Posts filtered by tags: Values[x]


 

Receiving Big Love

In yesterday’s post I wrote about expressing and exploring Big Love. Now let’s consider the receiving side. Be receptive to other people’s expression of love, even when it’s not individually directed to you. Allow yourself to feel gratitude and appreciation for the gifts that other people share with the world, as if those gifts were meant for you personally. Can you allow yourself to receive the love expressed in these expressions? An actor’s performanceA song that moves youProducts you...
Tags: Careers, Values, Emotions, Steve, Don, Abundance


Big Love

Loving another person is one form of love, but you can also love a grand purpose or vision that doesn’t directly involve loving a specific person. By expressing love at the individual level, you may make another person happier. But by channeling love into an expression of purpose, you may delight or inspire a great many people, even well beyond your lifetime. Consider the creation of Star Wars, a grand labor of love for George Lucas. Or consider the love energy that Walt Disney poured into Disne...
Tags: Careers, Values, Emotions, George Lucas, Walt Disney, Steve, Don


NaNoWriMo – Days 13-15

We’re halfway through NaNoWriMo 2020, and my novel is now at 26,344 words. Since this is the halfway point – with 50K words in 30 days being the goal – I should be at 25K words now, so I’m 1344 words ahead. I think it was a wise decision to get ahead of the 1667 words per day pacing and then to pad that lead by a small amount each day, so I always feel like I’m ahead of schedule. Many people get behind on their desired pacing and end up having to write 10-20K words in the last few days ...
Tags: Lifestyle, Careers, Values, Steve, Robert McKee


Desperation Loyalty

Desperation loyalty is remaining loyal to a group or identity based on neediness or clinginess, often in violation more important values. It is a place of stuckness that elevates loyalty to others above the commitment to grow. It’s relatively easy to spot this in other people. It’s harder to spot this in ourselves. If you pursue a strong and centered path of personal growth for many years, you will outgrow many friends and social groups along the way. That’s a normal part of a life of grow...
Tags: Relationships, Careers, Values, Steve


Is the Republican Brand Dying?

There’s a lot of talk about how supporting Trump may take down the Republican party. Perhaps that remains to be seen, but I wanted to do a little test within my own mind to see what I associate to each of these terms today, at least from a branding perspective. I was curious how the past four years may have influenced what I associate with the word Republican. Before Trump came onto the political scene, I tended to regard Republicans as mostly harmless but also patriotic, religious, and moral...
Tags: Facebook, Usa, Careers, Values, Republican Party, Biden, Donald Trump, Steve, Trump, Biden Biden, Enron Weinstein Monsanto, Susie Lee DemocratDan Rodimer


Does the USA Need to Heal Now?

In my extended social circle, some people are calling for unity and healing now that Joe Biden will be the next President. Others aren’t so sure that healing is really what’s needed. The offer basically sounds like this: It’s time to repair the wounded relationships between the people who supported a lying, racist sociopath path for President and those who wanted to replace him. That’s a crappy offer. It doesn’t land well. The most airy-fairy people I know seem to be swallowing it and t...
Tags: Usa, Obama, Relationships, White House, Careers, Values, Joe Biden, Fox News, Nevada, Biden, Steve, Trump, Nutter, USA Need


5 key ways indie brokers can be competitive in recruiting agents

In order to compete with big franchise names when recruiting, independent brokers must stand out from the pack — here's how.
Tags: Small Businesses, Values, Radio, Portland, Volunteering, Fargo, Denver, Louisville, Community Outreach, Brokerage, Select, Living Room Realty, Community Involvement, Agent Recruiting, Indie Broker, Indie Brokerages


Obedience Test Results

Four days ago I posted a simple obedience test. I’m still getting more responses each day, but it looks like the patterns have become clear enough to share what I’ve learned thus far. The basic idea was that I commanded people who read that post to read 5 more articles from my website on that same day and then to send me feedback about their experience. They could choose to obey the command or not. Why the Obedience Test? It was a simple idea that popped into my mind at the time, and ...
Tags: Productivity, Relationships, Careers, Siri, Values, Dad, Steve, Alexa


Lying

Why do some people lie? One reason is that they don’t trust the receiver. They may be worried about a negative reaction to the truth. That’s an obvious answer but not really the deepest one. Perhaps a better answer is that a person lies to control the receiver. By withholding the truth and sharing something else instead, you can semi-control people’s responses – or so you might assume. So in that sense, lying is a form of manipulation. The deeper trust issue could be framed as a lack of...
Tags: Careers, Values, Catholic Church, Steve


I Voted for the First Time Ever

I mailed in my ballot on Friday. This is the first political election I’ve ever participated in. Here’s the first question filled out (not a difficult one): Voting for Biden / Harris for President was the only sane option given how hideous the other candidates are. You may not even recognize two of the candidates on the list since they’re running with much smaller parties, and they’re far from popular – for good reason I’d say. Don Blankenship is a former coal company CEO who s...
Tags: California, Careers, Values, Nevada, Steve, Trump, National Rifle Association, Don Blankenship, Abundance, Creating Reality, Biden Harris, Jo Jorgensen


