Meek, Twitter Facebook YouTube, Trauma Co


Where Can I Get Help for My Feelings?

From a young woman in Nigeria: My parents got separated when I was 11. And for some strange reason there was a lot of pressure on me to fix the situation from pretty much everyone minus my dad (saying that we were really close and he would listen to me). Due to the situation, I really didn’t come to terms with the situation and didn’t deal with it well, most of my time spent in boarding school was spent crying and I did go through a period of cutting(self-harm). Basically I didn’t know who to ta...
Tags: Family, General, Suicide, Nigeria, Divorce, Depression, Therapy, Parenting & Children, Trauma, Family Abuse