How to Figure Out Whether Your Values Align With a Prospective Employer's

So you’ve the hit the point in your job search when you’re asked to interview with a prospective employer. Considering how many applications are either ignored, or filtered out before they make it in front of an actual human, getting an interview is itself a win. Read more...
Tags: Values, Job Search, Job Interviews, Lifehacks


Be a Voter

Which is better? To encourage someone to vote or to encourage them to be a voter? If you want the person to actually vote, encourage them to be a voter. It’s been found that this framing is more likely to lead to action. If you’d like to strengthen a behavior, weave it into your identity. And if you’d like to change someone else’s behavior, encourage them towards an identity change that includes that behavior. Use this framing with yourself too. Don’t just get up early. Be an early r...
Tags: Productivity, Lifestyle, Careers, Values, Steve, Don


Defining Your Own Spiritual Path

Have you ever connected with someone who had strong preconceived notions about what your spiritual path should look like? Apparently there’s a rulebook for being spiritual, and you have to satisfy certain criteria for how you’re supposed to think, feel, and behave in order to consider yourself a spiritual person. You got the memo summarizing those rules, right? Being spiritual is a label and lens. But it’s not the same lens for everyone. We all assign different meanings to what it means to...
Tags: Relationships, Lifestyle, Careers, Values, Steve, Yossarian, Creating Reality


A Positive Development

When I heard that Trump had contracted the coronavirus, my first thought was the word good. This feels like a much-needed positive development for humanity and the world. It likely means fewer deaths, less suffering, and less time in pandemic mode – and perhaps less stupidity from him and his minions. So I see it as good news. While some people wish Trump and his wife a speedy recovery, I honestly don’t. I’m sending healing vibes and positive intentions to the virus inside him, not to h...
Tags: Careers, Values, Emotions, Steve, Trump


The Relationship Frame

One interesting frame shared in the book The Courage to Be Disliked is: All problems are interpersonal relationship problems. That isn’t necessarily a true statement, but you can think of it as a lens for viewing problems. Personally I think it’s a bit exaggerated as far as lenses go. I prefer a similar but more flexible one: All problems, challenges, and situations can be framed as relationships. Not everything translates well to an interpersonal relationship, but you can translate any si...
Tags: Lifestyle, Careers, Values, Jupiter, Venus, Steve, Abundance, Creating Reality


Sliding Bad Habits Into Good Ones

As a follow-up to yesterday’s post on Honoring Your Hidden Goals, consider that hidden goals are similar to hidden habits. In each case the hidden aspect means that some part of you is finding a way to meet a need or desire that you’re not necessarily acknowledging. When you identify hidden habits, you can also trace them back to their needs and desires, and then you can devise more deliberate ways to satisfy those desires. It’s likely you have some habits you may identify as bad or proble...
Tags: Productivity, Lifestyle, Careers, Values, Steve, Don


Honoring Your Hidden Goals

When you look back on the past calendar quarter, consider what you actually got done, even if your actions and behaviors didn’t align well with your stated goals. Your time went somewhere, so where did it actually go? Use the lens of seeing everything you did as an accomplishment, even if your main achievement was watching Game of Thrones. Instead of beating yourself up for what you didn’t do, take a deeper look at what you did do. So then your achievements might actually look like: Wat...
Tags: Productivity, Facebook, Careers, Values, Harry Potter, Steve, Adriene, Facebook Exercise


Checking in With Death

The title may sound morbid, but it can be a powerful personal growth practice to pause and ask yourself now and then: Am I ready to die yet? If I’m not ready to die today, what’s missing? What feels incomplete? Then give some real thought to these questions, such as by journaling about them. What will it take to feel that you’ve finished this life? What more do you need to do, say, achieve, or experience? These questions can point you in the direction of meaningful goals. They can...
Tags: Usa, Lifestyle, Careers, Values, Steve


Serving Beyond Yourself

You could consider this a follow-up to one of last week’s posts: Are You Most Loyal to Purpose or People? I want to share another way of framing the mindset of being loyal to purpose ahead of people, especially for those who’d prefer to shift into greater loyalty to purpose. Putting purpose first isn’t dehumanizing if you frame it a certain way – if your purpose actually involves serving people. If, however, your purpose is mainly self-centered, like if it’s based on individual achievem...
Tags: Careers, Values, Steve, Abundance


Are You Most Loyal to Purpose or People?

Where is your greatest loyalty – to your purpose or to specific people in your life? This is an interesting character sculpting choice, isn’t it? If you remain loyal to the people in your life, your alignment with your purpose will be weaker. When you have a conflict between people and purpose, you’ll stick with the people and allow some misalignments with your purpose. For example, if your purpose is focused on personal growth, but you’re loyal to the people in your life above and beyo...
Tags: Twitter, Relationships, Careers, Values, Steve


Do Nice Zombies Make Worthwhile Friends?

Some people have asked me why I don’t engage with Trump supporters, try to understand them better, invite deep conversations with them, or something along those lines. I think it’s a valid question, and the answer is simple: I don’t see any real potential in such relationships. For me they all land somewhere on a scale that spans from dumb to dumber to dumbest. It’s not the people that are the issue per se, but the behavior pattern of supporting Trump during this time is so rotten to the core...
Tags: Relationships, Lifestyle, Careers, Values, Steve, Trump, Don, Cary Elwes, Wisconsin Democratic Party, Abundance, Creating Reality


Becoming More Resilient

Develop long-term resilience to quickly bounce back from setbacks.
Tags: Productivity, Video, Lifestyle, Careers, Values, Emotions


Fragile Objections

Suppose you’re sitting in a Toastmasters meeting where members are practicing their speaking skills. Suppose there are about 20 members in the room, which would be pretty typical for a Toastmasters club. Now suppose you hear a fellow member give a speech that you find objectionable, and it bothers you to hear such words spoken within your club. The topic is permitted within the club though. What do you do? Do you stay quiet and keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself? Do you voic...
Tags: Relationships, Careers, Values, Steve, Abundance, Creating Reality


Racism and Self-Interest

Last week I finished the book How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi. It gave me a lot to ponder, especially the frame that racism stems from self-interest. There were some chapters sharing how racism links up with sexism, anti-LGBTQ stances, and other social justice issues. How this links up with animal rights was glaringly obvious since people claim entitlement to animals’ bodies for reasons of self-interest too. The main value I got from the book was increased awareness of two areas: ra...
Tags: Careers, Values, Donald Trump, Steve, Trump, Ibram


To build responsibly, tech needs to do more than just hire chief ethics officers

Sarah Drinkwater Contributor Share on Twitter Sarah Drinkwater works to fuel the responsible tech movement through her role as director at Omidyar Network. In the last couple of years, we’ve seen new teams in tech companies emerge that focus on responsible innovation, digital well-being, AI ethics or humane use. Whatever their titles, these individuals are given the task of “leading” ethics at their companies. Whether they’ve ...
Tags: Facebook, Column, Opinion, Tech, Values, Diversity, Artificial Intelligence, Philosophy, Salesforce, Philanthropy, Business Ethics, Omidyar Network, Sarah Drinkwater, Alix Dunn, Ethics Of Technology, Computer Says Maybe


Will You Ring the Bell?

During Navy SEALs training, which is really tough, recruits can quit by ringing a bell three times. Then they get a shower and a hot meal, and they’re done with the struggle. No more physical ordeals. No more being wet and sandy. No more sleep deprivation. And no more opportunity to be part of a SEAL team. Afterwards the recruits who quit can offer up any reasons they want, but it doesn’t matter in terms of results. They’ve demonstrated that they will give up on the team, so the team gr...
Tags: Relationships, Lifestyle, Careers, Values, Steve


Behaviors, Consequences, and Alignment

By supporting Trump a person supports: Racist ideas and policiesSexist ideas and policiesXenophobic ideas and policiesAnti-science ideas and policiesAnti-environment ideas and policiesMassive amounts of outright lying (20K+ false and misleading statements in 3.5 years)Massive amounts of incompetenceTreasonous collusionDirect election interferenceTweeting instead of leadingTons of utter bullshit that could easily populate a list 100x longer Even if someone would otherwise be a 10 out of 10 ...
Tags: Relationships, Careers, Values, Fox News, Steve, Trump, Stephen Covey, Supporting Trump


Fragile vs Resilient Relationships

My relationship with Rachelle is very anti-fragile. Even when one or both of us is at our worst or when there’s a lot of turmoil going on around us, there’s little risk to our relationship. We can say or do the stupidest things, and we still stick like glue. We have plenty of freedom to express different aspects of our personalities, to explore different values, and to make significant career or lifestyle changes, and we can still stick together through it all. It’s hard to find a vulnerable ...
Tags: Relationships, Careers, Values, Steve, Rachelle, Creating Reality


Framing Yourself Into a Corner

It’s good to be aware of the potential risk of framing yourself into a corner when you’re faced with a tricky situation. Suppose you’re in a relationship, and you catch your partner kissing someone else. How do you frame that situation? It may depend on the details of course, like the type of kiss or which person was being kissed. Suppose it’s a bit ambiguous though and that you have some different ways of looking at it. Maybe it was just a friendly kiss. Maybe it’s a sign of something dee...
Tags: Careers, Values, Steve, Creating Reality


Stamped From the Beginning

Today I finished Ibram X. Kendi’s book Stamped From the Beginning, which is about the history of racist ideas in the USA. I found it insightful and eye-opening, and it gave me some meaningful perspective shifts on racism. I’m glad I read this book after White Fragility because the former book was much more lightweight, a very basic starter book compared to the scope and depth of Stamped From the Beginning. In particular I found it illuminating to consider that racist ideas ultimately arise...
Tags: Usa, Obama, Relationships, Careers, Values, Steve, Trump, Ibram X Kendi